Cold and calculating profiles

[irc333]

I've come across a slew of profiles recently where there was nothing really "warm" about the woman at all.

 

For instance, the headliner (like with many online profiles) "No games"

 

And even in the profile "if you're looking to score or play games, move on, I take appreciation in my own appearance, and so should you, a good income is a must. Wackjobs and loosers, do not respond"

 

That was it...nothing else of real pleantries in the profile, and I'm seeing a lot like this.

 

Cold, calculating, seems like they had parents that didn't love them when they grew up. LOL Or they told their kids the tooth fairy or Santa Clause doesn't exist

 

Some are written in an oldfashioned "Tele graph" format from Wester Union, "Must be a professional. STOP. Must be good looking STOP, must not play games or be a looser, STOP.

 

I am wondering how are these people even are able to have a relationship without making the other party miserable.

[oaks]

For instance, the headliner (like with many online profiles) "No games"

 

And even in the profile "if you're looking to score or play games, move on, I take appreciation in my own appearance, and so should you, a good income is a must. Wackjobs and loosers, do not respond"

 

Sounds like they don't know how to write a good profile. Maybe their photos are good enough to attract suitors anyway.

 

Some are written in an oldfashioned "Tele graph" format from Wester Union, "Must be a professional. STOP. Must be good looking STOP, must not play games or be a looser, STOP.

 

I think that's an attempt at humour.

[thatone]

the one who took the cake that i saw a few months back was written like a threat, in that if no man she approved of in the next few months showed up to give her a wedding and baby she'd just go to the fertility clinic for artificial insemination.

 

i'm guessing that she didn't have much luck.

[grkBoy]

I've come across a slew of profiles recently where there was nothing really "warm" about the woman at all.

 

For instance, the headliner (like with many online profiles) "No games"

 

And even in the profile "if you're looking to score or play games, move on, I take appreciation in my own appearance, and so should you, a good income is a must. Wackjobs and loosers, do not respond"

 

That was it...nothing else of real pleantries in the profile, and I'm seeing a lot like this.

 

Cold, calculating, seems like they had parents that didn't love them when they grew up. LOL Or they told their kids the tooth fairy or Santa Clause doesn't exist

 

Some are written in an oldfashioned "Tele graph" format from Wester Union, "Must be a professional. STOP. Must be good looking STOP, must not play games or be a looser, STOP.

 

I am wondering how are these people even are able to have a relationship without making the other party miserable.

 

The problem is they put their negativity on their profiles.

 

What boggles my mind are how many women who seriously think "no games" or "no liars" will somehow magically keep those very bad people away. If I was a playa and I wanted to tap said girl, it would only make me work harder to trick her into bed.

 

People lie, play games, stop contacting, get rude, act flaky, etc. Men and women on dating sites need to grow a thick skin and just deal with it. Plus they need to use good judgement to see if someone's in it for the long haul or only wants the short-term.

 

I would never post negativity on a profile. It just makes you out to be a cynic. Plus for the women who put "sick of the games", it only makes me think they want bad boys or a "reformed playa". So why would I email her when it shows she's been in and out with liars and playas repeatedly? It's obvious she's not going to "give the nice guy a chance".

[carhill]

If you're reading female profiles, one potential is that such is done to cut the usual 100+ responses a day down to, say, 50 a day. I know one LS'er who purposely wrote a quite good but rude and satirical profile up just because she didn't care, wasn't really interested in dating and was just flexing her 'skills'. Still, the men descended and filled her e-mail box. That's how it goes.

[grkBoy]

If you're reading female profiles, one potential is that such is done to cut the usual 100+ responses a day down to, say, 50 a day. I know one LS'er who purposely wrote a quite good but rude and satirical profile up just because she didn't care, wasn't really interested in dating and was just flexing her 'skills'. Still, the men descended and filled her e-mail box. That's how it goes.

 

I hear you, but I personally don't think it would do squat.

 

If I was a playa, I might even see her spiel as a challenge, but I also think many actual playas simply could care less what she says on liars. They see a hot girl and immediately go on the prowl to nail her. To use her lust for a hot guy as manipulation to jump into bed quickly, thinking he wants a RL when he doesn't.

 

So the ramblings of how she's sick of liars and playas only tells the RL-minded man, "she's a bad boy chaser"

 

Plus I've noticed from the failed RLs of female friends on dating sites, a lot of these guys aren't even really trying to be playas...but they don't know what they want. So they date a girl for several months, then suddenly get scared and run...thus she believes he was playing her when he was really being a flake.

[dasein]

Here's how it works, privileged, entitled woman gets on OLD site. There are a small percentage of very good looking men with prestigious jobs who milk these sites for sex. She gets a note from one of these, they go out, nature takes its course, he doesn't call again. She proceeds to take it out on the normal men, more on her level, on the site. Oldest story in the book in OLD. They rationalize it by saying they never get mail from decent sincere guys, what this decodes into, "I never get mail from those top 5% guys, way beyond my own value in the dating market, who are also sincere about wanting a relationship with me." That and their refusal to even respond to men who are equivalent in value to themselves is where all the male negativity about OLD comes from.

 

There are women on those sites who are different, concentrating on the negative profiles does them a disservice. Some female profiles leap out and say, "I'm looking for someone cool and interesting and have realisitic expectations." You simply have to look at lots of profiles. The ones who make profiles like the thread topic have done you a favor by broadcasting it and making it easier to screen them out. Be thankful, some of the WORST ones are expert at concealing their true nature until they have milked you dry and messed with your head.

[grkBoy]

Here's how it works, privileged, entitled woman gets on OLD site. There are a small percentage of very good looking men with prestigious jobs who milk these sites for sex. She gets a note from one of these, they go out, nature takes its course, he doesn't call again. She proceeds to take it out on the normal men, more on her level, on the site. Oldest story in the book in OLD. They rationalize it by saying they never get mail from decent sincere guys, what this decodes into, "I never get mail from those top 5% guys, way beyond my own value in the dating market, who are also sincere about wanting a relationship with me." That and their refusal to even respond to men who are equivalent in value to themselves is where all the male negativity about OLD comes from.

 

There are women on those sites who are different, concentrating on the negative profiles does them a disservice. Some female profiles leap out and say, "I'm looking for someone cool and interesting and have realisitic expectations." You simply have to look at lots of profiles. The ones who make profiles like the thread topic have done you a favor by broadcasting it and making it easier to screen them out. Be thankful, some of the WORST ones are expert at concealing their true nature until they have milked you dry and messed with your head.

 

+1 I agree.

[FitChick]

I've read similar ones written by men. Guess what? I ignore and move on.

[Cypress25]

I'm with FitChick on this one. Plenty of men write the same negative stuff in their profiles ("no drama"..."no cheaters"..."no games"..."don't be fat"...) and it's a turnoff for women too. I just ignore those profiles. People can write whatever they want, I don't have to take the bait.

[fishtaco]

Ones that say no games no drama are very often the ones playing games and stirring up drama.