Glove_slap Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 after a very long time that is. In other words, has an ex that dumped you for someone else/dumped you in general contacted you after a year or more of no contact? Also please provide the dumper's gender as I assume that women never come back/make contact with someone they dumped/left for someone.
D-Lish Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 Yes, I'd say most men come back at some point. It could be months, years, or in some cases a decade later. Once I am over someone, the chance is lost- nothing can be rekindled. My grade 8 bf and first loved added me on FB and wanted to meet up to reconnect- that's going on 30 years!
mike588 Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 (edited) after a very long time that is. In other words, has an ex that dumped you for someone else/dumped you in general contacted you after a year or more of no contact? Also please provide the dumper's gender as I assume that women never come back/make contact with someone they dumped/left for someone. Well my now ex. g/f broke up with her b/f alittle over a year ago and we dated almost a year. 3 months ago she dumped me to go back to him. I haven't heard anything from her, don't expect to and don't really care. Edited November 7, 2011 by mike588
M2155 Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 Yes I've heard from all my ex boyfriends, if they wanted to get back together (or some version of keeping me around) it was usually within 3 months or so and the others over a year. I initiate contact with some of them every now, like Happy B-days or FB comments, mainly because it's history now. I only have one I consider one a real friend and we can talk about our individual relationships. I think it's natural to be curious how life turned out for some people. It remains to be seen if/when I hear anything from the recent ex-we're still connected on FB although I avoid his page like the plague and won't be surprised to see him married in a year or two. Love lost.
Sugarkane Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 I completely disagree from my experience. I don't think guys come back at all. Starting with my high school bf, I haven't heard from him once in almost a decade. I've only heard back from one ex and all he did was try and ease his guilt. He only wanted to validate his reasons for breaking up. And also wanting a shoulder to cry on and a shag.
Sugarkane Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 If guys always come back, why doesn't it happen to me ?
M2155 Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 If guys always come back, why doesn't it happen to me ? Mine haven't all come back, but I've heard from all of them. Sometimes after years though and they weren't gut-wrenching breakups (maybe in the moment of course)
CaliBabe Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 99% of my ex's come back. waiting on this most recent ex... we'll see.
lymtal1 Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 my college g/f re-connected with me after 20 years. she explained that she knew that i was the best guy she was ever with. she left then due to gigs. interestingly enough she and i are talking now and spending time together. i am not over my most recent b/u so i am keeping it rather at a high level. she explained that for that entire 20 year period she always knew what was going on in my life. never stalked me she said but kept a knowledge about me. very interesting indeed.
0hpenelope Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 My ex-boyfriend from junior high sent a Facebook request ohh... about a year ago. He wanted to hang out before leaving the country, but I didn't want to. Without giving age details, junior high for me is a little over 10 years ago. Afterwards, he chatted w/ me once and that was it. While we chatted, I really did wonder what I saw in him all those years ago and am counting my blessings that I did not end up with him. :lol:
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