maryslamb Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 (edited) My bf and I split exactly 7 days ago. Agfter being together for 2 years and living together for almost a year. I guess the thought of no communication in the relationship and no really reconciling things , starts to make the relationship dwindle. After each arguement it never was discusses, and it pretty much was swept under the rug. After do this for almost a year we, got fed up with each other, and now I'm gone.. It hurts like all hell. But I've dealt with pain pain before, when we broke up last year. So I'm learning how to take it one day at a time. Like I stated its been 7 long days and each day I want to call or text and say I love you. But I know if I do, I won't get a response , which hurts even more. Every waking day seems hard. I am back home , and I'm at a job that doesn't pay much. I'm trying to find an apartment, go back to school, and fix myself emotionally in the process. This will be my first time out on my own. I don't really have the finance to move, but feel its best to be independent. My ex took the car back that he bought for me, so now, I can't really go look at the apartments I would love to stay at. Life is just hard. I've been getting better, but since I'm off work the next 2 days I woke up crying, and can't take my mind off anything but him. I just pray everyday I get a call or text saying he wants me back. But he stated he wanted a break, and that's what I have to do to respect his wishes. In the meantime I'm hurting.. I don't really have a question I'm just trying to occupy myself by writing on here, so I won't break down and contact him.. Edited November 8, 2011 by maryslamb
Bobby289 Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 Ohh I know how you feel, as does everyone on this site! That is good you are respecting his wishes and taking the high road. As for the pain, tears, wants, and just hoping for any contact is perfectly normal. If you two truly love each other things will work out as hard as that is to see right now. It may be the best thing right now, both need to figure out what you want and if it is worth it to work on the relationship and personal mistakes you made in the relationship. Just keep NC as hard as it is and show you respect his wishes and he will see that. Someone is always here to listen so post all you want to avoid contacting him!
ChelseaLS Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 My bf and I split exactly 7 days ago. Agfter being together for 2 years and living together for almost a year. I guess the thought of no communication in the relationship and no really reconciling things , starts to make the relationship dwindle. After each arguement it never was discusses, and it pretty much was swept under the rug. After do this for almost a year we, got fed up with each other, and now I'm gone.. It hurts like all hell. But I've dealt with pain pain before, when we broke up last year. So I'm learning how to take it one day at a time. Like I stated its been 7 long days and each day I want to call or text and say I love you. But I know if I do, I won't get a response , which hurts even more. Every waking day seems hard. I am back home , and I'm at a job that doesn't pay much. I'm trying to find an apartment, go back to school, and fix myself emotionally in the process. This will be my first time out on my own. I don't really have the finance to move, but feel its best to be independent. My ex took the car back that he bought for me, so now, I can't really go look at the apartments I would love to stay at. Life is just hard. I've been getting better, but since I'm off work the next 2 days I woke up crying, and can't take my mind off anything but him. I just pray everyday I get a call or text saying he wants me back. But he stated he wanted a break, and that's what I have to do to respect his wishes. In the meantime I'm hurting.. I don't really have a question I'm just trying to occupy myself by writing on here, so I won't break down and contact him.. I think it's great you have set out a plan for yourself... work, school, emotional healing, etc. I think moving out right now while your finances are not in order will just cause you more stress. Why not stay at home for now until you get your finances figured out, or stay there while you go to school, or get a better paying job? You will be at a whole new frustrated point if you go into debt. One step at a time.
josem Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 It's better for you to move on...you must not limit your world to him..explore new things that forget your pass...maybe your break up is meant to be....but take note if there is any lost there will be replacement.
Author maryslamb Posted November 9, 2011 Author Posted November 9, 2011 (edited) Damn I woke up this morning feeling like ****.. the last text I sent to him was exactly 7 days ago. To let him know that I love him, and if need be I will still come back. Since all my things were still packed. My last text asked 'r u really done with me' and I never got a response. Its been 8 days now since I've moved out, and I still feel devastated. I feel like calling, or texting and telling him things can be worked out and that I love him. Our break ups are alwys so petty. But this time its different. Its different because I've lived with him almost a year. I went out today and bought some alcohol to ease the pain at night, so I can get a good nights sleep. I'm trying my hardest to remain NC . I feel like he kicked me out so I would lose my self dignity if I contacted first. But while I'm worrying about self dignity, I might be missing out and he's meeting someone new. Damn. Edited November 9, 2011 by maryslamb
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