pinkttulips Posted November 6, 2011 Posted November 6, 2011 Why do some guys not initiate dates? They will respond to calls, text messages and get together when women initiate and seem to have a good time, even say things that tell you they want to keep it going, but they don't do the initiating, they just go with the flow. I have even ended up in relationships with these type of men (trying to get a relationship going with this type of man now) and actually even married one (divorced now). So, just wondering why they are like this (maybe some men can explain this) and also, am I the only woman in the world who has dealt with men like this (probably not right?) lol. thanks
kaleidoscope Posted November 6, 2011 Posted November 6, 2011 It really depends on the guy. Personally, if I really like a girl I feel the need to tell them whether I get rejected or not. I'm talking about if I really like a girl, not just if I happen to see a girl who is really pretty. I don't automatically ask a pretty girl out as a stranger. I prefer to get to know them. Maybe its a fear of rejection, which is understandable too. I don't know...maybe try to give bigger hints to the guy. But in this day and age, does it really matter anymore who asks who out? Guy, girl, doesn't really matter. One thing for sure I like is a girl who is direct and says what she means.
grkBoy Posted November 6, 2011 Posted November 6, 2011 Why do some guys not initiate dates? They will respond to calls, text messages and get together when women initiate and seem to have a good time, even say things that tell you they want to keep it going, but they don't do the initiating, they just go with the flow. I have even ended up in relationships with these type of men (trying to get a relationship going with this type of man now) and actually even married one (divorced now). So, just wondering why they are like this (maybe some men can explain this) and also, am I the only woman in the world who has dealt with men like this (probably not right?) lol. thanks Men initiate dates. Boys don't. Simple solution...stop talking or giving the time of day to guys who won't initiate. They can end up here bitching about why some girl won't ask them out.
Author pinkttulips Posted November 6, 2011 Author Posted November 6, 2011 Men initiate dates. Boys don't. Simple solution...stop talking or giving the time of day to guys who won't initiate. They can end up here bitching about why some girl won't ask them out. that sounds like a great idea, but I dont think it's realistic. Just like it's not realistic (unfortunately) that women stop giving up the milk (the cow and milk quote what is it, can't remember now), so that men will have to commit to get it. Times have changed. But, sometimes women need men to initiate to let us know that they are interested too, instead of just going with the flow with the woman doing it throughout the beginning of the dating process. Some men won't do the initiating at all, but will go with the flow, then boom they are in a relationship with you a few months later. In the meantime, in the beginning stages, you sit there questioning yourself, okay, he will respond when I text, call and will want to get together when I suggest it, so I think he likes me too, Should I call this time too and suggest something? I guess it's the whole insecurity thing and it's just nice sometimes if they do some of it too to help with that insecurity.
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