confused kitty Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 Ok so some of you know my story - ex broke up with me 6weeks ago and Very long story short we're back as friends right now but both agreed we want to be back together, we're just taking it real slow this time... Afew days after we broke up I had a pregnancy scare, I needid him more than ever at that point but decided not to tell him as I thaught he might think I was using this as a way to try "trap" him, or at least something along those lines, so I decided to say nothing until I found out for sure (I really thaught I was) Anyway it was afew days before I could bring myself to doing a home test - Thankfully it was negative! We previously discussed having children, both agreed we wanted them - Just not right now! Hes 25 and Im 22 by the way.. Anyway lately(since we've been back talking) Ive been getting a Huge urge to tell him about this - I dont know why, we're only friends right now, not even back dating yet but we've Always been very open with eachother and could talk about anything. Why do I feel the need to tell him so badly?? It feels like its eating away at me!!! - What should I do here..?
leoc1973 Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 Kitty. Oh my god do not tell him!! not right now. When I was 24 my girlfriend at the time had a pregnancy scare and I promised god that if she wasn't pregnant I would never sleep with her again and dump her. She ended up having an abortion behind my back and I used that as an excuse to dump her. I told her how dare you kill my child without at least talking to me. But truth is I was glad she did. It was a reality check that I did not wanna be with her. DO NOT tell him at this fragile part of your relationship. You have him on the fence weather he even wants to be a couple with you right now. The thought of a baby for a young guy will scare the hell out of him!!!
ChelseaLS Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 Ok so some of you know my story - ex broke up with me 6weeks ago and Very long story short we're back as friends right now but both agreed we want to be back together, we're just taking it real slow this time... Afew days after we broke up I had a pregnancy scare, I needid him more than ever at that point but decided not to tell him as I thaught he might think I was using this as a way to try "trap" him, or at least something along those lines, so I decided to say nothing until I found out for sure (I really thaught I was) Anyway it was afew days before I could bring myself to doing a home test - Thankfully it was negative! We previously discussed having children, both agreed we wanted them - Just not right now! Hes 25 and Im 22 by the way.. Anyway lately(since we've been back talking) Ive been getting a Huge urge to tell him about this - I dont know why, we're only friends right now, not even back dating yet but we've Always been very open with eachother and could talk about anything. Why do I feel the need to tell him so badly?? It feels like its eating away at me!!! - What should I do here..? I have been doing some reading... a lot since my break up and from what I have read, I know you should be able to say anything to your partner, but love is a delicate flower that must be nurtured... it doesn't like heat, it doesn't like cold. Not eveything that pops into our heads needs to be verbalized. So I wouldn't share this... maybe one day, but not yet. You don't want to scare him and push him away. That's just my thoughts... I could be WAY off base.
Author confused kitty Posted November 8, 2011 Author Posted November 8, 2011 (edited) Yea thats what Im afraid of too - I just cant get it out of my head I dont know why, Im afraid Il jusy blurt it out!! But your right Ive had that thaught all along that it could totally freak him out!! Thanks Leo & Chelsea Edited November 8, 2011 by confused kitty
penshelly Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 You freak him out! If you still hanging with him, you can move on stop hoping someday he will be back! obviously his not attractive to you! Find someone who deserve you! You worth to be happy!!
lostcharm Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 You want to tell him because you need an excuse to talk to him, probably. It was a scare, nothing really worth mentioning unless you just want his attention
geegirl Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 You weren't pregnant. What's there to tell? I have a feeling you want to tell him to provoke a reaction because you both talked about having children before and you'd like to gauge his reaction in terms of where he is with you right now.
Author confused kitty Posted November 10, 2011 Author Posted November 10, 2011 I know hes not ready for children right now hell he cant even sort his own life out! Were talking already, so I dont need to use this as an excuse to get his attention - Im not sure what it is exactly but it doesnt matter Im not going to tell him- maybe some day but not anytime soon, Thanks guys!
SincereOnlineGuy Posted November 12, 2011 Posted November 12, 2011 I promised god that if she wasn't pregnant I would never sleep with her again and dump her. She ended up having an abortion behind my back and I used that as an excuse to dump her. LOL - what in the world ??? Exactly why did you need "God" in this equation again?? And just why/how did the pregnancy matter??
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