Emilia Posted November 11, 2011 Posted November 11, 2011 So should I be super assertive with her when I see her next time? She did smile at me when we said goodbye (but no kiss), and we held eye contact for 3-4 seconds. I am starting to fall in love with her... and now we are working on a project together and I am afraid that is gonna make me get friend zoned. You might lose the contract if you get it wrong but it sounds like you don't have a choice because you really like her. I'd go for it if I were you and try my luck.
Author Johnny85 Posted November 11, 2011 Author Posted November 11, 2011 You might lose the contract if you get it wrong but it sounds like you don't have a choice because you really like her. I'd go for it if I were you and try my luck. Yea, I am just going to do it Hail Mary, here I come!! haha
yeahyeahyeah Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 A girl does not get less complicated as you get to know her more. Just sayin. All this mental jujitsu you're having to do? It sucks. I've been there myself. People know how to treat people they actually want/care about. I'd definitely pullback and stop caring so much. A good rule of thumb is to only care as much as the other person does. I know it's a little artificial but I've done the thing where I take just as long to text or call back as the other person. It's strange, but the girl starts to get quicker in her responses. It's like she realizes, oh yeah, it is sort of unpleasant when someone takes 4 days to respond. Anyways, stop caring so much. She obviously doesn't care as much as you do. And stop doing everything how she wants to do it. With that business plan, you should have told her you were busy or had errands, and so you two should change it to a different day. It's amazing sometimes how people are ignorant of what their actions look like or feel like until someone does it to them. I'd basically be looking for another girl by now and let this chick come around if she wants -- but not really care if she does or not, because she's shown she is confusing, unreliable, plays games (even though she says she doesn't, which is really a whole new level of game playing), and only likes to do things on her terms. Not an attractive person. Disclaimer: I dated a confusing girl like that (long breaks in communication, hard to get in touch with, then random bursts of interest from her) and it was miserable. She was immature and didn't know what she wanted -- at least that's my theory. It never got easier. I'd literally get headaches from trying to figure her out.
Twos Company Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 Johnny, I understand your frustration. I'm a woman and it's an eye opener to see that men fret just as much as we women do about the same relationship/ dating issues. My story of fade in/fade out guy is on here. I took control and ignored his last contact when he made yet another excuse to avoid finally meeting up (we have never met and have known each other online for over 2 years!) You are chasing your tail with this one...try to pull back and let it pan out whatever way that may be. You seem a straightforward guy who would just like to know where he stands, like I did...but this will never come form her, you make a decision of what is acceptable to you...and stick to it. You will gain some self respect fro this. From what you've said I'd say you are on her radar but not setting her alight in any way, this could change. I was once neutral about a guy I was seeing, even went as far as finishing with him as I felt a lack of attraction, he persisted and asked me out again after a few weeks apart, and that time around fell for him hard, I still can't explain my about turn. Make yourself the priority, don't play these games, it will do your head in trying to figure out what she's thinking at any given moment...reign in your temptation to second guess her, decide how much of this you are willing to put up with and if you are not getting anywhere, be prepared to walk away with your self respect intact.
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