Is he gonna come home?

[Summer86]

Hello! I have a problem and I am tired of hearing from females. No offense but all my girlfriends feel bad and are just trying to make me feel better. All I really want is the truth because if it isn't meant to be and I am told that...I feel I might get over it easier than just sitting here and waiting.

 

My ex and I were together for 2.5 years. We have lived together for 2.5 years. It was love at first sight and we moved in together the 2nd week we started dating. He took in my son from day 1 as if he was his own. About 5 months later, I found out I was pregnant. We were sooo excited. He is 32 and I am 25. He has tried for years to have a baby and could never have one with any of the women he had been with in the past. We did have our fights. Sometimes it got out of hand on both parts. Screaming and yelling and hurting each other emotionally and mentally. But we would always get over it by the next day and be great all over again. We have been through a lot with each other. Such as no money, no heat, no gas and no electric. But we always had each other. We loved each other very much that none of that matter. I mean it did but it wasn't enough to break us and what we had. We moved to a new state recently (June) for a job opportunity for him. He received a promotion within 3 months. We got engaged and started to plan our wedding. Which he was all into. Making decisions and enjoying it. Well about a month before the wedding, he said we should push it back due to finances. He didn't want to go into a marriage flat broke because we spent it all on the wedding. We were going to pay for all of it ourselves. I was sad and upset but I agreed to pushing it back. He assured me that it was still going to happen just not right now. Now about 2 weeks after that, he left me. We were fighting a lot, and I mean a lot. In front of our kids and it did need to stop.

 

He moved out and it was a messy break up. A lot of tears from both sides. Heartache is a mutha let me tell ya. Now I don't have the luxery of doing the no contact thing since we have kids. But I do not call him unless it is about the kids and I don't really text him either. He used to come over to visit the kids but after they would go to bed we would have sex and he would leave for work the next morning and I would feel like the booty call. I no longer let him stay the night and i refuse to have sex with him. I am really not that type of girl. I do ache for him but i don't like feeling used in any way shape or form. He can't have his cake and eat it too so to speak. Since I haven't done all the typical girlfriend things for him, he acts as though he wants to come back. He says he misses me and the kids. He keeps telling me how sexy I am. And he looks at me like he wants to tell me something but can't. Like the long lingering look you see in the movies...yea that look. And he always tells me that no one will ever take my place in his heart or life and that he knows that there is no one like me in this world. He loves me he says.

 

Now tell me... do you think he will come back or is he letting me down easy?

[geegirl]

Hello! I have a problem and I am tired of hearing from females. No offense but all my girlfriends feel bad and are just trying to make me feel better. All I really want is the truth because if it isn't meant to be and I am told that...I feel I might get over it easier than just sitting here and waiting.

 

My ex and I were together for 2.5 years. We have lived together for 2.5 years. It was love at first sight and we moved in together the 2nd week we started dating. He took in my son from day 1 as if he was his own. About 5 months later, I found out I was pregnant. We were sooo excited. He is 32 and I am 25. He has tried for years to have a baby and could never have one with any of the women he had been with in the past. We did have our fights. Sometimes it got out of hand on both parts. Screaming and yelling and hurting each other emotionally and mentally. But we would always get over it by the next day and be great all over again. We have been through a lot with each other. Such as no money, no heat, no gas and no electric. But we always had each other. We loved each other very much that none of that matter. I mean it did but it wasn't enough to break us and what we had. We moved to a new state recently (June) for a job opportunity for him. He received a promotion within 3 months. We got engaged and started to plan our wedding. Which he was all into. Making decisions and enjoying it. Well about a month before the wedding, he said we should push it back due to finances. He didn't want to go into a marriage flat broke because we spent it all on the wedding. We were going to pay for all of it ourselves. I was sad and upset but I agreed to pushing it back. He assured me that it was still going to happen just not right now. Now about 2 weeks after that, he left me. We were fighting a lot, and I mean a lot. In front of our kids and it did need to stop.

 

He moved out and it was a messy break up. A lot of tears from both sides. Heartache is a mutha let me tell ya. Now I don't have the luxery of doing the no contact thing since we have kids. But I do not call him unless it is about the kids and I don't really text him either. He used to come over to visit the kids but after they would go to bed we would have sex and he would leave for work the next morning and I would feel like the booty call. I no longer let him stay the night and i refuse to have sex with him. I am really not that type of girl. I do ache for him but i don't like feeling used in any way shape or form. He can't have his cake and eat it too so to speak. Since I haven't done all the typical girlfriend things for him, he acts as though he wants to come back. He says he misses me and the kids. He keeps telling me how sexy I am. And he looks at me like he wants to tell me something but can't. Like the long lingering look you see in the movies...yea that look. And he always tells me that no one will ever take my place in his heart or life and that he knows that there is no one like me in this world. He loves me he says.

 

Now tell me... do you think he will come back or is he letting me down easy?

 

If he can tell you, "no one will ever take my place in his heart or life and that he knows that there is no one like me in this world" then he can tell you that he wants his family back again. All words. No action. Unless he shows you something of substance, he may just be feeling the want of being with you and the kids but just enough to want it full time.

[ChelseaLS]

If he can tell you, "no one will ever take my place in his heart or life and that he knows that there is no one like me in this world" then he can tell you that he wants his family back again. All words. No action. Unless he shows you something of substance, he may just be feeling the want of being with you and the kids but just enough to want it full time.

 

 

I will agree with that. Make sure he isn't saying all these wonderful things for sex.

You said it yourself, he can't have his cake and eat it too. He needs to **** or get off the pot. None of this inbetween crap. And if he is confused, then he needs to take some time away and figure himself out.