alexisjones289 Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 I work for a very small organization. Less than ten workers. My much older coworker wants me to date her nephew and has for about the past year and a half. She told my closest coworker about setting us up and I told my close coworker no at that time. Now I am in a position where I would be ok dating him but concerned about what would happen to our working relationship if things went south with her nephew? Granted I have never met the guy but his aunt thinks we would be a great match. We were talking about our work christmas party and she made the comment that if I didn't have a date that she would be glad to set me up with her nephew. She always talks hims up to me. But that was the first time she ever made it public that she wants me to date him. The aunt and I aren't close like friends but I like her as a coworker. When she asked I got rather embarassed and starting using the drill I had in my hand to change the subject.
Nexus One Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 Do you think your coworker is mature enough to keep a friendly coworker relationship with you in case of a breakup/rejection with that guy?
Author alexisjones289 Posted November 9, 2011 Author Posted November 9, 2011 I would hope so. She is near 50. Plus she has made rather mature comments about her own relationship and that they, her current boyfriend, have had problems in the past but have worked past them.
Nexus One Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 I would hope so. She is near 50. Plus she has made rather mature comments about her own relationship and that they, her current boyfriend, have had problems in the past but have worked past them. Then it seems like you have little to worry about. You could for example tell her that you can't guarantee there will be chemistry between you and her family member and that the scenario where there would be no chemistry hopefully wouldn't hurt your working relationship with her. That'll build a sort of foundation for the case that things will not work out.
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