hurley21 Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 I don't think that I am seeing this situation clearly because I am wrapped up in infatuation, lust, hope, etc. So, please read and let me know your gut reactions, opinions, similar experiences, etc. Me: Ended a 5 year relationship back in April. It was emotionally abusive. I am happy to be out of it. Him: His wife left him in April. They are officially divorced. They had moved into a house and were planning to start to having children. She got out of the Army and just left him out of the blue. No explanation other than: this isn't what I want. He is in the Army and is up for promotion soon, so his responsibilities at work have increased BIG time. 14 hour days at work. His favorite aunt died back in July right after we first started talking. He and I met online in early July. We talked online for a week, then started talking on the phone. We spent a solid week talking to each other for hours every night. Both of us didn't sleep much or even eat dinner at night. The next week, I was coming to his town (2 hour drive from me) for a concert that my ex and I had bought tickets for back in February. So, we decided to meet up in person for the first time. We hit it off great. We ended up having sex that night. I saw him again the next two days as well. We saw each other twice after that weekend on separate occasions. He decided that he couldn't be involved with anyone, even casual dating and that he wanted to be friends. I thought I was getting blown off as just a fling. However, he kept calling about twice a week just to see how I was. 6 weeks pass- he calls and tells me that he has been casually dating people and keeps referring to me as 'friend' and says that I need to be patient with him. I was very angry that he would tell me to be patient about dating him while he dated other people. Didn't seem right. We had one final conversation about a two weeks ago. He wanted to know if I'd be moving to his town after I graduated college and what else was going on in my life- including whether or not I was dating anyone. (I'm not, btw) He left for temporary duty overseas and will return in the middle of December. What do you think? This guy, for whatever reason, has his hooks in me and despite the obvious signs of calling me friend and telling me he doesn't want to date- I still am clinging to hope about this. I don't know why.
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