perfectlyflawed459 Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 So I went to see my high school marching band's last practice before state championships, and then I went to say hello to all my friends and such. Then suddenly, he inches up to me and tries to make small talk with me and asks what I thought of the show, while his gf is over there waiting for him. So I just told him "it was good" turned around then a bunch of guys started hugging me and saying how good I looked and how happy they were to see me. It was perfect, he was just standing there staring at me, then he snapped out of it when his gf came up to him. Then throughout the after party, he stared at me from afar and tried inching close to me again, but I walked the other way to talk to someone else. Pretty good night Do I want him back? Heck yes, I miss him so much! But hey he needs to really realize that he made a terrible decision and obviously this shows that he has been thinking about me possibly. So yea guys, NC is a pretty good route to take. It allows you to heal, get yourself together, and handle a run in with you ex with grace
Author perfectlyflawed459 Posted November 8, 2011 Author Posted November 8, 2011 Thanks! It was kind of hard though because I do miss him a lot, but I can't have him walk all over me anymore. Do you think I handled it the right way or should I have been a little more open with him
lymtal1 Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 sounds like you delt with that as good as could be expected. you should be really proud of how you handled that situation. now be very careful where you let your emotions take you. don't get too confident about what happened but i know it is hard not to. just realize where things are and where you are related to him and his situation. cautious is best. and yea you are really pretty:)
Author perfectlyflawed459 Posted November 8, 2011 Author Posted November 8, 2011 sounds like you delt with that as good as could be expected. you should be really proud of how you handled that situation. now be very careful where you let your emotions take you. don't get too confident about what happened but i know it is hard not to. just realize where things are and where you are related to him and his situation. cautious is best. and yea you are really pretty:) Yea I kind of felt bad because I felt like I was a little to harsh, but it is not like being nice has changed anything the past few times. Everytime I am nice it means I give him power. I don't know what will happen, but I am sticking with NC and continuing to live my life to the fullest. Obviously I do cross his mind otherwise I don't think he would have cared to have approached me. Hopefully how I handled it will instill that feeling that he is losing me and that it will start to tear at him slowly day by day till he realizes he messed up. We will see! I will try not to get too cocky though, but it feels good to be able to stand my ground And thank you so much You are very sweet!
DownNotOut Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 You're beautiful - once you heal from this, the boys will be busting down your door - if they aren't already. I think you handled the situation perfectly - we teach people how to treat us, and even know you still have feelings for him - you sent him a clear message that you aren't going to take his sh*t.
Author perfectlyflawed459 Posted November 8, 2011 Author Posted November 8, 2011 You're beautiful - once you heal from this, the boys will be busting down your door - if they aren't already. I think you handled the situation perfectly - we teach people how to treat us, and even know you still have feelings for him - you sent him a clear message that you aren't going to take his sh*t. Thank you so much I have met a few nice guys, but I am just enjoying friendship right now. Definitely in no rush to jump back into a relationship. This time is all about me Yea I felt like it was the right way to go about it. I honestly do not think I am ready to speak to him because he did hurt me pretty badly by dating that other girl. I know we both still care deeply about one another. When I told him I didn't want anything to do with him anymore, he cried and told me she meant nothing and all that stuff. It was hard on both of us, but I don't know why he is making this so complicated. Yea she is more convenient for him, but still. If he ever wants to speak to me again he is going to have to do some serious apologizing...and then some.
DownNotOut Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 Yep - it's difficult when your SO starts dating someone else immediately or worse yet while you are still dating them (even emotionally)... I think you are real smart to claim this as "your time" - you will know when you are ready or if things were meant to be with your ex. Follow your heart and your gut and stick to NC - if he really wants to be with you he will move mountains to show you.
BLuvv Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 I am really impressed how you handled yourself- I think you did as well as anyone could have! Kudos to you!
Author perfectlyflawed459 Posted November 8, 2011 Author Posted November 8, 2011 Yep - it's difficult when your SO starts dating someone else immediately or worse yet while you are still dating them (even emotionally)... I think you are real smart to claim this as "your time" - you will know when you are ready or if things were meant to be with your ex. Follow your heart and your gut and stick to NC - if he really wants to be with you he will move mountains to show you. It isn't as difficult as it was before because I have an idea that he still thinks about me and wants to approach me ya know? Yea he is with her, but I have a strong feeling he isn't investing much into her...I think that relationship is just physical because he isn't even affectionate with her in public. Like he won't hold her hand or anything. You are right though, he will have to move mountains...but only time will tell if he will do so. I would like to think that he approached me because he missed me or something
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