Relapse ...

[Buttercup84]

I was doing so well for a few weeks . I wasn't jumping around for joy or something but I felt like I was actually moving on . I didn't miss him as much and I just felt " indifferent "

 

Then I got an apointment with a pyschologist . After talking to them I just suddenly felt sad again , I do not know why . And this weekend I just felt so sluggish and over it . It is hot and sunny here and I just wanted to stay in bed .

 

I have been eating crap and not working out . I think I have eaten three packets of Oreos this weekend . I am slim , but it is already showing .

 

 

I just can't stop thinking about him and it is suddenly all so fresh again . We haven't had contact for almost a month now and it has been over for 6 months .

 

For a while the memories didn't hurt and it felt distant . Argh !

 

Thanks for listening

[wilsonx]

your welcome

[mike588]

I was doing so well for a few weeks . I wasn't jumping around for joy or something but I felt like I was actually moving on . I didn't miss him as much and I just felt " indifferent "

 

Then I got an apointment with a pyschologist . After talking to them I just suddenly felt sad again , I do not know why . And this weekend I just felt so sluggish and over it . It is hot and sunny here and I just wanted to stay in bed .

 

I have been eating crap and not working out . I think I have eaten three packets of Oreos this weekend . I am slim , but it is already showing .

 

 

I just can't stop thinking about him and it is suddenly all so fresh again . We haven't had contact for almost a month now and it has been over for 6 months .

 

For a while the memories didn't hurt and it felt distant . Argh !

 

Thanks for listening

 

It's what you said it was, a relapse, you will get over it and it's to be expected. You know my story. For the 1st time in 3 months I too feel like I'm become indifferent towards her and have been "jumping around in joy" and it feels so good!!!

 

I have to stop myself sometimes like,, omg,, is this real,, I'm over the worst?,, I've really let go? knowing that most likely I too will have a relapse someday but hopefully it won't be so bad.

 

Hang in there,it's normal,, enjoy those Oreos.

[eleanorhurting]

Hey i have been feeling that way too recently

 

But, look at it on the bright side, you didnt contact him! I think you are stronger and farther along than you think you are!

 

Like everyone else said, its normal to feel al ittle sad someitmes but just pick yourself up and you will be stronger (or at least thats what I keep telling myself).

 

I bet you thought you would never feel better and you did! It will happen again!

[lymtal1]

bc84,

 

another guy here that knows how you are feeling. you are not alone, seems to be normal for all of us. guess that is the good thing about having a "relapse", they will happen. think mine started a few weeks ago.

 

thought i was doing well, not thinking about her as much, going out with friends and actually having some fun. met a nice girl had a date and boom, i felt like all the emotions i had in the first month were back.

 

now i can't get her out of my mind and the movie is replaying itself over and over. but, it is not as bad as before. that is the good news. and this i am having to remind myself each day. i am still sleeping, i am eating, i am going out with my friends and having fun, i am working out, i am looking at the opposite sex, i am, i am and i am. think you get the picture.

 

look at your situation and recognize how much progress you have made since when. know that it will not be easy and it might be this way on and off till you get to indifferent. but i think you should also know that what you are feeling is going on within us all. hang tough and keep working on you.

[happypanda21]

I've been NC starting on the 4th week today. The first week was pretty hard and I did want to break NC but easily stopped myself. The 2nd week was fairly easy in comparison. The 3rd week was more difficult till yesterday.

 

Went on an overnight camping trip with a few of my friends, 1 of which I have had a crush on for many years. She is quite a bit younger than me but our personalities are very similar. Turned out I could barely even talk to her, cause whenever I thought about her, I started thinking about my ex and how much I miss her.

 

I know this is going to happen to me many more times. All I can say is that I am not happy with myself. I feel like I am lazy, unfocused, and not who I want to be. I know that I must work on myself, but it is just so hard!