missed_theboat Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 Looks wise, I tend to like roman noses, kind eyes and good looking shoulders. Although I have been attracted to a wide variety of men. Personality: strongly masculine, truely kind, intelligent with a hint of sarcasm but not sarcasm in cruetly, more of a dry sarcasm, respects our time together and doesn't have a wandering eye, more old fashioned, not obessed with the internet, video games and technology. Honestly cares about doing what is right and enjoys taking care of someone in his own masculine way. (that doesn't mean money before I get jumped on). Basically I like masculine guys that have a bit of a tender heart underneath. Yes! I love those traits. My ex was like that. I loved how he wasn't all over his cell-phone all the time or obsessed with games or technology. He never would have pulled out his phone during a date or when I was chatting with him, as many of my friends do. It's so rude!
Woggle Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 I hate rain on people's parade but that guy from Crazytown she posted is a crackhead now.
Lilmisus Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 Purely looks wise? Bradley Cooper, hands down. Even though my boyfriend's black, blonds (or brunettes) with blue eyes get me ever time
Eve Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 Keanu Reeves and Sawyer from LOST, (Josh Holloway) They are the hottest men in the world. Nicole what's her face from Pussy Cat Dolls is the most beautiful woman, ever. Take care, Eve x
Disenchantedly Yours Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 Yes! I love those traits. My ex was like that. I loved how he wasn't all over his cell-phone all the time or obsessed with games or technology. He never would have pulled out his phone during a date or when I was chatting with him, as many of my friends do. It's so rude! That's a nice quality your ex has. Can I ask why it didn't work out? I also hate when I am out to dinner with my friends or whatever and everyone is pulling out their cellphones and smiling to themselves or angerily typing away. You got to enjoy someone while your with them.
Wolf18 Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 My ideal type of woman is a 5'10 platinum blonde with double dd tits and an english accent. Of course I'm not picky and open to fall in love with a wide array of people, one time I dated a girl who was 5'8, a medium blonde with single D's, who had an Australian accent, see I'm not shallow. *pats self on back*
Metis Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 ^^ Is this meant to get a rise out of people, Wolf? Because if you think that everyone believes the opposite sex owe it to them to date them or at least be attracted to their "type", you are very much mistaken. Date whoever you want, it's your personal business. The fact that your preferred type doesn't match my own looks doesn't make me feel slighted in the least. I don't think anyone else feels offended either. Dating is not a matter of fairness or giving everyone an opportunity. The only thing that puzzles me is: If you've gotten laid so much, with women you find attractive, why so bitter?
Negative Nancy Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 I hate rain on people's parade but that guy from Crazytown she posted is a crackhead now. I know, I watched "celebrity rehab" mainly cos of him.
Nexus One Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 My "ex?!" Why not your current boyfriend? (unless you're joking)
Wolf18 Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 ^^ Is this meant to get a rise out of people, Wolf? Because if you think that everyone believes the opposite sex owe it to them to date them or at least be attracted to their "type", you are very much mistaken.[/Quote] Easy for you to say. When you meet a guy that has your interests, is single, and hits it off with you, as long as you meet some very liberal, barebones standards you are his "type". For men it doesn't work that way at all. Date whoever you want, it's your personal business. The fact that your preferred type doesn't match my own looks doesn't make me feel slighted in the least. I don't think anyone else feels offended either. Dating is not a matter of fairness or giving everyone an opportunity.[/Quote] I was being satirical of women, not making people feel bad. It's not my business, but I reserve the right to say that women who wouldn't date me for my hair color, because im 2 inches under their ideal height, because I don't have a high paying tech job, or any other frivolous factor (trust me, it's pretty common as most men here will testify) are pretty stupid. It's easy to talk about dating not being fair when you're a young girl who is probably atleast moderately attractive and can have almost any guy you want. I'm sure some wealthy slumlord in a third world country will say life isn't fair too, but he isn't one of the tenets. The only thing that puzzles me is: If you've gotten laid so much, with women you find attractive, why so bitter? I've had my time in the sun, but not so much anymore. I think what bothers me the most about my experience with women isn't rejection, it's about how women treated me back when I had an abercrombie & fitch body and metrosexual haircut compared to how they treat me now (despite being in good shape now, I am not completely jacked). I always thought "well I'm sure a girl who I have a lot of interests in common, who I can make laugh, and who is intelligent will overlook the fact that I'm not working out 3 hours a day, don't have a lot of money, and am not that tall" only to find out in the last couple of years that no, they won't and instead they will date a guy who does have all these stupid things even if they have nothing in common with him mentally or spiritually . I'm not that "bitter" about it, I know life isn't fair, but it really drags my opinion of women as a whole through the ground when it happens so many times that it becomes the rule rather than a few bad apples.
Metis Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 Easy for you to say. When you meet a guy that has your interests, is single, and hits it off with you, as long as you meet some very liberal, barebones standards you are his "type". For men it doesn't work that way at all. Actually, that's quite a list. "Your interests" runs the gamut from hobbies to political convictions. It's an umbrella term, not a single item. Same as "hits it off with you" -- that ranges from the woman not having her hair in a buzzcut to behaving in a friendly, considerate manner. The standard may be "liberal" and "barebones", but men have more exacting standards that they would care to admit. I was being satirical of women, not making people feel bad. It's not my business, but I reserve the right to say that women who wouldn't date me for my hair color, because im 2 inches under their ideal height, because I don't have a high paying tech job, or any other frivolous factor (trust me, it's pretty common as most men here will testify) are pretty stupid. I doubt very much women informed you of the precise reasons why they wouldn't date you. Unless of course, you are one of those who, after being rejected nicely, pester a woman about the need to be brutally honest and to present a justification for the rejection. Whenever I am asked that, my standard response is: "Because you are stupid enough to ask me that question." Other women have different come-backs, I'm sure. Now, I don't know what you look like. Assuming you are average, however and, based on what you've said here, fairly short (5'4"?), I'd say in my opinion, easily the most unattractive thing about you is your bitterness and certain views you hold -- and not just about women. It's easy to talk about dating not being fair when you're a young girl who is probably atleast moderately attractive and can have almost any guy you want. I'm sure some wealthy slumlord in a third world country will say life isn't fair too, but he isn't one of the tenets. Not having a sexual partner that you want is not an equivalent of living in a slum in a third-world country. I've had my time in the sun, but not so much anymore. I think what bothers me the most about my experience with women isn't rejection, it's about how women treated me back when I had an abercrombie & fitch body and metrosexual haircut compared to how they treat me now (despite being in good shape now, I am not completely jacked). I always thought "well I'm sure a girl who I have a lot of interests in common, who I can make laugh, and who is intelligent will overlook the fact that I'm not working out 3 hours a day, don't have a lot of money, and am not that tall" only to find out in the last couple of years that no, they won't and instead they will date a guy who does have all these stupid things even if they have nothing in common with him mentally or spiritually . I'm not that "bitter" about it, I know life isn't fair, but it really drags my opinion of women as a whole through the ground when it happens so many times that it becomes the rule rather than a few bad apples.Women who are more conventionally attractive also have more success than less attractive ones. There is no reason to hate men for it. Just like there is no reason to hate women for being more attracted to more attractive men. Especially since your looks aren't the problem, from where I'm sitting.
ShannonMI Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 ^^ Is this meant to get a rise out of people, Wolf? Because if you think that everyone believes the opposite sex owe it to them to date them or at least be attracted to their "type", you are very much mistaken. Date whoever you want, it's your personal business. The fact that your preferred type doesn't match my own looks doesn't make me feel slighted in the least. I don't think anyone else feels offended either. Dating is not a matter of fairness or giving everyone an opportunity. The only thing that puzzles me is: If you've gotten laid so much, with women you find attractive, why so bitter? I think he was joking with that post. Maybe I'm wrong. It's hard to read Wolf because he is very, very sarcastic. He is bitter. That is a fact. Look at that mug. He's got such a scowl on his face. He'd be better looking if he smiled. Maybe he'd even get laid.
ScienceGal Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 My ideal man is... Confident. He works hard and knows what he has to offer. Attractive (to me). He takes care of himself and cares about being healthy. Big-hearted. Whether it's a certain charity or a sappy movie, things pull at his heart strings. This guy is secure in caring and showing his soft side. Thoughtful. He cares about things other than himself. About his family, public issues, or life in general. That's how I know he at least has the capacity to care about me. Loving. He has to show me (unprompted) that he loves me through actions and words. A communicator. He has to know how to communicate his thoughts, or at least admit "I'm not sure" and then get back to me in a timely fashion. Financially secure. I don't mean wealthy, but he has to be able to take care of himself and be financially responsible. That's just off the cuff...
Disenchantedly Yours Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 Wolf18 I was being satirical of women, not making people feel bad. It's not my business, but I reserve the right to say that women who wouldn't date me for my hair color, because im 2 inches under their ideal height, because I don't have a high paying tech job, or any other frivolous factor (trust me, it's pretty common as most men here will testify) are pretty stupid. You might not hold out for the blond with the big boobs but most men will "settle" for a woman in real life that doesn't fit their fantasy and then seek out their variations of a fantasy women through porn to masturbate to for the rest of their lives. So while their good girlfriend/wife is cleaning their place, making dinner or taking care of the baby, he is sitting behind his computer jerking off to Bad Babysitters video 10000000000000. It's easy to talk about dating not being fair when you're a young girl who is probably atleast moderately attractive and can have almost any guy you want. I'm sure some wealthy slumlord in a third world country will say life isn't fair too, but he isn't one of the tenets. Well, in the real world, that's not how it works. Even if your young and semi attractive, men don't all the sudden fall to heel. Alot of men play games. Just like women. I've had my time in the sun, but not so much anymore. I think what bothers me the most about my experience with women isn't rejection, it's about how women treated me back when I had an abercrombie & fitch body and metrosexual haircut compared to how they treat me now (despite being in good shape now, I am not completely jacked). I always thought "well I'm sure a girl who I have a lot of interests in common, who I can make laugh, and who is intelligent will overlook the fact that I'm not working out 3 hours a day, don't have a lot of money, and am not that tall" only to find out in the last couple of years that no, they won't and instead they will date a guy who does have all these stupid things even if they have nothing in common with him mentally or spiritually . I'm not that "bitter" about it, I know life isn't fair, but it really drags my opinion of women as a whole through the ground when it happens so many times that it becomes the rule rather than a few bad apples. You realize men do the same exact things? Men give you more or less attention depending on yoru body. Any woman that's had her weight flucate knows this. Super hot girls at the gym are getting hit on and more regular girls are getting ignored.
betterdeal Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 Definitely has a pulse. That's non-negotiable. Likes travel, dogs, skipping, dancing, laughter, chicken soup, the outdoors. Has female friends, and good hips. 5'9". Slightly Bohemian but not too much. Tactile, bright, inquisitive, self-assured, not a neat freak. So while their good girlfriend/wife is cleaning their place, making dinner or taking care of the baby, he is sitting behind his computer jerking off to Bad Babysitters video 10000000000000. It's out already? Woo hoo!
betterdeal Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 You realize men do the same exact things? Men give you more or less attention depending on yoru body. Any woman that's had her weight flucate knows this. Super hot girls at the gym are getting hit on and more regular girls are getting ignored. Well, yes, there's not much point in calling some people "hot" otherwise, is there? And don't tell me you watched Fight Club for the profound socio-political subtext. Sexy people are sexy.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 Well, yes, there's not much point in calling some people "hot" otherwise, is there? And don't tell me you watched Fight Club for the profound socio-political subtext. Sexy people are sexy. I've never seen Fight Club because I don't really like Brad Pitt for one thing and the movie never much interested me.
Author jobaba Posted November 9, 2011 Author Posted November 9, 2011 ^^ Is this meant to get a rise out of people, Wolf? Because if you think that everyone believes the opposite sex owe it to them to date them or at least be attracted to their "type", you are very much mistaken. Date whoever you want, it's your personal business. The fact that your preferred type doesn't match my own looks doesn't make me feel slighted in the least. I don't think anyone else feels offended either. Dating is not a matter of fairness or giving everyone an opportunity. The only thing that puzzles me is: If you've gotten laid so much, with women you find attractive, why so bitter? If I meet a woman in a bar and she rejects me because of my looks (which has been done often and rather BRUTALLY I might add), I won't care. Won't lose a wink of sleep over it. But when I learn to love a person for who they are on the inside and genuinely get to know them as a human being over a long period of time, and vice versa, and then they reject me because I'm too short or not of the right race... That is what makes people bitter. A LOT of people have not had to face this kind of rejection. Some people haven't faced rejection ever. So, you see why you and certain men have such different perspectives.
betterdeal Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 I've never seen Fight Club because I don't really like Brad Pitt for one thing and the movie never much interested me. But the profound socio-political subtext is remarkable!
ScienceGal Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 My ideal man is... Confident. He works hard and knows what he has to offer. Attractive (to me). He takes care of himself and cares about being healthy. Big-hearted. Whether it's a certain charity or a sappy movie, things pull at his heart strings. This guy is secure in caring and showing his soft side. Thoughtful. He cares about things other than himself. About his family, public issues, or life in general. That's how I know he at least has the capacity to care about me. Loving. He has to show me (unprompted) that he loves me through actions and words. A communicator. He has to know how to communicate his thoughts, or at least admit "I'm not sure" and then get back to me in a timely fashion. Financially secure. I don't mean wealthy, but he has to be able to take care of himself and be financially responsible. That's just off the cuff... I love that what I wrote after "thoughtful" has nothing to do with being thoughtful. That's what happens when I'm half in the bag and day dreamin about the perfect man. Haha!
Wolf18 Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 Actually, that's quite a list. "Your interests" runs the gamut from hobbies to political convictions. It's an umbrella term, not a single item. Same as "hits it off with you" -- that ranges from the woman not having her hair in a buzzcut to behaving in a friendly, considerate manner. The standard may be "liberal" and "barebones", but men have more exacting standards that they would care to admit.[/Quote] It's pretty much assumed that most men don't like women that shave their heads...but I suppose you can add this to the extraordinarily long list of male standards I doubt very much women informed you of the precise reasons why they wouldn't date you. Unless of course, you are one of those who, after being rejected nicely, pester a woman about the need to be brutally honest and to present a justification for the rejection. Whenever I am asked that, my standard response is: "Because you are stupid enough to ask me that question." Other women have different come-backs, I'm sure. Now, I don't know what you look like. Assuming you are average, however and, based on what you've said here, fairly short (5'4"?), I'd say in my opinion, easily the most unattractive thing about you is your bitterness and certain views you hold -- and not just about women. [/Quote] I'm around 5'8, if I was 5'4 I'd die a virgin . Women didn't come out and say why they picked so and so guy over me, but you can see a trend or they let it slip when they got their guard down. I don't pester women i randomly hit on or who are just acquaintances, but if a girl is someone that becomes close to me and she rejects me I think I have a right to know what could possibly outbalance all the good times and things we have in common. I never get a response, but just by looking at their boyfriends who they have nothing in common with and talking to their friends. Regardless of my attitude, a woman who likes a guy that looks different from me is still not going to like me. Likewise, a woman that looks to look at me is probably going to overlook certain negative aspects of my personality. Judging from the type of guy women are lining up for , I don't know how you can even argue that my attitude is that bad. Not having a sexual partner that you want is not an equivalent of living in a slum in a third-world country. [/Quote] No but a young, hot girl telling me that sex is not a right and life isn't fair is about the same, the haves patronizing the have-nots. The people in the slums should stop complaining, life isn't fair and a decent place to live isn't a right! Women who are more conventionally attractive also have more success than less attractive ones. There is no reason to hate men for it. Just like there is no reason to hate women for being more attracted to more attractive men. Especially since your looks aren't the problem, from where I'm sitting. [/Quote] I don't hate them for that, I hate how nothing can counter balance that. Me personally, a woman I have many things in common with will always be more attractive to me than a very physically attractive woman who doesn't. For women, they want to have it both ways, have a male "friend" that they share interests with, and bang someone with a room temperature IQ who is very physically attractive to them, you can hate that kind of insulting behavior.
Author jobaba Posted November 9, 2011 Author Posted November 9, 2011 (edited) I'm around 5'8, if I was 5'4 I'd die a virgin . No offense man, but 5'8" is not really even short. The way you complain about height, I thought you were much shorter. Some taller girls and shallow girls will not date a man that short, but TONS will. Like 33% of men are shorter than you. 5'8" is like shorter end of average. But definitely average. Height is not your problem. Edited November 9, 2011 by jobaba
Wolf18 Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 No offense man, but 5'8" is not really even short. The way you complain about height, I thought you were much shorter. Some taller girls and shallow girls will not date a man that short, but TONS will. Like 33% of men are shorter than you. 5'8" is like shorter end of average. But definitely average. Height is not your problem. You must live in a place that doesn't have many tall people, girls I know will even say being 6'0 isn't that tall. Most women want to date a guy whose atleast 6'2, and if he's under that he better have a billion things going for him. I think it's insane too, but it's not going to make it go away.
Author jobaba Posted November 9, 2011 Author Posted November 9, 2011 (edited) You must live in a place that doesn't have many tall people, girls I know will even say being 6'0 isn't that tall. Most women want to date a guy whose atleast 6'2, and if he's under that he better have a billion things going for him. I think it's insane too, but it's not going to make it go away. You only see what you want to see. Yea. I'm short too, shorter than you actually. And when I go out, sometimes all I see are the dudes who are 6'1" and 6'2" and I feel real short. But the average height of American males is 5'10". Over half of the men in this country are under 6 foot. It's a fact. Yea, there are women who won't date men under 6 foot who are like 5'4". Shallow b@tches. Screw them. I'm not saying short guys don't get a raw deal. They do. But 5'8" isn't really short. Also, I live in the same place you live. The height is actually shorter because of the Asians, Mexicans, and white men of Italian descent. If you went to like North Dakota, where the majority are Norwegian, Aryan, whatever white, the height would be a lot taller. Edited November 9, 2011 by jobaba
Negative Nancy Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 But the profound socio-political subtext is remarkable! your sarcastic comment right there shows that you indeed did not grasp the movie. it actually IS a very good movie with a good storyline and a good message. and edward norton was the more interesting character anyway - he was complemented by Pitt, but Pitt did not make the movie. his - admittedly - very good looks just emphasize how a good haircut and some good clothes can work wonders for men. i mean pitt looked like a gay younger brother of joshua kadison (if anyone remembers that shmoozy ballad singer from the 90s) in "7 years in tibet" and like a bum in many paparazzi pics where he had this full beard. so even a brad pitt can look unattractive with the wrong style. he even looked unattractive later on in the movie with his shaven head. but with the right haircut, good clothes and a cool attitude he was very hot in that movie. which in turn means many whiny men here too could make themselves more attractive to the opposite gender if they turned themselves around a little. isn't that what you expect us women to do as well - look good? well, put your money where your mouth is then, guys.
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