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It seems to me as we are progressing in science, technology, etc... we are getting behind in our ability to connect with other people. I am talking about the relationships that we can choose & not we are born with. Our society is having more & more problems with relationships. Facebook & other networks are becoming a substitute for growing relationships.

 

Instead of learning, growing & sticking through good & bad times in a relationship, people are giving up easily & finding somebody else. Just look at the percentage of divorce that has gone up. My grandparents never went through all this that I am going through to maintain a relationship. I always think one of the most important things in our lifes are realtionships with God (your choice) & other people. Are we making it difficult for ourselves? Just random thoughts.

 

What do you think?

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I think you are right on. Our instant gratification culture promulgates alot of this. There is always someone better a click away.

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I dont think its so bad, i mean we no longer have a society that dictates we have to be a certain way anymore. divorce and adultry were the ultimate taboo not too many years ago and now its the norm... i think maybe weve all taken steps to becoming more understanding of human nature and accepting to each others flaws.... but maybe im just being optimistic. And people used to be extremely barbaric especially in the dark ages; adultry, rape, abuse, lynchings, riots, etc... they all used to be common everyday occurences (and actually still are in poorer parts of the world).

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My grandparents never went through all this that I am going through to maintain a relationship

 

So did mine, and as a result, they were unhappy.

 

Although I do agree with this.....

 

Instead of learning, growing & sticking through good & bad times in a relationship, people are giving up easily & finding somebody else

 

But if you absolutely know it's over, then going your separate ways is probably the best solution. However, I cannot stand it when people jump from one relationship to the next! I think it indicates that someone is insecure and afraid of being alone.

 

As I always say, I'd much rather be single than a. make do, or b. be in an unhappy relationship.

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your overcomplicated, pesudo-intellectual rant is just that, a rationalization for your own failed attempts. if a relationship is complicated, it often simply just means you're with the wrong person.

 

i always go by my favorite saying, "with the right person you can't do anything wrong, and with the wrong person you can't do anything right".

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your overcomplicated, pesudo-intellectual rant is just that, a rationalization for your own failed attempts. if a relationship is complicated, it often simply just means you're with the wrong person.

 

i always go by my favorite saying, "with the right person you can't do anything wrong, and with the wrong person you can't do anything right".

 

Its not rant, its called opinion just like yours. Ofcourse, my posts will be based on my personal life experience. My saying is "life is short, simple with the right person and life is long, hell with the wrong person".

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I think the dynamics are changing but relationships are still as good/bad as they ever were.

 

Two or 3 decades ago women would shut up if their husbands hit them or abused them, and divorces were uncommon because of the stygma. There was no so much information regarding the importance of affection or communication between spouses regarding sex/future/etc. Counselling was unheard of.

 

There is so much help out there now, so much information, knowing what it takes to make a relationship work is much more available now than it was, and I think people are more aware of this. Whether they decide to use this for their own advantage or not, thats a different matter.

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It seems to me as we are progressing in science, technology, etc... we are getting behind in our ability to connect with other people. I am talking about the relationships that we can choose & not we are born with. Our society is having more & more problems with relationships. Facebook & other networks are becoming a substitute for growing relationships.

 

Instead of learning, growing & sticking through good & bad times in a relationship, people are giving up easily & finding somebody else. Just look at the percentage of divorce that has gone up. My grandparents never went through all this that I am going through to maintain a relationship. I always think one of the most important things in our lifes are realtionships with God (your choice) & other people. Are we making it difficult for ourselves? Just random thoughts.

 

What do you think?

 

Too easy to cheat, too easy to upgrade, less pressure to stay together and put up with situations that people consider undesireable.

 

If you got married in 1950, your wife probably didn't go to work, she certainly didn't have 18 email addresses, 96 facebook friends (92 of whom were just random guys who thought her profile picture looked hot), she wasn't getting text messages from old boyfriends at work. Before anybody accuses me of being sexist, I'm sure guys do this too, but since I don't date guys, I don't really care what they do.

 

I also wonder how many people who were married in "the good old days" turned a blind eye to things that would land them in a divorce court these days. Once upon a time there were no domestic violence laws, so people often just couldn't get out of abusive marriages. And of course, with one partner at home and the other at work all day, neither knew what the other person was getting up to during those times.

 

It's just the way the world's going. It's neither good nor bad, it just is what it is. Make the best of it.

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