redditkeet Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Hi everyone, I'm 28 years old and single (I did have a long term relationship and we wanted to get married, but we broke up recently). I notice that a lot of my colleagues and friends are married/getting married or are in serious relationships. Also, I notice most of the men I meet my age are in relationships. The ones that aren't taken are single because they just want to have 'fun' (sleep around) and don't want to commit. This is what worries me too. So I have some questions, I hope you can help me out, I just wonder if my observations/experiences are out of the ordinary - what about your male colleagues and male friends in their late 20's/early 30's? Are most of them in relationships too or do you know some/plenty who aren't? -Are they still single because they just want to 'have fun' (sleep around) or did a lot of sleeping around in their 20s? Or didn't they find the right person yet/focused on their career etc? - do you know people who met their partner in their late 20's/early 30's and are happily married now? - at what age did you meet your partner (how old was your partner when you met?) and marry? I hope you can help me, I sometimes really feel like an outcast It's like everyone around me got married in their 20's. My worries may sound ridiculous, but it's how I feel at the moment...I'd love to hear people's observations/experiences
Banlieue Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 I can relate to this so much!! I guess around late 20s it must be very hard!
jobaba Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 (edited) - what about your male colleagues and male friends in their late 20's/early 30's? Are most of them in relationships too or do you know some/plenty who aren't? I'm in my mid 30s. In my late 20s, they were mostly still single though some were married. By the early 30s, they were mostly married. A lot of the ones that aren't married by early 30s aren't in relationships either. -Are they still single because they just want to 'have fun' (sleep around) or did a lot of sleeping around in their 20s? Or didn't they find the right person yet/focused on their career etc? The ones who were single until they were in their early 30s did a lot of dating until they found something good to settle with. There are a couple of guys who are still in their 30s and single because they are having fun playing the field. Others have trouble getting women. - do you know people who met their partner in their late 20's/early 30's and are happily married now? Yes. For most of them that I can think of, this is when they met...age 28 to around 33. - at what age did you meet your partner (how old was your partner when you met?) and marry? Not applicable and may never be. Also, I'm from NYC area. People get married a lot later here. I also just noticed you were a woman asking. Yea, it's probably the same for females. There are a bunch here I know in their early 30s still frolicking around and not in any big hurry to get married. But then again, this is New York. Edited November 5, 2011 by jobaba
Author redditkeet Posted November 6, 2011 Author Posted November 6, 2011 -Are they still single because they just want to 'have fun' (sleep around) or did a lot of sleeping around in their 20s? Or didn't they find the right person yet/focused on their career etc? Depends. Most of them want to have fun/sleep around, some of them are having fun..most of them are struggling with women. Then there are a few guys who focussed on their careers and ofc some who didn't yet find the "right one" Tom the few guys who focussed on their careers and the guys who didn't yet find the right one, did they sleep around/dated a lot in the mean time? I'm in my mid 30s. In my late 20s, they were mostly still single though some were married. By the early 30s, they were mostly married. A lot of the ones that aren't married by early 30s aren't in relationships either. -Are they still single because they just want to 'have fun' (sleep around) or did a lot of sleeping around in their 20s? Or didn't they find the right person yet/focused on their career etc? The ones who were single until they were in their early 30s did a lot of dating until they found something good to settle with. There are a couple of guys who are still in their 30s and single because they are having fun playing the field. Others have trouble getting women. the guys who did a lot of dating until they found someone to settle with, did they have some serious (long term) relationships or did they have many short term relationships/one night stands etc with many different girls? the ones who have trouble getting women, why is it difficult for them? don't they meet enough women, do they have some issues etc?
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