Author DannyT27 Posted November 14, 2011 Author Posted November 14, 2011 Been out these last few night and I've found out that she has a whole new bunch of mates and that she is possibly seeing a guy almost 10 yrs older we've not even been broke up 3 wks yet, I knw I said I wouldn't but I want her back... Can this ever happen ? I think within afew months the novelty will wear off she jus keeps goin out drinking... I want this girl back. The apartment is now empty and I'm back at home . Basicly I'm asking do we stand any kind of chance of being a couple again ???
Author DannyT27 Posted November 14, 2011 Author Posted November 14, 2011 She just txtd me this " Just wanted to say im really sorry for everything I never wanted to hurt you Danny and I know how selfish I have been! Hate what I have done to you and I am truly sorry x " does this mean anythin I've not replied... Is she fishin ? Thanks
Author DannyT27 Posted November 14, 2011 Author Posted November 14, 2011 Can someone just tell me if this is actually her being sorry or is she starting to regret it ? I don't knw how to read into this text. Is she pulling my strings ?
nathanjbrown1 Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 Hi my gf left me almost two weeks ago, we have been together for 5 years never broke up in that time... I'm 27 and she's 25, she has had hormonal problems with the pill and depression in the last year or so. On the 12 oct she said she needed space and went to stay at her mothers for afew days and she came back and I thought things were good then on the 25 oct I come home from wrk and gym and before I can take my coat off she like I can't do this anymore so I'm like why ? What reason and she couldn't give one so she left and it's now been almost two weeks since she left, I feel sick to my stomach litrally. She has been texting me but mostly abt what were gonna do with the apartment etc... I've never initiate contact she always contacts me first... I gave her some time to herself then I had some flowers delivered to her mums with a nice message... She texted me sayin "thanks for the flowers there lovely" and then yesterday she came round to pick some paperwork up etc.... And I thought she was being rely off with me but she had been at wrk for @ hours but I was looking good.. New clothes nice tan etc and acted like I wasn't bothered. She said u never knw what will happen in the future abd said maybe we can go out for a date after Xmas or summat. I love this girl to death she's my world and we had planned to have kids after Xmas too. I have to go back my mums as I can't afford the apartment I'm gutted... Don't knw what to do feel lost, she also acts like she dnt care but is it all a front... I NEED HELP PLS I think this will matter to you now..You better take the first step so that she will know that you're there....THERE"S NOTHING WILL HAPPEN IF YOU JUST SIT THERE AND WAITING FOR SOMEONE WILL WORK FOR YOU....
SkyEmtRN Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 Can someone just tell me if this is actually her being sorry or is she starting to regret it ? I don't knw how to read into this text. Is she pulling my strings ? Hey Danny...its me skyline1627...my account got banned becuase of "spamming" (Have no clue why) From what I been doing with my ex. I go low contact and only let her message me. I don't go out of my way to text her or anything. By doing that it shows that she is still thinking of me and has me in her mind regardless of what the thought is. In fact she even said that it is hurtful to her that I am being evasive. I would wait a while to text her. Like maybe a day or two and let her soak in her regret. If you don't respond it will hurt her more and then that's when she will really think things.
Author DannyT27 Posted November 15, 2011 Author Posted November 15, 2011 Ok thanks I might text her this " 'Yeah i wish u'd not done what uve done' but just remember I LOVE YOU and I'll always be here for you" does seem ok ? It's short,thoughtful etc... I really want to win this girl back if possible. I'm just hoping in afew short months it will hit her like a ton of bricks! Cheers
leedlee1 Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 Sending her a txt saying you love her and will always be there for her is the worst possible thing you could do right now!, Seriously i know it hurts ive been there too and if you want a real shot at getting her back then you have to leave her alone! let her figure all this out by herself she will never miss you or want you if she knows she already has you!
Author DannyT27 Posted November 15, 2011 Author Posted November 15, 2011 So should I leave it or text her summat as other members are sayin low contact
johnboyx Posted November 15, 2011 Posted November 15, 2011 Alright Danny, I'm going through exactly what you are. My gf of 5 years has ended our relationship and I'm been sending flowers, cards over the past 2 weeks. Some of my friends are saying I need to romance her and make her realise what's she's lost, others are saying I need to leave it, which I'm finding so hard! Every single second I think of her, its awful. I know times a healer but if u want her u have to fight for it, leave it a little while then start trying to show her why she fell in love with you, then at least if she still doesn't want it you can say, well I gave it my best shot! Noone will ever understand women, my gf hasn't even contacted me and she absolutely loved me to bits, she said she wants space so thats what I am trying to do. Hang out with your friends, alone time is the worst so try and keep busy. Hope it works out, I always look at the negatives, but if she doesnt want it someone else will come along when you least expect it. Trust me!
SkyEmtRN Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 So should I leave it or text her summat as other members are sayin low contact Leave it as is. Dont say that your still there for her or still love her. Let her assume what she wants becuase the mind automatically assumes the worse of all situations.
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