sand26 Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 There is a new girl at my work. I fell the moment I saw her and it has only gotten worse, everything she does makes me smile. I have never been monogamous, never wanted marriage. Want both with her. She has a boyfriend (some fashion model), though others have said she told them it was rocky. She can be very professional, but has also has been flirty at times with me (poking me with her finger, giving me hugs out of the blue, watching me when I'm not looking). I text her things about work and she responds with only a short delay. The last text I sent ended with the words "goodnight Kimberly". I had decided that if she texted back "goodnight Jason" it would be a sign of her interest. She texted "have a good night". IMO that is very different, agree? There is something sexy about saying someone's name after the word goodnight, right? I can't ejaculate with other girls since meeting her 2 weeks ago. I think about her at least a couple times an hour. I enjoy just being into someone this much because I haven't felt this giddy about a girl in almost 10 years, it feels damn good. But it is starting to distract me and I need to decide whether it is unhealthy and stupid to keep crushing on her.... I'm not going to make a move because she has got a man and that needs to be resolved first. But I am curious: at what point do you think a crush needs to be forgotten about, how long can I allow this sophomoric idolization consume me? Someone slap some sense into my love drenched mind!
Million.to.1 Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 "Have a good night". Yes I agree, it is different than a "Goodnight Jason" Different, but entirely appropriate considering her situation. This girl is in a relationship. Whether (you've heard) it's rocky or not is not relevant to anything. Sounds to me like you are in lust with her, and she probably enjoys knowing that you are but will only encourage it to a certain degree. Us girls like a certain amount of attention if it's innocent enough. You really shouldn't do anything. She is in a relationship and you should respect that. You are only going to cause hurt for yourself to keep obsessing over someone you can't have. Seems you don't even really know her outside of work, so it's more like just a sexual obsession. Stop with the txts, and find someone single. If her situation changes, then its a different story. But until then, you need to back off.
Author sand26 Posted November 7, 2011 Author Posted November 7, 2011 Really really good advice. Thank you so much. I will just enjoy the crush from afar.
Author sand26 Posted November 8, 2011 Author Posted November 8, 2011 Yeah, that's not as good of advice. My problem isn't really finding women, I happen to be relatively fit, pretty funny, and well....rich. I actually have been dating a few girls who love me for awhile, I just don't love them. It is very rare that I have feelings like I have for this young belle. Anyway, I think it is best to just take the advice of the first responder who advised that I just stop texting and lay off. thanks y'all.
mike111 Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 I'm not going to make a move because she has got a man and that needs to be resolved first. You're a good man, Sand26 mike
Author sand26 Posted November 8, 2011 Author Posted November 8, 2011 I'm not so rich. But I do ok. If you have a charity I'd be happy to send you some monies. Mike: thanks brother, just the way my momma raise me!
Author sand26 Posted November 8, 2011 Author Posted November 8, 2011 I erased her number so as not to be tempted
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