Stephie Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 I'm going to make this short and get to the point because I'm confused and now I'm wondering why I ever hoped for this. October 2009 my 1yr engagement was going bad. I was depressed, living in a new city with 0 friends, no money, and gained a lot of weight totally unhappy. I was taking it out on my ex not caring expecting him to keep the relationship going. March 2010 he walks out the door, I beg, plead, make up stories, anything I could to make him stay. There was a few times I thought I had him like he didn't want to stay away but never did come back. I moved home 4 hrs away 2months after we broke up still looking for any sign he was still in love with me. If he text me back I had hope, if he emailed me I had hope, if his fb said something I had hope. I couldn't give up or move on and was lost. I've never felt like that so helpless so dependent on someone else to make me happy again. I begged God every day please make him come back, please give me a sign something and yet nothing. I spent a whole year of my life thinking of what I would say if the day ever came when he admitted he was wrong and apologized. I dated and tried to move on but in my heart I always knew I would never love another man like I loved him. Fast forward to Tuesday text from you guessed it. Asking a lame question followed by a how are you and an apology for everything which he also said it sounded like I was better off. WTH? I told him I forgave him a long time ago we talked for a while then ended with a bye and so good to talk to you and so glad your happy now. Last night I get a text at 3 am saying his job is looking to transfer him here till January hu???? He hated it here which I reminded him of. He said yes but there are cool things about here! He started asking about my friends, family wanting to know everything. SO now what as far as I know he has a girlfriend and they have been together for a while. Please help why is he doing this? They always say when you are happy with your life that person somehow knows and messes everything up! I never saw myself spending my life with anyone but him but knew I had to because he wasn't budging and now things have changed! What does he want from me? Is he realizing what he had, is he trying to mess with me. I'm lost but happy! [sIZE=2][/sIZE]
Makavelli Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 It's weird because im kind of in the same situations as you hoping every day for some kind of sign of anything and yet nothing. My time is less than yours though im pushing only 3 weeks but feels like an eternity. As far as your ex bf is concerned, taking into account its been s year and he just happens to txt you out of no where makes me think that there may be something there still. Yes he has a GF now and everything but like you said you have dated other guys and you didn't feel the same like you did towards this guy. If I was to date another girl atm no matter who and how beautiful she was I think I would not have any feelings because im still in love with my ex. Also that fact that hes also asking 1000 questions about friends, family, etc. he might be trying to get an idea if your in some kind of relationship or not. He may be just trying to catch up and be nice, I doubt it though I feel there is another motive somewhere, you just don't call en ex a year later to say hey and apologize.
lana_sa Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 It sounds like he is still interested somehow,,how long time of total No contact did you have? when did you finally gave up on him?
Author Stephie Posted November 9, 2011 Author Posted November 9, 2011 We haven't spoken since December and it was a fight. Give up on him honestly never completely did! I just wonder what his motive is, haven't spoken since Sunday I'm confused.
immitable Posted November 9, 2011 Posted November 9, 2011 just wanted to add my 2 cents. how would I act if I was him, guys perspective you know. He was in a relationship with you, you acted needy (new in town, no friends) which was probably too much for him at the time, so he broke it off. Deep down he probably knew that there was better you somewhere and at that time it was impossible for you to change givern the circumstances. Now he has been missing you and wants to see whether you changed. Being that he'll be moving to your town, he knows for sure there is a chance to rekindle the relationship. I'd say play it cool, be yourself and hopefully you have recovered from the breakup. Best of luck.
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