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I honestly dont know how to handle this! (Long Thread Sorry)

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(THE PROBLEM IS AT THE BOTTOM OF THE CHAT)

Basically me and this girl have liked eachother for 3/4+ years, we were in a LDR, and we have dated before for 7 months and we broke up tried it again and broke up again anyways so my problem is basically she is saying that she lost her virginity to a guy (She wont name) after we've had a promise to lost it to eachother and we've kept that promise for 3/4 years and im really hurt that she would break this promise (If she did) now i think shes lying because of the following factors

 

1 - She has lied in the past about doing stuff with guys to get me mad (After our first break up)

 

2 - because it wasn't her boyfriend and

she wouldn't tell you who makes me think she made the guy up

 

3 - just how I read that part of the chat it seemed to me like she was lying about it

 

4 - because we have had a 3 year promise to lose our virginitys together

 

5 - the time line does not add up

 

6 - it just seems odd for her to lose her virginity from just being horny

 

timeline - for the time line she says she did it after the break up but she wouldn't cheat on a boyfriend (This i know for a fact) so that means it would have had to been in the 1 in a half month time line but when she started to date this new guy she told me she never lost it... anyways ill just let you guys read the chat and my questions are at the bottom

 

 

The chat goes on from 6:00 to 8:00 and it seems sense i was gone she waited 4 hours for me to get on

 

 

Me - happy would have been anniversery lol seeing as how it woulda been our 1 year the 26th of last month i posted it on myspace but i forgot you dont get on myspace alot

 

Her - haha thanks

srry it didnt work out

hope that we are still friends??

Nudge

why dont you talk to me

Nudge

=[

Nudge

okay i get it ill leaveu alone im just going thru a lot right now i could really use someonr to talk to but i guess not

 

me - sorry i was gone

 

her - oh

 

me - yea so whats wrong?

 

her - ohh my gpa is having surgrey tmrw an might not make it

 

me - awweee whyy?

 

her - on his legs an heart his heart isnt working right an his major artery in his heart is cloged an him legs arnt getting blood bkuz of blockage in his legs an his legs an toes are all black

 

me - oh... that sucks really bad brit im sorry to hear it i really do hope he gets better...

 

her - i dont think he is strong enough to go thru a surgery

 

me - is it the grandpa i met when i was at your house?

 

her - yes

 

me - thats horrible i think he will make it though

 

her - idk do u no what ecoli is

 

me - yea why?

 

her - do u no that its deadly

 

me - its just food poisoning

 

her - no its not

 

me - oh do you have ecoli brit?

 

her - yes again

i have been hostialized for it twice

i have got it threee times in the past month in a half in my kidneys

an i have it again

 

me - do you have that with the umm i forgot what its called actually so im just going to call it vagina rocks lol

 

her - haha no kris =]

 

me - lol k im glad to hear you have got rid of your vagina rocks :) i really hope you get better with this ecoli thing

 

her - me too thanks for talking to me i really thought you hated me

 

me - no prob i don't hate you nor any one else... to put that much passion is disliking somebody is a waste of time

 

her - u dislike me

question

 

me - why would you say that and yes?

 

her - did u really not want me to have that ring u got me

 

me - i did at the time... even though the true meaning of the ring was lost it is still a ring worthy to be wraped around your fingers..

 

her - =]

 

me - are you scared to die?

 

her - y

 

me - well because your talking about you having ecoli and saying it could possibly lead to death

 

her - it can

 

me - so are you scared of dying from it?

 

her - no

 

me - ooh okay lol

 

her - yup if i die i die no one will miss me haha

 

me - lol same here :p

 

her - id miss u ass hole

 

me - thats good to know id miss you too

 

her - whatever

 

me - ooh woman dont you whatever me haha so are you doing any sports?

 

her - i do what i want =] yes

 

me - lol what sports? volleyball as usual im guessing

 

her - yep an softball so where r u moving too

 

me - where arent i moving to?

i think arazona

 

her - =] for what

 

me - my mom wants to be with family i might just stay in lewiston though im not sure

all i know is its gonna be 2 years until i can become a mailz mawn :3 lol

 

her - lol

 

me - so you kept the ring im guessing?

 

her - =] ya

 

me - hmm did you go get it from the river lol :p

 

her - lol no

 

me - ha i want you to take good care of the ring still

 

her - i do kris

 

me - kay thats good

 

her - =]

 

me- so what have you been upto?

 

her - not a lot

 

me - oh...

get a car yet?

 

her - yes

 

me - ooh cool did you get an eclipse?

 

her - no=[

 

me - oh haha

 

her - my parents gave me their blue car

 

me - blue car?

 

her - yes

 

me - lol i only seen the red car

 

her - umm no

lol

the one that we drove u to the hotel in

 

me - really? haha i swear that was the red car

 

her - no

 

me - oh... maybe im colorblind

so what are you doin?

 

her - hw

 

me - am i bothering you?

 

her - no

 

me - oh kay

whats the subject

 

her - english

 

me - oh im totally awesome at the subject just like im awesome at everything in the world :3

 

her - haha what ev dudeeer

 

me - still stealing my wordplay i see lol

 

her - yupp =]

 

me - derp

 

her - herp

 

me - make john talk to me lol

im in a party with him and he's just watching this show like a d-baggg

or a debooo

 

her - =]

suppo

 

me - umm nothin

ill brb in 15 kay?

 

her - sure

 

me - im back

 

so whats up

 

her - wanna blog with me!!!

 

me - blogtv?

 

her - =] ya

 

me - nah lol i lost my webcam but ill watch if you want

 

her - bull **** ur cam is plugged in dip ****

 

me - oh really?

 

her - yeah =]

dumb ass

me - want me to prove its not lol

its my capture card :p

 

her - ,,!,,

 

me - lol ill prove it

or nothing shows up

 

her - lol

 

me - yeaaa :p found it like a boss (THIS IS WERE WE ARE ON BLOGTV)

 

her - lol

are you watching me =]

 

me - no o.O maybe... okay yes i am :p

 

her - haha

me - re arranged your room again?

her - lol yea

me - gawdd dawm

her - ?

can u hear anything

me - yea really ****ty music

 

(BORING CHAT)

 

her - twat ever dude soo do i look diff or no? hahaha

 

me - in pictures yes on webcam no

 

her - lol

 

me - do you want to look different lol?

 

her - idk lol

 

me - my browser is all ****ed up brohon lol

 

her - :(

 

(BORING CHAT AGAIN + We were talking on blogtv and she said krissy ily :D and i made a joke about the next time

i see her im going to tye her up and make her watch lord of the rings and then she asked me when are you gonna

see me next?)

 

her - =]

sup

u aint talkin much

 

me - is that bad? lol

 

her - i wanna talk

 

me - lol alright what do you wanna talk about

 

her - idk =]

did u see my back ground an banner =]

 

me - haha yea

 

her - yup nvm lol

am i ugly er sum?

 

me - no

 

her - promise?

 

me - i cant even see the background actually :p

prob my internet :\

 

her - ooh

 

me - send the background and banner to me over messenger if u want me to see it

and yes i promise lol

 

her - cute hot sexy ugly barf???

LOL

 

me - umm idk lol

 

her - =]

lol

 

me - you look pretty good :)

 

her - alright =/ lol ur just sayin tht bkuz ur trying to get over me

 

me - unless im already over you o.O

 

her - are u

b honest

 

me - honestly?

 

her - ya

 

me - not one bit...

 

her - really

 

me - yea

sorry

 

her - wait u are over me or ur not im confused lol

 

me - not over you

 

her - oh its k lol

 

me - lol i know your already over me so i wont ask the same question

 

her - lol there is only a lil bit of feelings for u

 

me - haha :)

 

her - but i do have a bf so lol

 

me - yea i know...

 

her - lol

 

me - so sense your moving to louisiana are you still going to go to college in oregon or no?

 

her - walla walla, wasington

 

me - well thats good lol

 

her - lol ya

 

me - btw you do look very beautiful :p

 

her - =]

 

me - dat ass ;) rofl (She stood up on webcam)

 

her - haha =]

 

me - :) so what are you doin

 

her - homework

 

me - i hate having sex with homework i always get papercuts :(

 

her - r u a virgin (This is were the bad part happens)

b honest

 

Me - yes

 

Her - really

 

Me - yes

 

her - ooh ok

 

me - im afraid of your answer so im not going to ask lol

 

her - lol y

 

me - because it would hurt me alot to find out you never kept our 3 year promise

 

her - o

 

me - are you a virgin? (SHOULDN'T HAVE ASKED)

 

her - no

im bein honest my mom even knows

 

me - when did you lose it?

 

her - this year

 

me - after the break up?

 

her - yes

 

me - im guessing to cody

 

her - no

 

me - who?

 

her - not saying bkuz u dont no him

 

me - how many times have you... well you know

 

her - 3

well 2

with only 1 guy

 

me - can i ask why?

 

her - ummm bkuz i was horny

lol

 

me - can i tell you something

 

her - yes

(I than explain a story were this girl wanted to have sex but i refused because of brittanny)

 

her - sure

 

me - im serious

 

her - kk

 

me - for 3 years i always thought we'd lose it to eachother

im just very shocked right now brit...

 

her - im sorry

question

y did u lie to me an say u lost it then?

 

Me - i said i didn't lose it

i said she wanted to but i said no because i thought about you

 

her - no u said u lost it when u went camping after we broke up

 

me - remember i told you that was a lie because i was angry that you tried to go out with matt

 

her - lol

unblock me on fb fag

 

me - i dont have you blocked you have me blocked...

 

her - oh

 

me - i just...

idk

 

her - u asked so u cnt b mad at me

how old r u 19 (Why would she ask this when she knows my age?)

 

me - im 18

 

her - oh

 

me - why?

 

her - jw krisssy

 

me - how old was he anyways? last question

 

her - 17

 

me - oh k

 

her - yupp

 

me - r u adding me back on fb?

 

her - no

 

me - jw cuz u said to unblock you lol (WHICH DOESN'T MAKE ANY SENSE TO WHY SHE ASKED ME TO UNBLOCK HER)

 

her - lol

well im gunna get off of here for a few =] ill be back on later soo ill ttyl

 

why did she make a smiley face?

is it to be bitchy?

did she have sex with the guy to get back at me for that lie and iv told her?

do you think she is lieing?

how much do you think she still likes me?

if it is a lie why would she lie about it?

why didn't she ever consider my feelings?

why did she ask me to unblock her on facebook when shes the one that has me blocked and then she doesn't add me?

how can she not remember my age?

what should i do?

Is she testing me?

If she so badly wants me to not hate her than why would she tell me this?

 

she is also coming up to my town some time and im wondering if i should see her or not and i dont know if i should have sex with her because i feel it would be pointless and meaningless i mean if she really cared about me than why would she break a long time promise?

 

she never got on later that night...

 

the timeline makes no sense because she has been in the hospital in and out after our break up

 

also if you are wondering we've liked eachother sense we first met 3/4 years ago

 

i have texted her saying i need time to clear my mind and she really asked why :\

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nobody will help me? i really need it

creighton0123 Established Member

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The fact that she had sex with someone after you guys broke up is a non issue. You shouldn't make an issue about it.

 

I'd honestly move on. You two definitely have some really raw and negative feelings towards one another. This means that there is little to be gained by attempting a friendship, never the less a casual sexual encounter.

 

I know it may suck, but you're too involved and it is not good for either of you. You could perhaps be friends in a few years, but right now you're both broken when it comes to your relationship.

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