itteloc Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 I am contemplating my happiness in this relationship of over 1 year with my girlfriend. I love her. She means everything on the other side of the coin I feel I may have been blinded over the last year. Or maybe I'm overreacting and just woke up on the wrong side of the bed. Either way I need your guys help. Here's my story. Months ago I caught my g/f hiding her bosses phone number in her phone under the name of a female. She had the name of a friend in her phone that I had never met that she'd chat with sometimes so I called the # and it was a guy. Confronted her and it so happens it was her boss. She is a manager at her job. Her excuse was since at her job she can't have her phone on her she leaves it in the backroom and didn't want employees to see messages from her boss because sometimes messages pertain to her employees. She didn't want them to know it was him incase they read through her messages in the backroom and seen his name. She does have a lock on her phone but her text messages can be read even with the lock on. Now she never told me she had his name under a girls name and I when I first found it she didn't admit it right away? If it was no big deal or nothing to hide I thought she'd come clean right away and say she forgot to tell me. This is months after we've known each other We got past all this and put it behind us. I gained my trust back for her. Maybe I was dumb. Maybe I should have let her go right there. She never talks to him on the phone or text in front of me. Hardly ever at least. She's admitted to going out to lunch with him without telling me which had me a little concerned. Last week I seen her phone log as she scrolled through it. His name would be in there but she talked to him minutes after I left the house to go to the store. Which is weird since she claims she never talks to him outside of work unless it's a work emergency. So yesterday he texts her with a simple "hello" an opened ended question. She seemed very nervous and weird and I was like what's wrong who is that? She said oh my boss. She refused to answer his text message which was very weird to me. I said you should she what he wants. She said oh it's not important I don't want to answer him. She wouldn't answer his text message. It was just odd to me. Funny thing is a female friend from work text me once from work and she jumped on my phone and answered her before I could!! Red flag huh? But she has the nerve to say I have trust issues about her boss? Don't I have the right to since hid his number. She snapped out of nowhere if I think she and her boss have something going on to leave her.Just like that. Told me to leave her. her ex sent me a very long email about her on facebook that I ingnored figuring he was just trying to ruin things. Claiming she's a cheater and cheated on him. And to give him a call so he could tell me all about her. I never did. It's just I'm a very loyal and upfront person and expect the same back. I want to break up with her. She owes $600 and she doesn't get paid till Friday when she is going to give it back to me. and I'm afraid if I break up with her before then I wont get it. She keeps texting me today acting all nice. Am I overreacting and should give her the benefit of the doubt? Or should I just move on?
tman666 Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 Don't drop any bombs until you get your money back... Then, I'd probably break up with her. Don't accuse her of anything you don't have proof for, but explain to her that you have trust issues with her that cannot be resolved and that the relationship isn't healthy. Wish her well and drop off the radar, never to be heard from again.
Author itteloc Posted November 7, 2011 Author Posted November 7, 2011 lol @ bestman and tman thanks for the input. And yeah I've never accused her of anything.
ShannonMI Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 I am contemplating my happiness in this relationship of over 1 year with my girlfriend. I love her. She means everything on the other side of the coin I feel I may have been blinded over the last year. Or maybe I'm overreacting and just woke up on the wrong side of the bed. Either way I need your guys help. Here's my story. Months ago I caught my g/f hiding her bosses phone number in her phone under the name of a female. She had the name of a friend in her phone that I had never met that she'd chat with sometimes so I called the # and it was a guy. Confronted her and it so happens it was her boss. She is a manager at her job. Her excuse was since at her job she can't have her phone on her she leaves it in the backroom and didn't want employees to see messages from her boss because sometimes messages pertain to her employees. She didn't want them to know it was him incase they read through her messages in the backroom and seen his name. She does have a lock on her phone but her text messages can be read even with the lock on. Now she never told me she had his name under a girls name and I when I first found it she didn't admit it right away? If it was no big deal or nothing to hide I thought she'd come clean right away and say she forgot to tell me. This is months after we've known each other We got past all this and put it behind us. I gained my trust back for her. Maybe I was dumb. Maybe I should have let her go right there. She never talks to him on the phone or text in front of me. Hardly ever at least. She's admitted to going out to lunch with him without telling me which had me a little concerned. Last week I seen her phone log as she scrolled through it. His name would be in there but she talked to him minutes after I left the house to go to the store. Which is weird since she claims she never talks to him outside of work unless it's a work emergency. So yesterday he texts her with a simple "hello" an opened ended question. She seemed very nervous and weird and I was like what's wrong who is that? She said oh my boss. She refused to answer his text message which was very weird to me. I said you should she what he wants. She said oh it's not important I don't want to answer him. She wouldn't answer his text message. It was just odd to me. Funny thing is a female friend from work text me once from work and she jumped on my phone and answered her before I could!! Red flag huh? But she has the nerve to say I have trust issues about her boss? Don't I have the right to since hid his number. She snapped out of nowhere if I think she and her boss have something going on to leave her.Just like that. Told me to leave her. her ex sent me a very long email about her on facebook that I ingnored figuring he was just trying to ruin things. Claiming she's a cheater and cheated on him. And to give him a call so he could tell me all about her. I never did. It's just I'm a very loyal and upfront person and expect the same back. I want to break up with her. She owes $600 and she doesn't get paid till Friday when she is going to give it back to me. and I'm afraid if I break up with her before then I wont get it. She keeps texting me today acting all nice. Am I overreacting and should give her the benefit of the doubt? Or should I just move on? She's totally hiding something. Kick this girl to the curb.
Author itteloc Posted November 7, 2011 Author Posted November 7, 2011 She's totally hiding something. Kick this girl to the curb. Really Shannon you think so? It's great to get a females perspective
ShannonMI Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 Really Shannon you think so? It's great to get a females perspective Absolutely she's hiding something. Come on. His number is under a female's name? She wants to be able to text him around the clock and have you think it's "Sheila" or whoever. She's sneaky, sneaky.
InJest Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 I see two options for you. 1) Continue seeing her, but detach emotionally and look for other girls. Use her for sex and nothing more. It's always easier to get a girl when you already have one, so use her for the sex and confidence to attract other girls. When you find someone better, or just someone to sleep with regularly, dump your g/f(or just string her along). 2) Get the money back, then dump her.
ShannonMI Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 I see two options for you. 1) Continue seeing her, but detach emotionally and look for other girls. Use her for sex and nothing more. It's always easier to get a girl when you already have one, so use her for the sex and confidence to attract other girls. When you find someone better, or just someone to sleep with regularly, dump your g/f(or just string her along). 2) Get the money back, then dump her. Do not do #1. Why play the games? Also, she could be banging her boss. Do you want to be banging her too? Gross!! Stringing someone along is just stupid. Don't do it OP #2 is the way to go
ShannonMI Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 I see two options for you. 1) Continue seeing her, but detach emotionally and look for other girls. Use her for sex and nothing more. It's always easier to get a girl when you already have one, so use her for the sex and confidence to attract other girls. When you find someone better, or just someone to sleep with regularly, dump your g/f(or just string her along). 2) Get the money back, then dump her. Do not do #1. Why play the games? Also, she could be banging her boss. Do you want to be banging her at the same time? Gross!! Stringing someone along is just stupid. Don't do it OP #2 is the way to go
InJest Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 Do not do #1. Why play the games? Also, she could be banging her boss. Do you want to be banging her at the same time? Gross!! Stringing someone along is just stupid. Don't do it OP #2 is the way to go You play the games so you don't have to go without sex, you're less tempted to go back to her because of loneliness, and so it hurts her more when he leaves her for another girl. #2 is easier though.
ShannonMI Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 You play the games so you don't have to go without sex, you're less tempted to go back to her because of loneliness, and so it hurts her more when he leaves her for another girl. #2 is easier though. That's just gross. Some other dude had his dick in her pussy. Why would you even want to go there? If I was a guy I wouldn't even be able to get it up if I knew she was f*cking another guy.:sick:
Professor X Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 A girl I used to talk with a long long time ago used to put my name under a female name cause her BF didn't let her speak with any guys, so obviously her agenda was to hide her RS with me (although just friendly) from her BF. tl;dr: Obviously she's hiding him from you.
InJest Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 I've never had sex with a virgin, so someone's dick has been in every pussy that I've ****ed. I'm pretty promiscuous myself, so it doesn't really bother me. It's also not confirmed whether or not she's slept with this other guy. Psychologically tormenting her would be the main goal in this situation.
ShannonMI Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 I've never had sex with a virgin, so someone's dick has been in every pussy that I've ****ed. I'm pretty promiscuous myself, so it doesn't really bother me. It's also not confirmed whether or not she's slept with this other guy. Psychologically tormenting her would be the main goal in this situation. Yes but this girl could bang her boss and then bang you the same day. It's just not cool in my book, but that's just me.
ShannonMI Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 That IS just you...she is a woman, you are a woman...case closed! Right....men are disgusting pigs. Gotcha:rolleyes:
InJest Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 Shannon, it doesn't really matter. This has been going on for a year already, so what's the big deal if it happens one more time? I was just telling him the best way to really crush her, have her beg, and just feel like **** in general.
ShannonMI Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 Shannon, it doesn't really matter. This has been going on for a year already, so what's the big deal if it happens one more time? I was just telling him the best way to really crush her, have her beg, and just feel like **** in general. Right keep banging her and f*ck with her head. Waste even MORE time. Good idea. Totally.
InJest Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 If he does it while looking for another girl, it's not a waste of time at all. He can just drop his g/f and and move on to the next without giving his g/f another thought.
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