Taina Posted May 22, 2004 Posted May 22, 2004 My ex tells me he wants me back. What he says is :"I do love you, I know you are not ready, but in life things are not waiting for you, sometimes you have to make a decision even if you are not ready. So, either you are with me now, or I dissapear from your life forever, even as a friend". Is this love? Is this friendship? How do I react to that? I don't want to lose his friendship and love, but does that means that sacrifices are justified on my part, in the name of love? I didn't come to that decision to go back yet, I feel even more reluctant to do it under pressure. I thought you cannot rush yourself, it probably comes naturally when you are ready to be with someone, isn't that true? Why cannot he understand me? When I talk about my feelings to him, he disregards it as something, that is not important. He says:" It doesn't matter what you feel. What matters is that if you don't come back, you'll never see me again. You don't understand it, you don't believe it, but wait and see. But then it will be too late. You'll have to live the rest of your life without me". So the quiestion I am asking myself is, why does it have to be this way? And what is the right thing to do?
hla76 Posted May 22, 2004 Posted May 22, 2004 I have never really been in a situation like yours before.But if I was the only thing I would do would be to follow my heart.I have always belived in the old saying follow your heart.It will lead you in the right direction.I dont think it is right that your ex is trying to force you into somthing that you may not be ready for.JUst follow your heart and see what happens.I have always followed my heart and so far it has pointed me in the right direction everytime.
LILUIL Posted May 22, 2004 Posted May 22, 2004 look at the way he's talking, so immatured and no a shred of practicality in sight. sounds almost like a threat.... ya it is a threat. love is patient, love is kind...... you know how it goes. just tell him you'll give him an answer when you have one. he needs to give you that much. if he's gonna nag in your ear about getting an answer now, now, now....... tell him to go talk to himself..... that should put him in his place. you'd better check closely to see if this guy of yours has brains, maybe he's pretending to have them by all this pointless confusing he makes which makes no sense to the literate. good luck!
Kristine Posted May 22, 2004 Posted May 22, 2004 This man is controlling and will ultimately become abusive. Leave him for good.
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