when she starts acting distant

[jacksonBrown]

what to do when your girlfriend starts acting distant this has been happening in my relationship for the past week, she has told me she has major trust issues with me she thinks i'm always chattin up other girls which is completely untrue we have broken up in the past due to me trying to sleep with another girl we broke up over it i defiantly learnt my lesson and i am completely loyal to her since we have been back together, for some reason tho no matter how hard i try to convince her that shes the only one i want she wont believe me i've even told her i wanna have kids with her and get married one day, im not sure if thats wat made her start acting distant but she has been very cold over the past week and its driving me nuts.

 

first signs of it were she stopped sending me xxx's when she said goodnight, she suddenly became busy all the time when i asked to hang out, just acting very distant towards me, so i decided i was going to back off stop txting her and just see what happens, as soon as i do that she txt's me asking if i'm not talking to her? i tell her that i never stopped talking to her but i just felt like she had been acting cold and distant lately and i thort she might have needed some space, she replied with 'Fair enough, that's ok then i suppose' another cold response so i asked her wats on her mind she replies with 'nothing really'....

 

he responses are always very brief and she never tells me whats on her mind, I really love this girl i dont want to loose her but at the same time i'm ready to break up because i'm confused and unsure about where she stands and i dont wanna chase someone who isn't keen on me.

 

any thorts of wat is going threw her head or how i should handle this situation it feels like she playing some serious mind games with me

[jacksonBrown]

If anyone was wondering we were together for 3 years then we broke up a mutual break up due to loosing the spark together... then we rekindled 3 months later and i tried to sleep with someone else and she found out end of relationship again and now another 3 months on we are back together again this time its only been 2 weeks of back together and shes been distant for most of it..

 

i will say she has been the one to rekindle the relationship on both occasions and every time she contacts me to get back together i get back with her straight away. I love her very much i just want everything to work out..

the one thing she has told me when i asked her what was wrong she said " just because i dont show you anything doesn't mean i'm not into you"

that was her response i felt like saying well why do you want to be with some one if your not gonna show me anything!!

 

girls i cant figure them out.. i feel like this relationship is doomed but i still love her and ideas

[Woggle]

Leave town before the storm hits. She is preparing to end it with you so do it first.

[jacksonBrown]

yeh pretty much what i thort, we're are supposed to be catching up tonight if she pulls out i'l end it

[patagonia]

up and downs are hard in relationships. 3 years is a lot to give up. I'd make sure you really talk to her and give each other a chance. It could be a number of things and you'd hate to throw in the towel over a few bouts of quietness and such...it takes 2 to tango. Hang in there.

[jacksonBrown]

we just had the chat, she ended up bailing on tonight so i asked her if we should even bother ya know with the relationship she said she doesn't want a relationship at the moment but still wants to be mates and i can respect that i've got a big court case comin up with possible jail time she wants to see what happens with that before we jump into anything again she said she loves me and always will just nows not the right time.

 

i actually agree with her, havin a relationship hasn't worked so far so we gonna try out just being mates, sounds like a good idea, we do get along really well i think one day we'll be together for good she knows it too but for now friends!

[Niagara Falls]

maybe you need to show her you care not constantly try to tell her.

 

take her out for a nice and expensive dinner if you can afford it. cook for her one night and get her favourite movie, small **** like that. do things to show you care. you havent made her feel special, you need to show her what makes her different from that girl you tried to **** and if you dont she will eventually dump you.

 

do something about it dont jsut sit there texting her how much you love her. take her somewhere and do things with her. dont just say hey lets hang out. make a plan and tell her that you want to do "this" with her and then make a date out of it.

 

make a plan then execute it, make her feel like all she has to do is sit back and enjoy you taking care of her, then she will get what youve been trying to pointlessly tell her for the last 2 weeks