primer Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 Do all men get crabby / moody when they don't have sex for a while? By a while, I mean like five days. Does it keep them up at night? Or is this sexual manipulation?
Cypress25 Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 Assuming he has hands and knows how to use them, he should be able to survive without sex for a few days. Being horny is not an excuse to be crabby or moody with your partner. If a woman did that, men would accuse her of PMS. No matter how you feel, you need to respect your partner's boundaries regarding sex. This goes for men and women. It's not OK to coerce/guilt your partner into having sex.
Feelin Frisky Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 No. Not all men behave exactly the same. And there would be a much more angry world if every man got crabby if he didn't get sex for 5 days. It's be a crustacean by now for one. In relationships it can be a little different depending upon youth, vitality, what's normal for that couple and how they get along in other regards. "Crabbiness" is not a way to get what you want--unless it's just to get a woman to acquiesce to keep the peace. I'm not happy with that kind of thing although I admit to having settled for such an attitude before. I never want a reluctant accommodation though--that's a turn off.
ShannonMI Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 Do all men get crabby / moody when they don't have sex for a while? By a while, I mean like five days. Does it keep them up at night? Or is this sexual manipulation? Men AND women get crabby when they don't get @ss. I've been two months without it and I'm ready to jump off a bridge. It does keep me up at night. I'm over it.
Lucky_One Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 Poor widdle man who hasn't had sex for 5 days. Yes, it's sexual manipulation or just plain being a baby. Big old whiney-pot.
Nexus One Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 Well that depends, do you mean sex or climaxing in general? Sperm build-up in men is continual. Every time the "bucket is full", men feel a need to unload. It feels somewhat like when your bladder is full and you need to pee really badly, I think that's a good analogy for women to understand it. Except when the bladder is full with urine you NEED to pee, otherwise you can cause damage. That's not the case with sperm, you will not damage anything if you don't unload, even if you feel the need is very high. However if you don't unload, then you keep walking around with that feeling of "urgency" almost all the time. Most guys need to unload 2 times a day on average. I can only speak for myself, but if I don't, then I can't sleep at all, can't focus anymore and get into "hunting mode". I then get a sort of raw primordial feeling to hit on a woman, for me it then almost feels like I have a roaring lion on the inside and I start looking at women from a pure sexual perspective, a sort of "I want to eat you up" kind of attitude. The only thing on my mind then are women, so I then can't get any work done and I start to get a weird feeling in my brain, it feels like you're hungry, but then in the context of horniness. Being horny is easily solved. However if you also have a longing for something deeper, something meaningful, then that is not so easily quenched. That feeling is worse than horniness, especially due to the reason that it's not easily quenched, because you need to get an SO in order to quench it.
Lucky_One Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 Nexus, you may want to read this. http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/cupids-poisoned-arrow/201007/ejaculation-how-often-good-health It's pretty interesting stuff.
oaks Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 Do all men get crabby / moody when they don't have sex for a while? By a while, I mean like five days. Does it keep them up at night? Or is this sexual manipulation? 5 days? Are we talking about a horny teenager? Just slap him and tell him to grow up.
ShannonMI Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 5 days? Are we talking about a horny teenager? Just slap him and tell him to grow up. Yeah 5 days ain't nothing. He sounds like a whine @ss. Now if we were talking 5 months, then yeah he'd have something to bitch about:rolleyes:
Wolf18 Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 For me it's been 6-7 months, it can be painful physically and sometimes it's hard to focus on other things. Sorry masturbation gets boring once you've had the real thing, that's no substitute.
patagonia Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 notice how people can get crabby for any reason? I'm in a bad mood because my car isn't working, i don't get paid enough, not enough sex, bad relationship, grass is dying, etc etc. 5 days w/out sex? I've been almost 365 days and I could care less. If I'm upset about something so ridiculous, then something else in my life is out of line. That's just me.
ShannonMI Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 For me it's been 6-7 months, it can be painful physically and sometimes it's hard to focus on other things. Sorry masturbation gets boring once you've had the real thing, that's no substitute. Oh look someone has a new avatar. Aren't you handsome, Wolf. It's too bad you have such a scowl on your face. Do you ever smile?
Forever Learning Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 Well that depends, do you mean sex or climaxing in general? Sperm build-up in men is continual. Every time the "bucket is full", men feel a need to unload. It feels somewhat like when your bladder is full and you need to pee really badly, I think that's a good analogy for women to understand it. Except when the bladder is full with urine you NEED to pee, otherwise you can cause damage. That's not the case with sperm, you will not damage anything if you don't unload, even if you feel the need is very high. However if you don't unload, then you keep walking around with that feeling of "urgency" almost all the time. Most guys need to unload 2 times a day on average. I can only speak for myself, but if I don't, then I can't sleep at all, can't focus anymore and get into "hunting mode". I then get a sort of raw primordial feeling to hit on a woman, for me it then almost feels like I have a roaring lion on the inside and I start looking at women from a pure sexual perspective, a sort of "I want to eat you up" kind of attitude. The only thing on my mind then are women, so I then can't get any work done and I start to get a weird feeling in my brain, it feels like you're hungry, but then in the context of horniness. Being horny is easily solved. However if you also have a longing for something deeper, something meaningful, then that is not so easily quenched. That feeling is worse than horniness, especially due to the reason that it's not easily quenched, because you need to get an SO in order to quench it. What a great post! That was very informative, I really learned alot. I appreciate the insight, thanks!!
dasein Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 Oh look someone has a new avatar. Aren't you handsome, Wolf. It's too bad you have such a scowl on your face. Do you ever smile? Hmm. One lives in the city, one lives upstate...
dasein Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 Most guys need to unload 2 times a day on average. Fill up two times a day? that's a sperm clinic's wet dream.
bac Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 Do all men get crabby / moody when they don't have sex for a while? By a while, I mean like five days. Does it keep them up at night? Or is this sexual manipulation? IMO, It depends on a situation. If he has no woman next to him, he is fine. Anyway, If he needs sex, he can have it with himself. But, If he has a sexy, sedactive woman who likes him next to him, he has rightful expectations to have sex. It will keep him up at night if a woman plays with his brains in this way.
Nexus One Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 Oh look someone has a new avatar. Aren't you handsome, Wolf. It's too bad you have such a scowl on your face. Do you ever smile? Hmm. One lives in the city, one lives upstate... Yeah, they could date. PM him Shannon, as he's not going to PM you. Then tell him to lighten the f*ck up and you'll give him a chance.
thatone Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 sex drive for men, at least for me, was much higher when i was younger (late teens, early 20s). now in my mid 30s, in a relationship or at least past a few dates? yeah, the desire is there. if there's no woman i'm interested in other than sexually, not so much. i guess that's my brain telling me that i'm grown up. /shrug
Andy_K Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 5 days if you're not in a relationship is nothing. 5 days in a relationship where you're seeing each other every day would be frustrating as hell (for me).
phineas Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 As someone who was married & living with a woman one week without sex quickly turns into a month & so on & so on & so on if you don't address it ASAP. At this point in my life until I feel comfortable bringing someone around my kids i've got 3 available evenings to date and I have other things to do. So unless she wants to come over after 9 for some loving I think once a week will be all I get. But if i'm only able to see a woman once or twice a week I expect some loving otherwise i'll assume she's either getting it elsewhere or just not all that into me & find someone else because really, who wants to be in a relationship with someone that doesn't want to have sex with you on the regular?
Dusk1983 Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 (edited) Sperm build-up in men is continual. Every time the "bucket is full", men feel a need to unload. It feels somewhat like when your bladder is full and you need to pee really badly, I think that's a good analogy for women to understand it. Except when the bladder is full with urine you NEED to pee, otherwise you can cause damage. That's not the case with sperm, you will not damage anything if you don't unload, even if you feel the need is very high. However if you don't unload, then you keep walking around with that feeling of "urgency" almost all the time. Most guys need to unload 2 times a day on average. I can only speak for myself, but if I don't, then I can't sleep at all, can't focus anymore and get into "hunting mode". t. You do know this is complete and utter rubbish, right? Even if you never ejaculate your body emits sperm (well, predominantly, semen) from your body each and every night. You can not 'fill up' or 'explode'. It is perfectly natural to ejaculate rarely. Your body is absolutely fine with it. Regular ejaculation might carry health benefits, but not doing it certainly doesn't carry negative implications for your mind or body. But of course, like most men, you perpetuate such myths because they manipulate women into 'taking care' of your 'sexual needs'. Ejaculating is physically enjoyable and releases a great number of reward-related chemicals within the brain, just like eating a huge slice of chocololate cake. But, just like the chocolate cake, you don't need it. I wish more men could just be honest with themselves and women - you want sex, and you want to come, because it feels good. But don't try and dress that desire up as a profound psychological & physiological need, because that's bunk. Edited November 9, 2011 by Dusk1983
danmorisson Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 It's not just about sex. I constantly have this overwhelming desire to seek a woman, protect her, start a family and have kids with her. It eats away at your head all the time. I wish I could switch it off.
oaks Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 It's not just about sex. I constantly have this overwhelming desire to seek a woman, protect her, start a family and have kids with her. It eats away at your head all the time. I wish I could switch it off. Seek professional help. Amateurs (and perhaps some professionals, but off duty) in a dating advice forum aren't going to solve this for you.
oaks Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 For me it's been 6-7 months, it can be painful physically You should see a doctor about that.
ShannonMI Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 Hey, UK guy, clime down from your high horse you retard. Why don't you go see a bloody doctor to cut your balls off...seems like human females done it already...so why not go all the way and cut your dry, useless UK wanker? Shut the f*ck up. You're the useless wanker, you slimy troll.
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