dontstopbelieving Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 A couple months ago, I met a guy online who I went on 3 dates with. We talked a lot and after the third date I realized I really don't want to get involved with him because he lacked some qualities I look for in a man. He was smart and attractive, I just realized he was not for me. I told him I could no longer date him but we can remain as friends, in which I did mean that. He did say he could not be friends since he was attracted to me and there would be sexual tension since we have never hooked up; actually that is weird he told me that. Anyway, I gave him the I can't jump into a relationship because I still can't get over my ex, in which this is true. I get an email from him today charging me money for a date we went on since he claims we never dated anyway. He is currently going through tough times even though he is a lawyer, but he decided to go back to school so he's strapped for cash. What do you think should I pay him back? Its really no biggie for me, I mean 50.00 is not much. I feel like the fact he has resorted to begging for money this way and trying to justify the date as not a date is super pathetic. I really don't want anything to do with him, but I might send him the money for karma's sake.
M2155 Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 Wow I have no advice for you as I have never heard of such a scenario. I guess if it was never determined upfront who was paying, I'd probably ignore it...but wow. You could send him $25 to meet him halfway:confused:. Interesting story.
DownNotOut Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 No way - he took you on a date, not the other way around - he's pissed because it didn't work out - tell him to get bent.
Author dontstopbelieving Posted November 8, 2011 Author Posted November 8, 2011 lol Wow is the word I used in the email I sent back to him. I've never been in this situation before either. The man is bitter and broke and I do feel bad for him to a degree, but part me of is saying...this is not my problem! He took me on a date and wants me to repay him...ugh. Maybe I might go halfway, just because I'm a nice person. I don't know this is just weird.
DownNotOut Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 No way - he's bitter he didn't get in your pants. I've NEVER seen a guy or girl for that fact come back after the fact asking for money, and he's a lawyer? REALLY? real. patethic.
BLuvv Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 Yeah that's ridiculous. He shouldn't be asking people on dates if he isn't willing to pay to go out. A date is not a guarantee that anything will happen, so I don't think he deserves anything. You didn't do anything wrong, you were right to tell him the truth and not lead him on. He obviously has his own issues. Let him beg someone else for money.
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