Mark1 Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 -Been on two dates -Smooched on the 2nd (Thursday) -We agreed to meet up today (Monday) -I texted her last night -She replied: Sorry, I have to work then I have an event -I reply: Alright. What about Wednesday? (She doesn't work then) -She replied: "Maybe" Huh?
GivenUp0083 Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 Third this If a girl likes you, there's no way she's going to let anything get in the way of seeing you again on a planned date. Why? Because she'd be too afraid of you thinking that she's blowing you off. So why does she actually do this? Because she doesn't care if she blows you off. Sounds shady, she's unsure, and if they're unsure it means they're not interested. Spend your time and money on a girl that's interested.
PlumPrincess Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 She's over 40! Look for someone your age!
PlumPrincess Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 Over 40 women are like spoiled milk ( since women age like fine, vintage milk and Men like fine wine ). She will give you bad tummy aches and the runs.. You're a jerk. I get so many offers from men in their fifties who only want to date someone younger than them, sometimes more than 20 years younger. I look at their picture and wonder what kind of drugs they're using. Delusion is a man's best friend.
Author Mark1 Posted November 7, 2011 Author Posted November 7, 2011 Do I even bother texting her on Wed?
Imajerk17 Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 I'd ask her directly. "Hey is something up? Cold cancel, no offer to reschedule... I'm not into playing games. If something happened just let me know."
InJest Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 Don't initiated contact with her. You said you weren't pursuing her anymore, so let her pursue you.
geegirl Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 Originally Posted by BestMan Over 40 women are like spoiled milk ( since women age like fine, vintage milk and Men like fine wine ). She will give you bad tummy aches and the runs.. You're probably a dirtbag that preys on young women that you can control and mould into what you'd like them to be so they listen and shut up. You can't handle a real woman because you're not a man. You're only capable of child's play. Your comment sounds like you're a bitter man for what I can assume are results from the injustices of women towards you. You're probably one of those yucky men that stand in corners at bars by themselves, glass in hand, looking incredibly slimey hoping for a young un to be severely drunk enough to pay you some attention. That would be all you can get.
PlumPrincess Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 Hmm...I agree with BestMan in this case...40+ women are pretty nasty....ones you go over 30..it's all down hill...you just mad because he saw how old and bitter you are....don't be said grandma....love and joy is key! I'm glad I gave up on my policy of replying to every freaky message I get.
Author Mark1 Posted November 7, 2011 Author Posted November 7, 2011 Can we get back to my situation please?
xpaperxcutx Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 I'm glad I gave up on my policy of replying to every freaky message I get. Great policy. And the fact that any woman who gives lukewarm responses tend to put you in the backburner is another reason why one should not pursue through text. I reserve texting for my closest friends ( especially since they work most mornings) but I still like to actually pick up my phone and call.
Lilmisus Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 I don't know the story with this chica, so I'll just go off of this thread alone. I think you should message her once more about Wednesday, probably on Wednesday asking if her "maybe" has turned into a "yes." I think if it hasn't and if she is still acting shady or cold, then tell her that if she wants to go out sometime let you know when she's free. If she doesn't...then let it go. But I do think that if she cancelled on you without a backup date, then that is a clear sign that she's not too interested.
Cee Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 Hi Mark - It's not acceptable to make a plan and then have her cancel once you contact her. If something important came up, she'd contact you first and reschedule. My rule of thumb on people canceling is if they don't make an effort to reschedule, then it's best to let it go. From what you wrote, she's not feeling a spark & that's not anything you should take personally.
Author Mark1 Posted November 10, 2011 Author Posted November 10, 2011 Hi Mark - It's not acceptable to make a plan and then have her cancel once you contact her. If something important came up, she'd contact you first and reschedule. My rule of thumb on people canceling is if they don't make an effort to reschedule, then it's best to let it go. From what you wrote, she's not feeling a spark & that's not anything you should take personally. Sorry for not being clear - we did not make concrete plans. The one time we DID make concrete plans, and she had to cancel, she texted me, was very nice/apologetic about it, and suggested another day. As far as the situation, aside from her liking my status on FB the other day, there has been no contact either way this week.
Author Mark1 Posted November 18, 2011 Author Posted November 18, 2011 (edited) Well, she said she needed some space. So, 10 days later, I texted her this. "Hi [name]. I am sorry if I came across too eager upon first meeting you. If you can forgive me, i'd like to you see you again sometime. If you'd rather go our separate ways, I understand that, too. She replied this: "Yes, of course I want to see you again. After thanksgiving is much better. I forget how busy this time of year gets. And how it sneaks up on me. I would love a text from you when you are up for it; after you are feeling better from your surgery, let me know how it goes. " Edited November 18, 2011 by Mark1
cerridwen Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 Mark = moxie. Way to turn it around. However, manage your expectations because she seems to run hot and cold.
Author Mark1 Posted November 18, 2011 Author Posted November 18, 2011 Mark = moxie. Way to turn it around. However, manage your expectations because she seems to run hot and cold. I will keep an even keel, thank you. And the surgery is minor.
whichwayisup Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 -Been on two dates -Smooched on the 2nd (Thursday) -We agreed to meet up today (Monday) -I texted her last night -She replied: Sorry, I have to work then I have an event -I reply: Alright. What about Wednesday? (She doesn't work then) -She replied: "Maybe" Huh? Then maybe it is. Let her call you and ask you out. Don't chase a girl who isn't showing signs of excitement. If she was really into you, there would be no "maybe".
Author Mark1 Posted November 18, 2011 Author Posted November 18, 2011 Then maybe it is. Let her call you and ask you out. Don't chase a girl who isn't showing signs of excitement. If she was really into you, there would be no "maybe". This was bumped for a reason. Because there was an update.
whichwayisup Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 This was bumped for a reason. Because there was an update. Oops, sorry I just realized that and was going to post back to you.. Take it slow and just see how things go. Hope your surgery goes well.
Author Mark1 Posted November 18, 2011 Author Posted November 18, 2011 Oops, sorry I just realized that and was going to post back to you.. Take it slow and just see how things go. Hope your surgery goes well. Thank you.
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