Ian42 Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 A quick background….I found that my wife was texting and calling a co-worker a lot. She denies that anything physical happened but does admit that the texts and conversations did get flirty and that she did enjoy the attention. Because I do not have any proof of a PA we are working on things. On the radio a month or so ago I heard about an automatic fake girlfriend text service. You send a text to the number and it sends back a “girlfriend like” response. It doesn’t matter what your text says the responses are random things like “I miss you”, “can’t wait to see you again”, etc. Supposedly it is for guys with no girlfriends so they can brag to their buddies. I sent some to the service and had several responses in my phone. I left my phone on the table on night and my wife found the messages. When she confronted me I gave her the exact same responses that she gave me – “we are just friends”, nothing physical happened”, “I just enjoyed her company” – and I had to make up a story of where I met this fictional person, etc. A couple things I found interesting – 1) she snoops through my phone! , 2) her reaction to me being in an inappropriate relationship was extreme. First of all she did not believe a word that I said about it being just friends and that we were not physical, she wanted to move out of the house and she wanted to start talking about divorce. When I finally told her the truth, that it was all fake and that not only did nothing happen, there wasn’t even another person that even existed she told me how it felt reading the texts, how it made her realize what I was going through and how devastated she would be if I did ever do anything like that. It was a great way to get her to see my side of things. The big difference is that mine was totally fake but hers was real and I am still trying to get the whole truth from her. But it was an interesting experiment.
Owl Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 I'm figuring that going this route isn't going to get you much in the long term. Your best bet is to continue snooping. Contact your cell provider and see if you can get copy of the texts mailed to you. Start checking other forms of communication, like her email, IM, etc... A voice activated recorder and/or GPS in her car. You get the idea.
nyrias2 Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 Nice experiment. What is the website for the service? I think it will come in handy. A perfect way to have a revenge "EA".
Author Ian42 Posted November 7, 2011 Author Posted November 7, 2011 I think it did help in the sense that she got a taste of the same feelings and emotions that I was going through, she didn’t believe anything that I was saying just like I don’t believe she is telling me everything….it did open up a lot of discussion points. Plus it was funny when she “just knew” that I had sex with this “person” and then I showed her it was fake. You can find the site at fakegirlfriend.co
Owl Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 Right, but you also set the stage for your wife to turn this back around on you and claim that you "assumed incorrectly" just as she did. Better to go after the "proof" and deal directly with her actions rather than try to play Jedi Mind tricks that'll usually come back to haunt you later.
sadcalifornian Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 It sounds like a dangerous "experiment", but I am glad it worked out as you planned. As for the truth, demand polygraph. Albeit not perfect, nothing beats it as the ultimate tool to extract the truth. While the iron is still hot, demand it.
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