wvgurl595 Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 (edited) About a year ago my husband and I got in a pretty big fight and were separated for awhile. We then made up and everything was ok. Well since all of this happened he all he does is talk about that fight and it seems like he isn't the man I married. He keeps making excuses for not getting a job and I am the one supporting everybody. And then his temper seems to be getting worse and worse. He goes off on everybody (including our kids) at one time he and him were fighting and he told my daughter (who he has always been there for because her dad left me when I was pregnant) that he wasn't her daddy just to hurt her. He keeps bringing things up from the past just to hurt me and when I say something about it he gets really, really mad. We fight at least once a week, and he has began to break all of our stuff that is really expensive (we live poor) when we fight. What do I do?? I love him but I don't know if I can do this anymore! I only want to stay together because of my kids but i'm begining to wonder if that is such a good idea! Please help!! By the way, I am 21 he is 28 and our kids are 2 and 4. The 4 year old is the kid he told that to. I have tried to leave him but he either makes me feel guilty or totally changes and makes me forgive him....I mean like I said I love him and all but I'm not sure what I should do....... Edited November 8, 2011 by wvgurl595 adding info
toosoft Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 He sounds like he would benefit from some professional help (counselling). It is possible he is also suffering with depression. Losing your job can be a life changing event, your no longer the bread winner. There could be all sorts of things going round his head that he never talks about.
Author wvgurl595 Posted November 9, 2011 Author Posted November 9, 2011 He refuses to get a job or do anything like that, it's not that he lost his job!
robf1971 Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 He refuses to get a job or do anything like that, it's not that he lost his job! Stop allowing yourself to be treated like this. A real man deals with stuff that gets thrown at him, your husband is behaving like my 7 year old. Pack his stuff in boxes and throw him out..
Author wvgurl595 Posted November 14, 2011 Author Posted November 14, 2011 Just needed to know I wasn't the only one that was thinking this, I think it would be best for me to leave him....I love him, but it is for the best. I tried to talk him into going to get professional help and he says he doesn't need it, there is no other choice I don't think......
Tiberius Posted November 14, 2011 Posted November 14, 2011 How does he behave at home? Does he take good care of the house and the children? If you earn enough money you two could explore the possibility of him being a househusband.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 We fight at least once a week, and he has began to break all of our stuff that is really expensive (we live poor) when we fight. What do I do?? Call the police and have him arrested. Where I live it is against the law to destroy your own property during a domestic fight. You are the "lucky" bird who won't miss much of anything, as you are not dependent upon him for the roof over your head, or anything of the sort. Set an example for your kids and don't allow yourself to be treated the way you have been treated of late.
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