Shaun-Dro Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 This. It amazes me how many women think I may be their soul mate because we are consuming alcoholic beverages and the same establishment and both like 'How I Met Your Mother'. I'll be the first to say it and say it proudly...I settled for my gf. She was only 90-95% what I wanted and I was tired of looking. I am still DAMN happy. No human being can withstand constant rejection. He or she would have to pursue anything that walks on four legs in hopes of finally landing a yes and that's an unlikely quest. If you're a guy and you want a certain attractive woman and you're going about doing the numbers game, the best way to handle that is to be plied with some alcohol, but not to the point of intoxication, but enough to get a good buzz; keep you loose and carefree. When under this condition, hitting up hot women at random becomes a lot easier and you begin to care less and less because your perception drops, and you mostly go on instant fixation.
fishtaco Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 It's not just for unattractive guys, it's for every guy. Dating is a numbers game, period.
danmorisson Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 (edited) It's just a simple fact of life that some people go through life without love. I know people mean good but denying this only makes things worse because it just gives some people false hope. False hope is cruel. Telling the truth is better because the truth allows them to come to terms with it and go on to live happier lives. Sometimes truth is better. Edited November 8, 2011 by danmorisson
oaks Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 Why do ladies find it funny that some men can't find a girlfriend? I'm 43. OVER 40 and I've just had a couple shourt lived ones where she used me as a PLACE HOLDER. No sex minimal kissing. 40 and older year old virgins are not unicorns like you ladies surmise. IT ROYALLY SUCKS. The ladies DON'T CARE. I've been BURNED hundreds of times. SO often that I don't want to touch the hot stove EVER AGAIN. So are you still a virgin because you keep getting turned down, or because you've stopped trying? If you're not trying but still complaining you'll just come across as bitter which, not being an attractive trait, won't get you much sympathy. Accept things as they are, or do something about it. Bitching doesn't count as doing.
oaks Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 TURNED DOWN HUNDREDS OF TIMES. Just two short lived girl friends and they used me as a damn placeholder. Why try so I can get BURNED AGAIN? I AM A BITTER MAN. You bet I am. You'd be too if this happened to you but it didn't so you can't know what I've gone through. Don't give me sympathy you may as well find humor in it. LADIES FIND IT FUNNY. danmorrison is spot on. False hope is cruel. So if you've basically given up, why are you here on a dating advice forum? Did you just come to spread bitterness?
oaks Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 RJP68 said: I saw posts that angered me and I HAVE THE RIGHT TO ANSWER THEM. Why are you here? So you just came to spread bitterness. Thought so. Not sure that any of us have a right to post here - we're all here at the whim of LS - but, yes, it seems that you can post replies. I came to get some dating advice, and I got some. Occasionally I offer dating advice to others who are looking for help.
OneFootOut Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 TURNED DOWN HUNDREDS OF TIMES. Just two short lived girl friends and they used me as a damn placeholder. Why try so I can get BURNED AGAIN? I AM A BITTER MAN. You bet I am. You'd be too if this happened to you but it didn't so you can't know what I've gone through. Don't give me sympathy you may as well find humor in it. LADIES FIND IT FUNNY. danmorrison is spot on. False hope is cruel. 100's of times? Well kudos for even meeting 100 ladies to pursue. What are YOU bringing to a relationship, or to an attempt at one? What did you offer? If it was this bitterness and anger in you, no woman in her right mind wants to be with someone so negative. No woman wants an emotionally unavailable man who is wrapped up in past hurts. We've all been dumped and pushed away. You can't carry that into the next one. Are you controlling and suspicious? Or are you a bump on a log that has to be prodded to have any fun? Why did the 100's turn you down? Did you learn enough about her (the many hers) to give them what they needed, or just what you assumed or thought they needed? Just because you are happy and satisfied with apples, doesn't mean she will be happy if all you give her is apples (whatever works for you, may not work for her) You know if you look at the big picture, you are only looking for, wanting, and needing that ONE. So that leaves a few million that aren't right for you. Yes?
Symetrical-Siren Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 Think of it this way..... If you looked like one of the Baldwin brothers, and got a nice girl. You guys are together for a few months...maybe even a year or two. Then one day, you end up in a terrible accident, that leaves you with permanent unattractive scarring. What's the likelyhood she will stick around ? Think about it. People put WAY too much stock in the physical. I go for intelligence, spirituality, and good heart. That's sexier than the physical. No accident can mar those qualities.
oaks Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 If the site owner wants me gone you can have me gone. YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO HAVE ME GONE. You think your opinion menas more than mine. I'm not even asking you to leave. I was trying to find out if you were looking for dating advice or what sort of contribution you might make. I think I got answers. I'll let others judge whether my opinions about anything are useful for anything, but one of my opinions is that there are too many non-constructive bitter posts in this forum from people who don't appear to be seeking dating advice or willing to offer constructive dating advice for others and I wish there were fewer of them. Where else can I vent? It's a social no no for men to vent. If I knew the answer to that I would've been rich by now.
oaks Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 You've already judged me. Well, I thought you were coming across as bitter and I said so, to which you replied that you are a bitter man. I apologise if I touched a nerve.
danmorisson Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 (edited) Think of it this way..... If you looked like one of the Baldwin brothers, and got a nice girl. You guys are together for a few months...maybe even a year or two. Then one day, you end up in a terrible accident, that leaves you with permanent unattractive scarring Logical explanation for that 1. He/she still loves him/her because of memories together and whatnot. No-one said dating was that wafer-thin. But that still doesn't change the fact that it was physical attraction that brought them both together in the first place now, does it? Edited November 8, 2011 by danmorisson
Symetrical-Siren Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 I prefer my partners to be a little bit more on the ugly side. I've been with attractive men, they just don't compare to those that aren't attractive. Charismatic people tend not to have to work as hard simply because they are attractive. They lack "substance". I find them to be quite boring, empty, and materialistic. I can do nothing with that. The last time I was attracted to a physically attractive man, was when I was in grade school, LMAO !
danmorisson Posted November 10, 2011 Posted November 10, 2011 My love for women is so strong that I would turn them down. I know this sounds strange but I would always think they deserve better than me. For example, if a cutie asked me out (just say I was in their league) I would just tell her than I don't have the financial backing to give her the life she probably wants.
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