Carguy1980 Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 ok im really confused. My gf and i were really serious even though it was a long distance relationship. We even talked about marriage. Long story short she broke up with me because we had some minor problems and arguments although i think the main reason could have been because of the distance. well anyway... it's been about 4 months but it seems like she keeps breaking NC. the first couple days after the breakup i did all the wrong things of begging her to come back but i just pushed her away more by doing that. A couple days later i started NC. Ever since then it seems like she always breaks NC but it seems like she puts in a lot of effort to look like she's putting in little effort. She said she still wants to be friends but i cant because its too hard. She will comment on my fb statuses sometimes and i usually ignore them and i never check her fb because its to hard. I have been trying to move on and focus on myself. Been working out and lost 10 lbs, got a new car, moving on with my life, but every time i start to move on she always makes some small attempt to break NC and give me false hope. After a while of not responding to her fb comments she started randomly posting videos on my wall. For example, she posted a video of a cute kitten. She didn't say anything just posted the video. I just said lol and kept it short because i thought it was weird. A couple weeks later we were NC and she texted me a random picture of a guitar. She didn't say anything at all but she just texted the pic. I didn't respond and i got a text from a random number that said, haha awesome. I looked up the number and it was from one of her best friends who i never even knew and didn't have my number. So she had to have asked her friend to do it. I stuck with NC anyway. But bout every two weeks she'd do something small like post a random video on my FB wall and I quit responding. Then after about a month she sent me a FB message saying she still had one of my books and asked if i wanted it back. At this point i started questioning if maybe... she was trying to get in contact with me and that she could possibly miss me. Since its been a couple months of me being strict NC and short responses i decided to be nicer and give her the opportunity to be more personable. i responded and said thanks but she could keep it and i said i hope she was doing well. She started some small talk but later just short answered me and didn't respond at all. Then she went back to simple responss on my fb. I dont get it...... i feel like i shouldn't be the one to try to ask for her back because i already did and she was the dumper. What should i do? Like I said...... she is going way uot of her way to keep in contact with me but i dont know why. If she doesn't want to be with me then why doesnt she leave me alone? Shes a really nice girl and is not one to be a player or toy with feelings. Shes not dating anyone else either. in her past relationships she never had any contact with her exes so i think its weird that shes making so much effort to keep in touch with me even through small talk. What should I do? I still love her and miss her so much but i dont want to play these stupid games. if she doesnt ever want to be with me then i want to move on and i cant be friends because it hurts to much... but if she is making effort to get in contact with me to reconcile then i really want to. i still want to be with her. Any idea about why she is doing this? thanks.
toosoft Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 Dude this is easy If you want to know her intentions, confront her. Ask why after all this time she keeps posting odd things on your fb and texting you etc. If your not satisfied with the answer, you know she's messing with you and its times to cut her off, tell her that too - remind her that you have moved on... remove from fb and change your mobile number etc. Its obviously messing with your head, protect yourself matey
Author Carguy1980 Posted November 8, 2011 Author Posted November 8, 2011 Dude this is easy If you want to know her intentions, confront her. Ask why after all this time she keeps posting odd things on your fb and texting you etc. If your not satisfied with the answer, you know she's messing with you and its times to cut her off, tell her that too - remind her that you have moved on... remove from fb and change your mobile number etc. Its obviously messing with your head, protect yourself matey Ok I'm just not sure how to go about it. Especially since her messages or posts are so light hearted, she could easily just say "Oh I was just being friendly, what's wrong?" i tried taking her off of fb once because it was too hard but when i did she asked me to add her again. ill try though because its not fair and it just gives me false hope when she does stuff like this.
toosoft Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 Try to aim the question in an indirect manner, something light hearted like 'by your posts recently, I could almost mistake it for you making a hit on me lol - when you gunna take me out for dinner then??' - confident, indirect and a bit cheeky. If she isnt hitting on you, the impact on yourself will be less than if you just ask her outright... or am I barking up the wrong tree here?
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