Author one goal Posted November 10, 2011 Author Posted November 10, 2011 I texted her today and she didnt reply to I went on facebook chat and talked. Here is the dialog. hey Ididnt hear back from u so I figured you were ignoring me lol cause u were mad. her: super busy lately tom! there is no reason to be mad at you idk where you got that haha. i gotta go write a paper! see ya! hey we still getting lunch next week? her: 4:47pm i really have a lot on my plate right now i have been working alot and doing stuff for my family..so not anytime soon im sorry. hope all is well! i will see you at the next event! okay. just dont want your guy to be mad at me lol Her: yeah well he might be..so im gonna have to talk to you later! oh crap i dont want my ass kicked. dont tell him! Her: haha no he wont do that see ya later! Oh btw before i leave why I said I thought u might been mad was because I was kinda hitting on you too much but only found out a few days ago u liked a guy. Her: no worries cool, you're really a likeable girl thats why! That guy your seeing is really lucky! Her: thanks! yw. Let me know what classes your takin sometime. Maybe we will have some same classes since Im taking a couple electives. btw I wont text u as much. Didnt want to bug u again lol but a few days ago I commented on one of your posted and I noticed u deleted my comment when I went to my wall it was gone. sorry something i said her: it prob didnt go through, i didnt get anything it did cause i saw my post. I think I just said your looked really pretty in your photo, or something like that i said. her: oh didnt see it oh its okay lol. Just to be truthful though you think it's wrong at my age to like someone around your age her:ya that is alot older i hope it didnt creep u out feel bad if I did and im sorry u wouldn't have knwon my age, but you asked me that one day how old I was turning lol. I didn't want to lie when I told u.
ShannonMI Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 I texted her today and she didnt reply to I went on facebook chat and talked. Here is the dialog. hey Ididnt hear back from u so I figured you were ignoring me lol cause u were mad. her: super busy lately tom! there is no reason to be mad at you idk where you got that haha. i gotta go write a paper! see ya! hey we still getting lunch next week? her: 4:47pm i really have a lot on my plate right now i have been working alot and doing stuff for my family..so not anytime soon im sorry. hope all is well! i will see you at the next event! okay. just dont want your guy to be mad at me lol Her: yeah well he might be..so im gonna have to talk to you later! oh crap i dont want my ass kicked. dont tell him! Her: haha no he wont do that see ya later! Oh btw before i leave why I said I thought u might been mad was because I was kinda hitting on you too much but only found out a few days ago u liked a guy. Her: no worries cool, you're really a likeable girl thats why! That guy your seeing is really lucky! Her: thanks! yw. Let me know what classes your takin sometime. Maybe we will have some same classes since Im taking a couple electives. btw I wont text u as much. Didnt want to bug u again lol but a few days ago I commented on one of your posted and I noticed u deleted my comment when I went to my wall it was gone. sorry something i said her: it prob didnt go through, i didnt get anything it did cause i saw my post. I think I just said your looked really pretty in your photo, or something like that i said. her: oh didnt see it oh its okay lol. Just to be truthful though you think it's wrong at my age to like someone around your age her:ya that is alot older i hope it didnt creep u out feel bad if I did and im sorry u wouldn't have knwon my age, but you asked me that one day how old I was turning lol. I didn't want to lie when I told u. Oh so you went against everyone's advice and contacted her. Big surprise. I hope she gets a restraining order against you. You are a creep and it's pretty clear from her interaction with you, she thinks that you are. Leave her alone.
Trimmer Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 I texted her today and she didnt reply to I went on facebook chat and talked. Here is the dialog. It makes me uncomfortable reading this. I suspect it made her uncomfortable, too. her: super busy lately tom! ... i gotta go write a paper! see ya! her: i really have a lot on my plate right now .....so not anytime soon im sorry. ... i will see you at the next event! Her: so im gonna have to talk to you later! Her: see ya later! her:ya that is alot older Are you getting any of this? I think it's time to go make some popcorn and put my feet up...
joystickd Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Listen up. Nearly every date rejection or flakeout reason you will ever get in your life is complete bull****. That's just the way most girls are. They will say almost ANYTHING rather than 'Actually, I don't really want to spend time with you'. They're trying to let you down gently. They believe they're being nice. And subtle. You're supposed to take the hint. When you get a rejection, stop questioning why, or what you can do about it, or whether it still applies later on. It doesn't matter. It really doesn't. You weren't given the real reason and probably never will be, so no amount of optimistic logic will turn things around. The only thing you can do is move on. I agree but this clearly serves as an example why women just come out and say no. Don't say all the other stuff or friend zone it like the old drug commercials just say no. It makes life easier
The Way I Am Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 I texted her today and she didnt reply to I went on facebook chat and talked. Here is the dialog. hey Ididnt hear back from u so I figured you were ignoring me lol cause u were mad. her: super busy lately tom! there is no reason to be mad at you idk where you got that haha. i gotta go write a paper! see ya! hey we still getting lunch next week? her: 4:47pm i really have a lot on my plate right now i have been working alot and doing stuff for my family..so not anytime soon im sorry. hope all is well! i will see you at the next event! okay. just dont want your guy to be mad at me lol Her: yeah well he might be..so im gonna have to talk to you later! oh crap i dont want my ass kicked. dont tell him! Her: haha no he wont do that see ya later! Oh btw before i leave why I said I thought u might been mad was because I was kinda hitting on you too much but only found out a few days ago u liked a guy. Her: no worries cool, you're really a likeable girl thats why! That guy your seeing is really lucky! Her: thanks! yw. Let me know what classes your takin sometime. Maybe we will have some same classes since Im taking a couple electives. btw I wont text u as much. Didnt want to bug u again lol but a few days ago I commented on one of your posted and I noticed u deleted my comment when I went to my wall it was gone. sorry something i said her: it prob didnt go through, i didnt get anything it did cause i saw my post. I think I just said your looked really pretty in your photo, or something like that i said. her: oh didnt see it oh its okay lol. Just to be truthful though you think it's wrong at my age to like someone around your age her:ya that is alot older i hope it didnt creep u out feel bad if I did and im sorry u wouldn't have knwon my age, but you asked me that one day how old I was turning lol. I didn't want to lie when I told u. Haven't read the rest of this thread, but WOW. When somebody says "see ya", "talk to ya later" after everything they say, they don't want to keep talking. She wants you to leave her alone.
snowflakes88 Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 She tried to end that conversation MULTIPLE times. Leave her alone.
ShannonMI Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 I agree but this clearly serves as an example why women just come out and say no. Don't say all the other stuff or friend zone it like the old drug commercials just say no. It makes life easier "No" means nothing to this clown. He hears it all the time and continues to pursue these girls. The girl could Mase him, run away screaming and he'd still say "oh so you're saying there's a chance?" :rolleyes:
jadedone Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 No, St. Louis! too cold to live up there, and I only live in southern, confederate states. Missouri being one of them. Missouri is NOT a confederate state. Unfortunately we have a small amount of white trash rednecks. Want girls to like you? try ditching the confederate flags.
Author one goal Posted November 10, 2011 Author Posted November 10, 2011 Missouri is NOT a confederate state. Unfortunately we have a small amount of white trash rednecks. Want girls to like you? try ditching the confederate flags. Wrong! go on google. Missouri was admitted as the 12th Confederate state in november 1861 by confederate congress. On Oct 28 1861 our properly elected lawmakers met in Neosho and voted to seceede, and it was signed by elected govorner Claiborne Fox Jackson. THe union puppet government was not valid because the constitutional convention had no authority to evict our elected lawmakers and install their own. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Missouri_secession
Cracker Jack Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 That FB convo was creepy as fawk, cuz!
oaks Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 I texted her today and she didnt reply to I went on facebook chat and talked. Here is the dialog. How much younger than you is she? Do you need any of that translating? The short version is that she isn't interested in you! Hopefully having that chat with you has cleared the air between you - you've been able to tell her how you feel and she's been able to tell you that she thinks that you're too old for her (plus she's confirmed that she's seeing someone else). You've told her that you'll text her less - you have to remember that and do what you said! That should give you the closure you need and allow you to move on. Look for someone else! Lots of nice women out there... perhaps ask someone closer to your age.
oaks Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Wrong! go on google. Missouri was admitted as the 12th Confederate state in november 1861 by confederate congress. This sounds like something you're passionate and knowledgeable about. Are there any political history groups or local historical societies you could join? [1] That could be a route to finding someone with common interests to ask on a date if you aren't having any luck at college. [1] there are, I've looked
Author one goal Posted November 10, 2011 Author Posted November 10, 2011 How much younger than you is she? Do you need any of that translating? The short version is that she isn't interested in you! Hopefully having that chat with you has cleared the air between you - you've been able to tell her how you feel and she's been able to tell you that she thinks that you're too old for her (plus she's confirmed that she's seeing someone else). You've told her that you'll text her less - you have to remember that and do what you said! That should give you the closure you need and allow you to move on. Look for someone else! Lots of nice women out there... perhaps ask someone closer to your age. She's 19 and I just turned 28.
oaks Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 She's 19 and I just turned 28. Ok. So I'm not surprised that she thinks you're too old for her to date. A nine year gap when you're my age (late 30s) doesn't seem like so much (in either direction), but a nine year gap when you've only been an adult for a year does seem like too much for lots of people. I think you realise this, too, since you prompted her on the issue. Not everyone will think the same - there aren't many universal rules in dating - but you may have more luck with people closer to your age rather than teenagers.
Lucky_One Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Onegoal, it's past time to leave her alone. Now delete her number off your phone and any old text conversations, so you aren't tempted to contact her that way. She is going to FREAK out if you contact her again, and you will hear from your BF.
jerbear Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Onegoal, it's past time to leave her alone. Now delete her number off your phone and any old text conversations, so you aren't tempted to contact her that way. She is going to FREAK out if you contact her again, and you will hear from your BF. In addition to deleting her number, add FB to the mix. Put her in the FB friend zone box, create another friend list so you can't see her posts on your wall but you didn't unfriend her. Win! OP, at some point just give it up. Living in a large city like NYC, Miami, DC, San Fran, Boston, Chicago, etc... might help your cause but you have to be able to take a hint and move on to other women. College is one of those experiences where you won't get the girl the first time. Go learn, enjoy life, and don't take rejection personally. If you take rejection personally, you'll really enjoy the experiences of finding employment, getting that promotion, receiving graduate school rejection letters, and this is just a short list.
Emilia Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 I texted her today and she didnt reply to I went on facebook chat and talked. Here is the dialog. hey Ididnt hear back from u so I figured you were ignoring me lol cause u were mad. her: super busy lately tom! there is no reason to be mad at you idk where you got that haha. i gotta go write a paper! see ya! hey we still getting lunch next week? her: 4:47pm i really have a lot on my plate right now i have been working alot and doing stuff for my family..so not anytime soon im sorry. hope all is well! i will see you at the next event! okay. just dont want your guy to be mad at me lol Her: yeah well he might be..so im gonna have to talk to you later! oh crap i dont want my ass kicked. dont tell him! Her: haha no he wont do that see ya later! Oh btw before i leave why I said I thought u might been mad was because I was kinda hitting on you too much but only found out a few days ago u liked a guy. Her: no worries cool, you're really a likeable girl thats why! That guy your seeing is really lucky! Her: thanks! yw. Let me know what classes your takin sometime. Maybe we will have some same classes since Im taking a couple electives. btw I wont text u as much. Didnt want to bug u again lol but a few days ago I commented on one of your posted and I noticed u deleted my comment when I went to my wall it was gone. sorry something i said her: it prob didnt go through, i didnt get anything it did cause i saw my post. I think I just said your looked really pretty in your photo, or something like that i said. her: oh didnt see it oh its okay lol. Just to be truthful though you think it's wrong at my age to like someone around your age her:ya that is alot older i hope it didnt creep u out feel bad if I did and im sorry u wouldn't have knwon my age, but you asked me that one day how old I was turning lol. I didn't want to lie when I told u. I will go further than most posters here and I'll point out that she tried to get away from you in every single one of her responses by trying to close down the conversation. She is only 19 so she doesn't know how to do that assertively.
Beachgirl8 Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Onegoal- do you realize now that she is not interested? Will you stop contacting her?
oaks Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Will you stop contacting her? Ha ha ha! he'll be asking us before the end of the week if it's okay for him to contact her again and whether there's anything he can do to change her mind. Something like "she's not repulsed by me. would it be ok for me to contact her after our last class before the holidays and see if she wants to meet up over Thanksgiving?" followed by "what should I say to her?"
ShannonMI Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 OneGoal, I think you should pack your sh*t, blow up doll and sock puppet included, and move to New York. I think you would have a great experience with the "quality" of the women there. I think with your persistance and never say never attitude, you will find a woman in no time brudda! Don't send that freak here. Are you kidding me? You're a jackass!!:laugh:
Beachgirl8 Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Ha ha ha! he'll be asking us before the end of the week if it's okay for him to contact her again and whether there's anything he can do to change her mind. Something like "she's not repulsed by me. would it be ok for me to contact her after our last class before the holidays and see if she wants to meet up over Thanksgiving?" followed by "what should I say to her?" You forgot that he's going to ask if he can buy her a small Xmas gift. Like a gift card. I already know he wont answer me but figured I'd ask anyway
ShannonMI Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 In addition to deleting her number, add FB to the mix. Put her in the FB friend zone box, create another friend list so you can't see her posts on your wall but you didn't unfriend her. Win! OP, at some point just give it up. Living in a large city like NYC, Miami, DC, San Fran, Boston, Chicago, etc... might help your cause but you have to be able to take a hint and move on to other women. College is one of those experiences where you won't get the girl the first time. Go learn, enjoy life, and don't take rejection personally. If you take rejection personally, you'll really enjoy the experiences of finding employment, getting that promotion, receiving graduate school rejection letters, and this is just a short list. He will NEVER do this. It's a joke. And he needs to delete her from his life completely. There should be no viewing her FB posts at all at this point. He'll read into everything she posts and think he still has a chance. LOSE!
jerbear Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 He will NEVER do this. It's a joke. And he needs to delete her from his life completely. There should be no viewing her FB posts at all at this point. He'll read into everything she posts and think he still has a chance. LOSE!Yeah but I'll still suggest that to him. I remember being him in my teens. Don't send that freak here. Are you kidding me? You're a jackass!!:laugh:Got a rejection before he even showed up! Give the guy a chance! How rude! Ha ha ha! he'll be asking us before the end of the week if it's okay for him to contact her again and whether there's anything he can do to change her mind. Something like "she's not repulsed by me. would it be ok for me to contact her after our last class before the holidays and see if she wants to meet up over Thanksgiving?" followed by "what should I say to her?"I've got a large [wish] bone to give you.
ShannonMI Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 Yeah but I'll still suggest that to him. I remember being him in my teens. Got a rejection before he even showed up! Give the guy a chance! How rude! I've got a large [wish] bone to give you. Yes a BIG rejection!!! I have my pepper spray ready just in case:laugh:
oaks Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 You forgot that he's going to ask if he can buy her a small Xmas gift. Like a gift card. Good point. Thanksgiving is coming up - can he buy her a turkey? Would that be too much?
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