cdm369 Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 If you catch your SO in a big lie....said they were going to work 2hours early and were not there....doesn't this lie give you the right to be concerned and investigate without being called controlling? The lie is what caused the behavior.
Carm Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 My biggest regret was catching an ex of mine in a very significant lie within the first month of us dating. We were together for 4 years and what I uncovered after the fallout was a man who had no integrity....lie upon lie. You have to remember that for every one lie you catch them in is a dozen more you don't even know about. Now, if I catch someone I'm starting to date lie to me, he's gone, no second chances. Good luck. I'd know what I would do with that information but you'll have to figure it out yourself.
shayla Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 This is exactly what happened in my relationship. I caught my ex in a lie the first week we were together, and I should have said goodbye right then. Now 4 years later, I'm here after he dumps me and marries another woman 2 months later. That first lie led up to all the other lies that led up to the biggest one of all. I could have saved myself a lot of heartbreak, and took those 3 years to meet someone with integrity. When you first meet someone, they are on their best behavior. If they lie within that time, they did you a favor, given you a gift. Because you don't have to waste another minute on them.
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