rubyjuly Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 deny it? and when/ if they do, and your gut is telling you otherwise, what are some tip offs that they're lying? when a spouse denies it, what are signs he/she is lying? is it possible for someone to lie and look you in the eyes and appear sincere? or should you just pretty much go by your gut feeling?
Space Ritual Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 deny it? and when/ if they do, and your gut is telling you otherwise, what are some tip offs that they're lying? when a spouse denies it, what are signs he/she is lying? is it possible for someone to lie and look you in the eyes and appear sincere? or should you just pretty much go by your gut feeling? Cheaters lie Cheaters lie Cheaters lie. I ask you to read some of the stories around here if you really need your question answered with emphasis. This place is littered with those who were told countless times by their spouse or s.o. that.... "we are just friends" I only love you "I'd never go for that person, (he, she, it) are not my type." "You are just paranoid" That is just the beginning. However in order to help you more, can you be more specific as to what is going on in your situation so we may better help you?
Owl Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 Deny, minimize, and blameshift. "It's not what you think, honey. We're just friends!" "It's not as bad as you're making it out to be. We only were together once (every night for the last six months)." "If you hadn't left the milk sitting out on the counter, I never would have had to do this!" Standard script, nearly always.
Spark1111 Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 Here is where good, kind and ethical people torture themselves. You have to snoop and gather evidence that is irrefutable before confronting a cheater. They have grown so use to lying that they will continue to lie to your face unless you are waving copies of cell phone records, bank statements, emails and GPS logs. Copies only though. Keep the originals in a safe place for future reference.
reboot Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 More often than not, a "gut feeling" is right.
despicableME Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 I was never confronted, so there was denying involved. Either my wife trusted me that much, or I was DAMN good at keeping it a secret... I'm not a good lier, so I chose the former. Even though I wasn't cornered into lying through my teeth, I was a lier and a cheat. Now I have trouble even telling "white lies" in certain situations because it brings me back to my philandering... serves me right I guess.
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