The Poster Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 I suspected all along that she was into this guy and she might be dating him, but now seeing it for sure is killing me. It's amazing, a month ago she was begging and pleading and crying to get back together day after day. Saying I was the only one for her, and now a few short weeks later she's dating someone else. It's been 6 months of hell and now it's going to get harder.
MrSimple Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 How long has she known that guy? There's a good chance of it being a rebound.
Author The Poster Posted November 7, 2011 Author Posted November 7, 2011 She's known him since the spring/summer I believe. Even when I asked her about him she said she would never date him. Just trying to protect my feelings I guess. Sigh.
MrSimple Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 Hmmm, 3 months already. No matter. Still possible to win her back. Are you still in constant contact with her?
PositiveNegative Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 Hmmm, 3 months already. No matter. Still possible to win her back. Are you still in constant contact with her? Let's not give false hope here. You do not know if it is "still possible" to win her back and there is no reason to say that this is a "rebound". Even if it is a rebound there is no statistic that can tell you how long she will be with this new guy. Bottom line, she is gone. That's the only thing you know at this point. The dumpers do tend to end up in relationships with the most "obvious" guy after dumping someone. It's happened to me twice. It kills for sure. This is just another hurdle, all you can do it let the pain out of your system. Cry, punch something (not a person), yell.. whatever. I still hurt when I think of my ex with her new guy but it's just another hurdle. Gotta keep going and going until you reach indifference. Good luck man, take care of yourself, try not to think about whatever she is doing with him.
Author The Poster Posted November 7, 2011 Author Posted November 7, 2011 I'm not over her but I don't even know if I want her back. Right now all I want to do is fix myself and my life. But it still hurts like hell. Every single morning is absolute hell. I'm fighting but it gets to a point where I don't know how much more I can take.
M2155 Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 I'm not over her but I don't even know if I want her back. Right now all I want to do is fix myself and my life. But it still hurts like hell. Every single morning is absolute hell. I'm fighting but it gets to a point where I don't know how much more I can take. Stay strong. Unfortunately you have no choice but to take it. Our exes are going to end up with someone else, that's just life. I see mine madly in love with his girl everyday on FB. The smart thing would have been for me to erase reminders of him as much as possible so I wouldn't know. It's really tough to forget them but surprisingly in time you can. You hope and pray that you can stop thinking about them because it consumes you and little by little they fade. I'm about 4 months out and I can honestly say he crosses my mind everyday but it's not pain anymore, it's more an unfortunate memory. I'm sure there are things like running into him that will have me back here over-analyzing how he looked at me or something, but looking forward and being optimistic that someone else will fill that special place in your life one day helps the attitude.
Spriggins Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 Yeah, this just happened to me today too. If its any help, try to occupy with anything that will get your mind off things. Work out, talk/text to a friend, anything to keep busy. That's what I'm doing.
Author The Poster Posted November 7, 2011 Author Posted November 7, 2011 Yeah I mean I keep myself as busy as possible but in the end it doesn't really change anything. I'm still miserable and lonely. I get really scared sometimes to be honest. I see people who are still struggling with a breakup 3-4 years later and I wonder if I'm heading down that road. It's hard to keep faith but I'm trying. Man, am I trying.
mike111 Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 Yeah I mean I keep myself as busy as possible but in the end it doesn't really change anything. I'm still miserable and lonely. I get really scared sometimes to be honest. I see people who are still struggling with a breakup 3-4 years later and I wonder if I'm heading down that road. It's hard to keep faith but I'm trying. Man, am I trying. Your X is probably in what is called a "rebound relationship". She was probably just as upset as you, that why she did it. Hey, you should had seen the creep my X teamed up with. She too said she would never date him, but did. And they had a kid together. He became abusive and she had to take him to court over a period of three years to get rid of him. Anyway, it will get better. It did for me. Keep trying
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