AmericanHoney Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 My BF is emotionally unavailable. He comes in and out all the time. One minute he is blowing up my phone the next he disappears for weeks. How do I handle a emotionally unavailable boyfriend?? He can be kind but the disappearing act and the not willing to open up definitely gets annoying. I have been trying to read up as much as I can about emotionally unavailable people but I haven't found anything worthwhile. Do they ever stop being emotionally unavailable or does anyone have an experience with someone who is emotionally unavailable?
USMCHokie Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 I honestly don't understand how people deal with this nonsense...is he particularly attractive and hence worth keeping around and tolerating such behavior...? But seriously, have you tried talking to him and explaining to him that his disappearing acts are unacceptable? He won't know there's a problem unless you communicate that to him...
Author AmericanHoney Posted November 8, 2011 Author Posted November 8, 2011 I should also add he is 32 and lives with his mum still is that a little odd or does that explain some of his emotionally unavailable traits? I have brought it up a few times but it is always the same old line I am busy with work yadda, yadda, yadda. He isn't attractive like Brad Pitt or anything but he is kinda attractive.
skydiveaddict Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 I honestly don't understand how people deal with this nonsense... Agreed................
colliejoanie Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 Why would you put yourself through this? Emotionally unavailable is just another term for Friends with Benefits. Its really unfair to you....and really selfish of him. Be good to yourself, because it sounds like you're hurting, and he doesn't have the capacity to care.......because his emotions are unavailable......
Emilia Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 I should also add he is 32 and lives with his mum still is that a little odd or does that explain some of his emotionally unavailable traits? I have brought it up a few times but it is always the same old line I am busy with work yadda, yadda, yadda. He isn't attractive like Brad Pitt or anything but he is kinda attractive. He is a manchild that doesn't take responsibility for his actions. Why do you bother with someone like this?
A O Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 My BF is emotionally unavailable. He comes in and out all the time. One minute he is blowing up my phone the next he disappears for weeks. How do I handle a emotionally unavailable boyfriend?? You don't need to handle this type of person. There are just as many, if not more, emotionally steady men out there than this type. Trick is to know what type of man you want or more to the point, what type of behavior you're willing to put up with - or not. This type of stuff is annoying to you - it isn't gonna get any better. If I were you I'd chalk this one up to experience - no emotionally challenged guys for you in the future. Do they ever stop being emotionally unavailable or does anyone have an experience with someone who is emotionally unavailable?They can change but it usually takes a very long period of time (months at least) and in many cases, mild to intensive therapy before any meaningful change occurs. In other words, this won't happen in your relationship time with him .
phillyfan Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 My BF is emotionally unavailable. He comes in and out all the time. One minute he is blowing up my phone the next he disappears for weeks. How do I handle a emotionally unavailable boyfriend?? He can be kind but the disappearing act and the not willing to open up definitely gets annoying. I have been trying to read up as much as I can about emotionally unavailable people but I haven't found anything worthwhile. Do they ever stop being emotionally unavailable or does anyone have an experience with someone who is emotionally unavailable? Dude if he is disapearin 4 weeks he aint ur boyfriend n i wud bet my life thers anotha girl. But wateva evn if i am wrong hes disrespectin u. U need 2 dump this loser.
phillyfan Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 I should also add he is 32 and lives with his mum still is that a little odd or does that explain some of his emotionally unavailable traits? I have brought it up a few times but it is always the same old line I am busy with work yadda, yadda, yadda. He isn't attractive like Brad Pitt or anything but he is kinda attractive. WTF dude 32 an lives with his mom. So wen he is 'disapearin' I guess he aint hittin Vegas, hes jus hangin wit his mom. Wat a freakin LOSER.
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