ThsAmericanLife Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 (edited) No, not enough about you. Just knowing what you went through makes my quest for a new life a lot less heavy than what you (and other people) have faced and conquered. A Divorce, some difficult break up's and a quest for a new social life doesn't compare to the pre-mature death of someone you love. It's tantamount to lamenting about a bruise to a cancer survivor. Sometimes you get to feeling sorry about yourself, and someone comes along with a much more difficult hurdle they've overcome- and it makes you realize that your bruise isn't as significant a problem as you make it out to be. You being so positive and pro-active in your own situation has helped me re-think things. Thank you for your thoughts... I've been divorced too (was divorced for two years prior to meeting the man I'd hoped to marry). It is a different kind of pain (divorce vs death). In many ways, I felt the divorce was worse... With a death, they are not in your life, but you keep your happy memories. With a divorce, its as if every positive thing gets anhilated in the process. So, comparing pain?? The divorce was much worse... What IS the same in both is the feeling that my life didn't turn out how I planned or wanted it. Alot of sadness comes with that... if I let it. It sucks (still does) to have to start over again... and trust me... I get my recluse days too. I guess it is my 'bucket list' that kinda keeps me going, and feeling that there are many things in life left to do... and worth doing. oh, it is worth mentioning... that the pic for my current avatar was taken on one of my 'bucket list' adventures. Me and my dog camped solo on top of a local mountain for two days. I put the camera behind me and pointed up. The sky was beautiful... plus I wasn't sure at the time how long I'd be keeping my hair that long... all my friends screamed in agony when I told them I thought about cutting it off. Not that I wouldn't cut it off anyway... but men seem to LOVE, LOVE, LOVE my hair... so, I'll be keeping it for awhile. Edited November 18, 2011 by ThsAmericanLife
Art_Critic Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 but men seem to LOVE, LOVE, LOVE my hair... so, I'll be keeping it for awhile. Gotta have something to pull from behind
Author D-Lish Posted November 19, 2011 Author Posted November 19, 2011 Thank you for your thoughts... I've been divorced too (was divorced for two years prior to meeting the man I'd hoped to marry). It is a different kind of pain (divorce vs death). In many ways, I felt the divorce was worse... With a death, they are not in your life, but you keep your happy memories. With a divorce, its as if every positive thing gets anhilated in the process. So, comparing pain?? The divorce was much worse... What IS the same in both is the feeling that my life didn't turn out how I planned or wanted it. Alot of sadness comes with that... if I let it. It sucks (still does) to have to start over again... and trust me... I get my recluse days too. I guess it is my 'bucket list' that kinda keeps me going, and feeling that there are many things in life left to do... and worth doing. oh, it is worth mentioning... that the pic for my current avatar was taken on one of my 'bucket list' adventures. Me and my dog camped solo on top of a local mountain for two days. I put the camera behind me and pointed up. The sky was beautiful... plus I wasn't sure at the time how long I'd be keeping my hair that long... all my friends screamed in agony when I told them I thought about cutting it off. Not that I wouldn't cut it off anyway... but men seem to LOVE, LOVE, LOVE my hair... so, I'll be keeping it for awhile. What Art said about the hair:laugh: ALL of my gf's hit a stage over 30 where they cut off their locks. My mother keeps telling me it's time to go short given my age (42).... It's not happening! You're right, a divorce is pretty tough, but it's been 10 years for me, so I've processed it. I like the picture you took:)
updown Posted November 19, 2011 Posted November 19, 2011 why do women cut their hair short as they get older? i don't get that! i have a little lower than shoulder length and sometimes i feel that's too short, LOL! i have found that focusing more on THINGS i want to do and less on WHO i want to do them with has gotten me and about and more involved in aspects of life. if there is something i want to do i will do it alone now. i get annoyed with people that lack follow through! so, it's easier to just do what i want, when i want :-). i still have NO problem sitting inside my house all weekend long though, LOL!!!
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