Shontay Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 Hello everyone..I know Im not the only person In the world who has had their heartbroken...but sometimes the pain is just too much for me to deal with.. Most of my family members tell me to be patient it will come to me but how long?? It's hard for me too be genuinely happy for those who are married and in long term relationships because deep down I wish i had it I begin to question myself like whats wrong with me. Im pretty, Im smart ,compassionate, funny...but i constantly get treated like dirt..And it seems like some men only want sex and I dont... I get my feelings involved then they leave..There is only so much a person can take before they give up..I've tried and failed to many times and its devastating...Am I wrong to feel this way??
USMCHokie Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 Perhaps the only thing "wrong" with you is your people picker.
lymtal1 Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 agree with hokie. know it is not an easy thing to do but you have to start looking for those initial signs and red flags and get the heck out before you get too involved. like he says nothing wrong with you especially if you are as you say you are. how and where are you meeting your men? lastly don't give up. it will get better, always does, just may have to change your process
Author Shontay Posted November 8, 2011 Author Posted November 8, 2011 Thx guys..I met a guy recently at my church pretty cool guy but after 2 months of dating His 'ex' appeared out of nowhere lets just say he had alot of skeletons in his closet..lol Im 28 yrs old I know thats young but the older I get i feel like most people my age have ALOT of baggage or are taken..and it gets harder to meet someone.
USMCHokie Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 Im 28 yrs old I know thats young but the older I get i feel like most people my age have ALOT of baggage or are taken..and it gets harder to meet someone. This might be true, but if you consider expanding your dating pool a little, you might find there are a lot more guys out there that don't lug around heavy suitcases of issues...
Author Shontay Posted November 8, 2011 Author Posted November 8, 2011 Yes so true..and I'm homebody and I do need to get out more i'll try my best.
lymtal1 Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 shon, so perfect point here. thank goodness it wasn't two years and she shows up. sometimes you can't forsee this happening so my suggestion would be go slow. don't fall for someone till you are as sure as you can be about those skeletons. then there is no guarantee at that point either, so you do the best you can. you do your research and then all you can do is hope you found the right guy. but you have to start looking for the signs early. is a shame but you are talking about staying away from pain and suffering right:) but have some fun in the mean time..........
MaxNoob Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 know it is not an easy thing to do but you have to start looking for those initial signs and red flags and get the heck out before you get too involved. I once looked up the definition of psychopath and realized my girlfriend had all the signs and symptoms. Some people are very effective at wearing a mask at the start of a relationship to disguise the monster underneath. They can be well aware of the red flags others are looking for and portray themselves as a likable person with Oscar worthy acting abilities "Likeable," "Charming," "Intelligent," "Alert," "Impressive," "Confidence-inspiring" I see these traits and then forget to use due diligence to find out if this is actually a good person.
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