skyle Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 Right okay, after emailing the ex telling her that we both need time apart to miss each other and for me to improve certain aspects of myself etc, she emailed back saying she understands and that. I said I'd need time apart for a couple of weeks to get my act together, but I feel after 6 days I have a clear head and ready to talk to her. (We split up at start of september but spoke to each other quite a lot as friends i suppose) I am unsure whether to message her, or do I wait out the two weeks? I want to speak to her and just tell her that I understand why we broke up and the reasons, and that I have changed for the better for myself. Once I message her, I was thinking of saying something like this; "You know how I feel about you and that I want us to be more than just friends, but if being friends for a start will bring us closer, I am willing and ready to give this relationship all I got. Let's see if by keeping in regular contact and spending some time together, we can rekindle what we had when we first met. I think that this might be some of the best times we've shared in a long time." As she wanted to be friends, but I told her before I went NC that I couldn't do NC and we both deserved time to see if we miss each other. How do you think I should approach this?
Author skyle Posted November 9, 2011 Author Posted November 9, 2011 She broke up with me because we argued during summer near the end and I took her for granted (which I have seen and bettered myself for)
othersideofthepillow Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 Ok. In this situation I think that you NEED to give it more time. Now I'm not saying that you haven't realized a lot about yourself - BUT - it's not about you at the moment. For her, she wants to see that things are different and with it being a few days she might not see them as sincere changes (whether they are or aren't). I know its hard but i'd say at least 3-4 weeks. By than you both can clear your heads and have a better outlook on things. Plus, being apart will also give you that "miss you" factor that you mentioned earlier.
flitzanu Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 yup. and that means DON'T CONTACT HER. she can't miss you if you have your head up her ass.
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