Ex-Girlfriend with Boyfriend Me in the Middle

[WellHereGoes]

I don't normally do stuff like this, asking people for help and all. I am very shy about letting out my feelings to people I don't know, but I have no other choice. I need some help here, badly. So heres the story. I was with this girl for 2 years, we were well lets say pre-engaged, I loved her and still love her to this day with all of my heart. And I know that she loves me. But now shes with this other guy, shes been with him for 2 months now and she says shes in love with him.

 

She sees him alot and it sort of reminds me when we were together. But every since shes broken up with me, which was about 4 months ago, I cannot stop thinking about her. Every day before I go to sleep shes on my mind, every morning I wake up shes on my mind. My dreams are overrun with her and me trying to be with her. But heres something, about 4 days ago she comes over, she is still with her boyfriend and we wind up having sex. Now she tells me she loves this guy so much, and the guy even told her he wouldnt leave her even if she cheated on him. But I want her so badly, I need her.

 

I know she still has some feelings for me, when we had sex we did more then just that, we held eachother, talked, told eachother how much we missed eachother. I couldnt stop looking at her, and it seemed she couldnt stop looking at me. But then the next day, she comes over and wants to have sex again. So I told her no, because I was thinking about her boyfriend and also that she was going to see him in like 20 minutes.

 

I want to make love to her so bad, I want to feel her body so bad. I want to be in this guys position. He doesnt know me, and weve never met but I am so jealous of him, I envy the position he is in. I just need to know what to do, I cannot figure anything out. I cant get over her, I cant get her off my mind, and I still want to try and get back with her so badly but I just don't know what to do. If anyone has any opinions they are greatly appreciated.

 

-Thank you

[Mjfru]

Hey,

 

Wow your situation seems really wild. While I was reading it I was thinking to myself "wow I am going through abou the same thing" until the part about she having sex with you came up! Man I don't really know what to say.

 

You see me and my gf just split up a couple of days ago. I was going out with her for a little over 2.5 years. I really, really love her and I definetaly understand how jelous you must be. I am going crazy with the thoughts that my ex is probably flirting or dating other guys now or soon. I also can't get her off of my mind and no matter how hard I try she is still there. If my ex starting seeing someone and came to me wanting sex though, I would be a little worried. I can only think of two things though:

 

1. She is still very much in love with you and she possibly is either in love with the other guy or maybe just infatuated with him. She probably loves you more though considering you guys have a longer past together. Maybe she is just trying to decide whether or not you are the "one" or a very special guy by seeing what else there is to offer and by having sex with you, she can kind of keep in touch with you (sort of . . .)

 

2. She is just using you for sex and she really wants to be over you, but misses sex. I know this answer is a little harsh, but that may be it, although I think that my number one is more likely.

 

Wow I re-read the part about how she is dating this guy and it reminds you of when you two would hang out. It reminded me of my ex and I hanging out . . . wow I miss her just like you miss yours.

 

I know I probably aren't helping much, but keep your head up and maybe you should either try talking to her about the situation and tell her that you still love her, or try to move on and date other people. Good luck and I hope with both get our girl back.

[EnigmaXOXO]

There's really nothing to envy about this poor other guy. He's got a girlfriend who's cheating on him. Actually, this girl is cheating on you as well. I don't think either one of you are winning anything. It's a lose/lose situation.

 

I don't know how old this girl is, but then again, age seldom dictates maturity. She's playing you both, and you're too smitten to even realize it.

 

Don't play her fool, and don't participate in her games. If she really wanted to be with you, she'd leave the other boyfriend...and vice versa.

 

Meanwhile, you've made a step in the right direction by telling her "no." If I were you, I'd also get myself checked for STDs. It seems she's not very careful about what she's doing or who she's with. Its best if you look out for yourself.

 

This is not "love," this is cruel mind-f*ck. Guarantee, she's got an agenda...but it doesn't include ending up with you. My guess is that she really likes this other guy, but he's not the "push over" that you are. She may be trying to make him jealous, or setting you up to be the fall back guy in the event that he dumps her.

 

Don't play!