BLuvv Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 Ever since I found out there was someone else in the picture I cannot get him or her out of my head. It makes me sick and disgusted and depressed. I feel so replaced. I mean she is physically so similar to me it is eerie. I especially don't want to think of her anymore, I feel like she replaced me and it hurts like hell. I hate her and I don't even know her. I have been keeping so busy at work today, but the thoughts still intrude. I hate this. How do I make it stop??!
Mcnulty Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 Am going through the exact same thing, except she is with my "friend"!! It's awful I know. I keep picturing them together and laughing.....destroys my hope for the future at the mo. The hurt and sense of betrayal is perfectly natural, we've been replaced...does not mean they are a better model/person, they're just giving the ex the same feelings we gave them at the start of the relationship...people are fickle and egocentric...we have to rise above this **** and hold our heads high. we got there first, they chose us before them...what's to say they miss us? They may or may not, but f-ck em is what I say...spoiled goods they are!!!
BL2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 I agree! Spoiled goods they really are and not worth our time or energy thinking of them. BUT, easier said than done . I am sitting here, almost a year later saying WTF really happened?!? He too, left me for someone similar to myself, moved her in his home and they are still together. I sat for the longest time saying, it will get old, they will get tired of each other, but the truth is, they seem closer to each other than ever! There comes a point that a person really needs to say MOVE ON! Well, I have dated several other people between this all, but can't get close to any of them. Take this time for self work is all I can suggest. Yes, get out and date but don't do what I have been doing, trying to fill the void, saying to myself find someone to rub in his face! That will make you happy! It won't , it will only make you feel stupid, because it won't fill the void, it will only hurt the man you are dating because you are doing it for all the wrong reasons. Good luck to you! And I believe Mr. Right is out there, but I have to be 100% over Mr. Ass to have him
BL2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 And sorry to say it's been almost a year, and I still think of the two of them happy, time does heal... but you have to let it, don't be like me over thinking his life with her, month after month. Think about you! It may go quicker than it is with me...
shortee143 Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 it is a pretty crappy feeling! My ex is with someone else, has been for months now, and we are in the same social circle, so I see him (them) often. It has been terribly hard- to see this new girl and wonder why her and not me (esp if like me, you never got any reason as to why they left). You can drive yoursefl mad. It has gotten easier, as I try to think he is her problem now, he has only changed for the worse. There will be always be a twinge of pain, since I hang out with them so often and see her in "my" old role as the gf. This wasnt the way i wanted it, but it is the way it is. Focus on each day as it comes, and just keep moving forward. I am much better than I was 6 months ago, and I know i will be even better 6 months from now. Just know the way you feel is normal- it sucks, but it is normal to feel replaced, inadequate, etc.
funnyface Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 I am so sorry! I am going through the same thing too (weird, I just wrote a post about it and then saw your thread). I don't know how much advice I can give, but I guess all I can say is that is this: 1. you are definitely not alone... that is one of the great things about LS: you realize that there are tons of other people that go through this kind of stuff every day! and if others are going through it, and have gotten over it... then you know its not the end of the world. Its just a crappy part of life that we have to deal with sometimes. 2. I know its sickening... its absolute nauseating. nothing you can do about it. as my mom just told me, "trash attracts trash"... let them do what they want. he obviously wasnt good for you, so her have him. 3. The only other thing I can agree on is... f-ck em!!!!!
penshelly Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 You can't forget him because you still love him obviously! You move on and give your self a chance to be happy, love your self before other! Find someone attractive and in the process forget him and his new girlfriend!
funnyface Posted November 17, 2011 Posted November 17, 2011 sorry, accidentally posted something in the wrong place!
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