cin53943 Posted November 6, 2011 Posted November 6, 2011 need some advice guys. I am in a long distance relationship and I've been feeling really awful lately. for the past few months my boyfriend and I have fallen into a routine of steady visits and dates together (he lives about an hour away). However, a problem has arisen. He recently started a new job that requires him to work long hours accompanied with an unpredictable schedule. I can understand that, however, my problem now seems to be that for the past month or so, he has been promising to visit on a certain day or at a certain time only to tell me a few hours later that he cannot make it. This leaves me feeling very hurt and emotional because I tend to perceive it as broken promises. I am trying to adjust to this sporadic schedule, however, I find myself disbelieving any promise he makes. I feel awful. Please give me advice or your opinions as to what I may be able to do. Thanks
creighton0123 Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 Starting a new job is a big time commitment. Be patient. Once he gets a shoe in the door, he'll have a better idea of what he can and cannot do when it comes to his schedule. More to the point... there might be an underlying problem in the relationship that he is not communicating. I doubt it has little to do with the distance. An hour isn't really all that far away. Hell, I know some couples who only live a few miles apart who, because of urban transit, require more than an hour to get from point A to point B by subway.
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