realitycheck123 Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 (edited) I tried few free dating sites and a paid one. Now, some of you saw my pics on here and know that I'm not the best looking guy, but I'm not bad looking either. Like a decent 5-6/10 guy. Ok, so what I do is take a Swedish male model Andreas Wilson, some of the more simple looking pics and make a new profile. I message 30 women I messaged before. Ok, I do get more women viewing my profile, BUT I still get pretty much no replies. One 5/10 girl also emailed me. But f*ck, I also got an email on my real profile from a porker. LOL Point being, ONLINE DATING SITES=SH*T FOR MEN. Don't waste your time or hurt your ego. Hell, I don't even know which chicks are serious and which are not. Lesson f*cking learned. F*ck that. I am really starting to develop antagonism towards attractive women. I am motivated to see the day when I get extremely wealthy and can toy with hot golddigging women like I please. That day will come, yes, it will and I will have my vengeance. Edited November 9, 2011 by realitycheck123
oaks Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 Ok, so what I do is take a Swedish male model Andreas Wilson, some of the more simple looking pics and make a new profile. I message 30 women I messaged before. They probably looked and thought "oh, look, another profile with fake celebrity pictures. NEXT!" Those women are on there looking for something, but if you're not it and fake Andreas Wilson with your words isn't it either then, well, what's the common factor? 30 women is a small sample size, too. Why do you think that any of those 30 women would want to write back to whatever your fake Andreas Wilson had written to them?
Author realitycheck123 Posted November 9, 2011 Author Posted November 9, 2011 I found two SIMPLE, not model-looking pictures. At least one girl found it realistic. ****, who the hell heard or seen Andreas Wilson? My point is that if Andreas Wilson can't get a freaking reply, what am I doing there???????? You sound like you work for a dating site. Jesus. Or you're a woman. Try it for yourself. Sheesh.
SingleinSouth Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 I met my current boyfriend using free OLD. It has been about 6 months now with only one issue so far. I am pretty happy! (I had quite a few bad encounters also). Keep working on it and don't let the ones who don't work out get you down:)
ShatteredReality Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 Go to a Zumba class...You might be able to meet someone there...dating sites can be awful - I think a lot of the time they wind up being sites for the sexually frustrated more than finding an actual relationship.
OneFootOut Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 I tried few free dating sites and a paid one. Now, some of you saw my pics on here and know that I'm not the best looking guy, but I'm not bad looking either. Like a decent 5-6/10 guy. Ok, so what I do is take a Swedish male model Andreas Wilson, some of the more simple looking pics and make a new profile. I message 30 women I messaged before. Ok, I do get more women viewing my profile, BUT I still get pretty much no replies. One 5/10 girl also emailed me. But f*ck, I also got an email on my real profile from a porker. LOL Point being, ONLINE DATING SITES=SH*T FOR MEN. Don't waste your time or hurt your ego. Hell, I don't even know which chicks are serious and which are not. Lesson f*cking learned. F*ck that. I am really starting to develop antagonism towards attractive women. I am motivated to see the day when I get extremely wealthy and can toy with hot golddigging women like I please. That day will come, yes, it will and I will have my vengeance. Maybe it's your mature, nonjudgmental, friendly attitude and personality...
Author realitycheck123 Posted November 9, 2011 Author Posted November 9, 2011 I think so too. Or some chicks just trying to see how many guys they can get and compare that to their current boyfriend. Whatever is going on, it's just BS all around. The crappy sites I'm talking off are Plenty of Fish................NOT Mingle2.com.................. Datehookup.com.............pfff.
OneFootOut Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 I have been on one pay site on and off for nearly 2 years. I put myself out there as open and honest as possible with current pictures and videos, and keep the text part updated as well. Some men have talked to me for months, flirted, got as far as you can get online, but then they find 105 reasons why they can't meet in person. Or when I agree to meet them, they vanish. I've came to the conclusion that the vast majority of men on THAT site are only there as some sort of social comfort and outlet. Never fully intending on taking anything to real life regardless of how "attracted" they get to someone or how much they talk about making plans. Half of them actually DO make plans to meet then drop out of site, or come up with excuses to call it off. It IS frustrating. But then, dating in general is frustrating whether it is on a site or park or church or bar or wherever. I'm getting tired of all those men getting to know me online and telling me how much they like me, only to continuously stand me up or leave me hanging. It's kind of like paying to be constantly let down... hmm I don't know why I keep hanging on. Ever so hopeful I guess.
fishtaco Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 Online dating sucks for men. Some men can make it work. But they usually are ones that can make it pass the filters. I.e. 6' to 6'4", Caucasian, good picture, makes good money. If that doesn't sound like you, unless you have online dating magic happening, you'll be wasting your time. The only thing a man can do online is to spam as many women as possible. What you do is come up with a template. Replace certain parts of the template with certain information from their profile, so you seem like you read their profiles, but at the same time have reasonable thoughput at generating first contact messages. A high-effort well written introduction message isn't going to do better than a quick but seemingly relevant message. Then you see what you get back. So I think it's fine if men want to try online dating. If it works, good for you, keep at it. Dating is a numbers game whether played in cyberspace or real life. But if you find that it doesn't work, bail out before you spend too much time/money on it. You're better off approaching women in real life. For women, online dating serves a different purpose. There are always guys on there spamming women. Because that's the only method that works. So it's an ego boost, for those that are looking for it. Keeping your confidence up while single is important and difficult at the same time. Anything helps. If I had a place I can go for quick ego boosts when I'm single, I'd do it too.
ShannonMI Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 I tried few free dating sites and a paid one. Now, some of you saw my pics on here and know that I'm not the best looking guy, but I'm not bad looking either. Like a decent 5-6/10 guy. Ok, so what I do is take a Swedish male model Andreas Wilson, some of the more simple looking pics and make a new profile. I message 30 women I messaged before. Ok, I do get more women viewing my profile, BUT I still get pretty much no replies. One 5/10 girl also emailed me. But f*ck, I also got an email on my real profile from a porker. LOL Point being, ONLINE DATING SITES=SH*T FOR MEN. Don't waste your time or hurt your ego. Hell, I don't even know which chicks are serious and which are not. Lesson f*cking learned. F*ck that. I am really starting to develop antagonism towards attractive women. I am motivated to see the day when I get extremely wealthy and can toy with hot golddigging women like I please. That day will come, yes, it will and I will have my vengeance. Oh shut the f*ck up. How long did you stay on these f*cking sites? A day? Maybe you should have given it more of a chance. And if you are a 5/6, and I've seen your pics and I beg to differ, you will get the "porkers" as you call them. You're not going to get super models. Beggars can't be choosers honey.
dasein Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 Well you may have changed the pictures to Swedish, but did you change the accent in your proflle to match the pictures? "I am Svedish, ah ho no I vreally ham! orsky borsky."
Tybalt Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 Oh dear. I think I'm in a strange mood tonight but that made me laugh out loud.
Metis Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 Attractive women, how do they ****ing work? This console isn't user-friendly. Tech support?
missed_theboat Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 I respect people who find love on dating sites, but I'll never use them. I can't trust them, and I just would rather meet someone the "old-fashioned-way". I understand that it doesn't work for everyone, and that dating websites can be amazing for connecting two people, but I just would feel so weird. It's just me. I hear the free sites are full of crazies--from people who have used them.
oaks Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 My point is that if Andreas Wilson can't get a freaking reply, what am I doing there???????? My points were that even Andreas Wilson needs to contact more than 30 women on an dating site, and that what you wrote perhaps also influenced things. You sound like you work for a dating site. Jesus. Or you're a woman. Try it for yourself. Sheesh. No, I don't work for a dating site or for Jesus. I'm a man. I spent a year using dating sites, and that's how I met the woman I'm currently dating. I don't have Andreas Wilson's looks, either.
oaks Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 I hear the free sites are full of crazies So is the real world. Where do you think the crazies come from?
Emilia Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 Online dating doesn't suit everyone. It didn't suit me either, I tried for a little while and gave up on it for good. It is tempting to potentially have access to a large database of singles but my temperament is such that I prefer to meet men quickly to determine whether we are compatible and a lot of men appear to have a more introverted personality on those sites. Thus we usually clash when it comes to communication styles. I prefer to move to the phone and meeting up quickly, they prefer - what I see as - fluffing around. Maybe OP real life dating works for you better too, you will have to do what I did and widen your social circles in that case. Horses for courses.
grkBoy Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 Someone call the Waaaaaahmbulance. There are a multitude of factors why realitycheck didn't get anything. a) Maybe the women in his area are all closed and hold the bar insanely high. b) Maybe his profiles (fake and real) as well as his emails do nothing to entice women to respond. c) Maybe the women knew who Andreas Wilson was and saw through his ruse. d) Maybe the women who saw the Andreas Wilson pic (and didn't know who the guy was) might have assumes this guy is too hot to be on a dating site, so he must be married or something, and looking for a fling. e) Maybe realitycheck has other red flags that show in his profiles...attitude, income, possibly lives with parents, lives too remotely, etc. I agree that dating sites are a waste of time if you're a guy, especially if you're an average joe or ugly guy. However, I won't just automatically assume all the women are just stuck-up/shallow. I think many hold the bar very high, but others are very suspicious and cautious. Plus I think most of the quality women aren't going to join dating sites...be it for reasons of pride or they just would rather take their chances offline.
Emilia Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 Plus I think most of the quality women aren't going to join dating sites...be it for reasons of pride or they just would rather take their chances offline. Yeah, I think that's it. People like to think there is no stigma attached to OLD but it's not true
Author realitycheck123 Posted November 9, 2011 Author Posted November 9, 2011 UPDATE: Well, what do you know, Andreas Wilson profile got a hell lot more views , some really cute offers, and actually replies. Hahaha. I am at the point where I don't want to talk to my mother. All her ****ing fault that I didn't come out looking like Andreas Wilson. I can change just about anything in my life, but being good looking is just one of those things even plastic surgery won't fix. I knew this was going to be a dangerous experiment for me. It didn't lower my self esteem much, but it really made me dislike the world. This is how really insane and ill intentioned people are made. Oh ****. I really hope I don't lose it. hahahahahahahahahah.
oaks Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 Well, what do you know, Andreas Wilson profile got a hell lot more views , some really cute offers, and actually replies. Hahaha. Ahh! So, the good news is that the stuff you're writing (which is you, not Andreas Wilson) isn't putting them off. While you can't make yourself look like him, there may be things you can do to improve your online photos. Good luck!
verhrzn Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 UPDATE: Well, what do you know, Andreas Wilson profile got a hell lot more views , some really cute offers, and actually replies. Hahaha. I am at the point where I don't want to talk to my mother. All her ****ing fault that I didn't come out looking like Andreas Wilson. I can change just about anything in my life, but being good looking is just one of those things even plastic surgery won't fix. I knew this was going to be a dangerous experiment for me. It didn't lower my self esteem much, but it really made me dislike the world. This is how really insane and ill intentioned people are made. Oh ****. I really hope I don't lose it. hahahahahahahahahah. So you're angry at the world for prizing superficial physical attractiveness, that you're a "5-6/10" guy, and yet a 5/10 girl messages you and you cruelly refer to her as a "porker." Can you not appreciate the hypocrisy in this?
Author realitycheck123 Posted November 9, 2011 Author Posted November 9, 2011 Being fat is a choice, goddammit. Having symmetrical face is not...you're just born with it and you deal with it. There is nothing wrong with being angry at the world. Actually, just about anyone has the right to do that.
Author realitycheck123 Posted November 9, 2011 Author Posted November 9, 2011 (edited) Ahh! So, the good news is that the stuff you're writing (which is you, not Andreas Wilson) isn't putting them off. While you can't make yourself look like him, there may be things you can do to improve your online photos. Good luck! You found something good in all that. Bravo. No, I'm not going to improve my online photos. I accept who I am on my worst day. There is no big difference between looking 4 or looking 5. If I can't be good looking, what the **** is the point of trying. Btw, as far as being angry at the world, you can definitely be angry at your parents. Some people can thank their parents, well, not me. Not me. Edited November 9, 2011 by realitycheck123
Mme. Chaucer Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 My husband and I met via OLD. Both of us "quit" many times. I doubt that you, OP, can be successful at dating on or offline while you are feeling so much bitterness towards women in general. Dating is for people who like the folks they are looking to date. Ideally, anyway. And, for the record, "bitterness" is a very appropriate description for the way the OP presents himself here. Yes, it is.
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