danny1972 Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 jesus where do i begin .... split from ex of 3 yrs a year and a half ago , was a bad relationship ,alcohol, violence numerous police visits at the house . now before we get started i want to stipulate i have never been violent in any relationships just not in my nature ,however this one i was im still trying to understand why im the most non violent person you could ever meet , i was drinking heavily during our time together mainly because she did ( i guess i got caught up with her lifestyle ) . on with the facts ..... she has been raped 4 times , yeah u heard right 4 by 4 diff people however i dismissed this as i liked her plus she kinda dealt with the situation well , however when we were drinking i would throw it in her face something like " you have no self respect if u did u would have learnt from the first time you keep putting yr self in these situations " but she was a terrible flirt figure that one out !!!! funny thing is i never respected her was that my fault ? loved her oh yeah very much sobre she was a diff person one night we were both drunk it spiraled out of controll i was violent for the first time ever anyway we split . 6 months later i saw her in a pub she was drunk we had sex ,feelings came flooding back but i also knew the violence was the final nail in the coffin as far as getting bk together was concerned . a year later she has had about 8 boyfriends ,one was my friend needless to say i went crazy i text her saying " you f...ing slag etc i totally abused her for a week maybe longer , thing is when im drunk i text her saying i miss u etc ... it's like i cant help my self i love her still i never get a reply i guess i done to much damage this time ,funny thing is i know it will never work why do i think she was the only one for me when quite clearly she wasn't .
joseph17 Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 My ex-wife was the same exact way almost to the T except she got "raped" 3 different times. I am also the least violent person you will ever meet but this woman turned me into something I wasn't. They know how to get under your skin and make you feel like ****. I hated being married to that woman and the only reason I tried to work it out. was because we had 3 kids together. Eventually I ended up leaving and honestly 3 years after we have not eren together I am still messed up. Relationships like that take a hold on you for some reason and hard to let go. In my situation I ended up with all 3 of my kids by myself without any help from her because of her neglagence. Yes we still talk only because I won't be the blame for my ings not having their mom in their life. You got lucky man and got out while you could with no strings attached. Once abuse is a factor in a relationship it never goes away and usually can not be fixed. This woman will only end up getting you locked behind bars i promise you that
Author danny1972 Posted November 7, 2011 Author Posted November 7, 2011 joseph thank you so much for your post and you are exactly right , my friends said to me " if you stay with her you will get drunk one night either 2 things will happen either (A) she will accuse you of rape out of spite , or (B) you will end up killing each other ,she has major issues i feel sorry for her current boyfriend he has it all to come , she he has to much baggage to sustain a healthy relationship without therapy , thank you so much you have just confirmed what everyone was thinking i guess i feel bad for being violent , she turned me in to someone i never wanted to be and never was , now she is telling everyone i was violent , doesn,t make sence cos one day she will meet someone who wont take half as much crap as i did and end up in hospital and realize she is the one who needs to change , thanks jason .
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