BigDumbFoot Posted November 6, 2011 Posted November 6, 2011 Hey all. I was just wondering if anyone has ever done anything really stupid post-breakup, mainly out of anger. Just the other day I was on my way home in my car, and I saw my ex and her new guy turning ahead of me. I started seeing red, so i followed them down the road and when they were at a stop sign I get right on their ass and lean on my horn. When he looks I give him the finger and stare intensely at him through his rear view. I feel terrible about it now, but at that time I just felt like I was completely out of control of my emotions. Has anyone else ever done anything petty like that? Or worse?? Since the breakup I've been having fantasies about fighting the guy, but thank god I never actually acted on them.
k100danny Posted November 6, 2011 Posted November 6, 2011 Ive said things while in a relationship out of anger and regretted it. ive acted bad out of a relationhsip after a breakup but not angrily i dont think. I did see a guy in a bar that my ex kissed at the very least after we split up and i kind of eyeballed him for a while which was a bit childish but i was quite hurt at the time. I didnt say or do anything to the guy and i have seen him several times since and just dont do anything.
ChelseaLS Posted November 6, 2011 Posted November 6, 2011 I dont recall doing anything too crazy in my past breakups. However my current ex, he has a sister who split her her long term guy for emotional and verbal abuse... Anyways he went nuts, killed her cat and dropped off the collar on her desk at work. That's some crazy right there.
Author BigDumbFoot Posted November 6, 2011 Author Posted November 6, 2011 Haha Chelsea, makes what I did look like nothing. Glad I'm not a psychopath..
Bobby289 Posted November 6, 2011 Posted November 6, 2011 ChelseaLS she should sue for punitive damages, that's disgusting. When I was in high school I went a bit crazy a time or two stalking and all that jazz. I have picked a few fights here and there just because I needed an outlet but I've learned to control my emotions based on what I see and think more rational now. I do go to therapy about my emotions still so thats the main reason I havent really acted like that. I know how you feel though, I questioned my exs values and accused her of a ton of things based on nothing and felt like **** for it right after it. It happens don't beat yourself up for it.
ChelseaLS Posted November 6, 2011 Posted November 6, 2011 Lol bobby it wasn't my cat. I can't sue. It was my current ex's sister.
Bobby289 Posted November 6, 2011 Posted November 6, 2011 Lol bobby it wasn't my cat. I can't sue. It was my current ex's sister. No i know lol she should have.
AlisaMarie Posted November 6, 2011 Posted November 6, 2011 Hey all. I was just wondering if anyone has ever done anything really stupid post-breakup, mainly out of anger. Just the other day I was on my way home in my car, and I saw my ex and her new guy turning ahead of me. I started seeing red, so i followed them down the road and when they were at a stop sign I get right on their ass and lean on my horn. When he looks I give him the finger and stare intensely at him through his rear view. I feel terrible about it now, but at that time I just felt like I was completely out of control of my emotions. Has anyone else ever done anything petty like that? Or worse?? Since the breakup I've been having fantasies about fighting the guy, but thank god I never actually acted on them. OMG my ex has been going back and forth between me and this disgusting crazy girl for a year. This summer he left her for me (he's with her again, ha ha) and I was pulling up in front of my house and I caught her creeping around the block... I hid in the alley and she drove past my house 2 times. Finally I decided that I wasn't going to go home and took a drive... she followed me... got on my ass... laid on the horn and screamed out the window at me. So even though I didn't do something like that... others do. When you're hurt and "in love" you can go a little nutty. I also had an ex climb up on my roof and hang from the window to watch what I was doing. I caught him hanging and almost slammed the window on his fingers! I pulled him in then threw him right out the door. It's funny... all my ex's call me a psycho... I have never done anything like that!
MIK1000 Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 Hey all. I was just wondering if anyone has ever done anything really stupid post-breakup, mainly out of anger. Just the other day I was on my way home in my car, and I saw my ex and her new guy turning ahead of me. I started seeing red, so i followed them down the road and when they were at a stop sign I get right on their ass and lean on my horn. When he looks I give him the finger and stare intensely at him through his rear view. I feel terrible about it now, but at that time I just felt like I was completely out of control of my emotions. Has anyone else ever done anything petty like that? Or worse?? Since the breakup I've been having fantasies about fighting the guy, but thank god I never actually acted on them. The exact same thing happened to me yesterday except that i was in my friends car. I saw them, lost the plot for a second and opened the door and stood up only to get control of myself and got back in and sat down. Luckily they didn't notice me. I was so furious i would have really gone for the guy. Words can't express how pleased i am that I didn't. I stupidly told my mum and dad about it there and expressed how proud i was of myself for controlling my emotions and not getting out the car. Instead of being proud of me back they started telling me how much of an idiot I am and how it's not healthy to harbour so much anger towards them. This really pissed me off. It's the shock that gets you more than anything. I've been the same though, having fantasies about kicking the guys ass. Now I just fantasise about rising above it when i see them.
D-Lish Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 I've done things in anger I now regret- most specifically saying things I don't mean that hurt the people I love. Once, in my early 20's, I had a suspicion my ex was cheating on me. I followed him one evening, saw him go and pick up a girl, then take her "parking" on a side street. I pulled up behind then and bumped his back bumper with my car while they were making out. Not super hard- but I gave them a good jolt. Honestly, that's not something I regret:eek:. I guess I could have restrained myself and honk and give them the finger like you did OP- but the vumper jolt just happened....
Sugarkane Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 I've said some things coz I was angry but that's all. I think that's pretty understandable when you've been blindsided and the person refuses to talk ti you. I've never stalked anyone or done anything crazy. Never boiled any bunnies or anything. All I've done is stayed in NC and never talked to them again. That sounds pretty sane to me. So why do my exes call me crazy?
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