greyskies Posted May 21, 2004 Posted May 21, 2004 Okay I have a friend that I've had a lot of ups and downs with. Sometimes I wonder why I am still her friend. But for some reason or another I can't leave her alone. I took care of her dying grandmother a couple of years ago and she and I got very close (her GM and I) before she passed. I was devastated when she died, they had no service, nor did anyone pick up her ashes or anything, no plot, nothing. Just got their items she left them and never mentioned her again. Well she wasn't to fond of her grand-daughter for some reason, nor her grand-daughters mother, her daughter. For some odd reason. Well my friends mother just passed a couple of weeks ago and now my friend has nobody in her life. And the whole time her mother was dying in the hospital she would cry and beg me to never leave her and to always be her friend. I told her if I haven't stopped yet I guess I'm never going to. This girl has put me through hell and I don't understand why I cant just cut her off and move on. I know anyone in their right mind would never put up with what she does to me. Being that I don't understand why I cant walk away from this friendship, I can just assume that I'm there for a reason. You know what I mean? Like God has placed me in this situation for his own reason. So I just keep hanging around not because I think God wants me to. But because I don't know how to say screw it and leave. I know she's alone now which makes it worst. Don't get me wrong even after all she has put me through. I still have compassion for her and care about her. She can be a really super good person. But she will change up on you in a second if something she isn't happy with comes about. I think she is mentally ill and I'm worried. She has an odd way of proceiving things. And I know she totally trusts me. But she constantly accuses me of being deceitful. The main reason I'm writing this is because this morning I was at my boyfriends house and I knew she was really tired so I called her like three times to wake her up and even text messaged her. but she didn't answer. My b/f had to be somewhere at 6:00 am so I wasn't able to go by there to make sure. But she called me and cussed me out because she was late for work. I don't live with her and in the past she was able to get up on her own. But because I was at my b/f to make sure he got up for his appointment she did this guilt trip of, thanks for waking me up you knew I need to get to work. And right now I am packing her grandma's trailer to get it ready for her to move in. Every single day me and a friend of ours was helping get it ready for her cause she works. Then I am going to pack up her moms and then help her move that into her new place. Then I got to move my stuff into her old place. And need her truck to do all of this cuz I don't have a car. And she says to me you wont be using my truck today because I was late for work. I mean wtf? How can I continue letting her make me feel like sh_t about everything? I'm so getting tired but still don't want her to be alone. Why do I put myself through such hell when it comes to friends and partners?
Bubbles Posted May 21, 2004 Posted May 21, 2004 Hey there, I can totally relate to your situation with your friend....belevie me the only one who truly knows what a real friend is between the two of you.....is you! My firend was extremely dominant. I learned the reason why I continued to be her friend was "subconciensly" to earn her approval. It's as if I was testing myself to see exactly what distance I would go to prove myself to be a good friend. Turns out she was nothing but a Toxic Waste-of-time in my life. Ubderstandably people go through rough times in our lives but to be asked to to "take control" of all HER responsibilities is just RIDICULOUS! Good Luck greyskies Bubbles
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