Leegh Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 I met a guy last weekend at a bar, nothing happened, we just talked for a couple of hours at the bar. He emailed me a couple of days ago, and said that he had been really, really busy with his work, (he works in sales). At that point, I thought he wasn't interested in me, then his email said that he is off every Thursday; but yet he did not suggest getting together on his day off. If he wasn't interested in me, why would he bring that up about his work schedule (being off every Thursday), or was it just small talk? I am not sure how to proceed, as it is unclear if he was hinting at something or not. He did seem somewhat "reserved" at the bar, definitely not an outgoing type. Do you think he was just making small talk, or do you think he could have been hinting for me to suggest something on his day off? What should I do, if anything? I really did like him.
Fondue Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 I met a guy last weekend at a bar, nothing happened, we just talked for a couple of hours at the bar. He emailed me a couple of days ago, and said that he had been really, really busy with his work, (he works in sales). At that point, I thought he wasn't interested in me, then his email said that he is off every Thursday; but yet he did not suggest getting together on his day off. If he wasn't interested in me, why would he bring that up about his work schedule (being off every Thursday), or was it just small talk? I am not sure how to proceed, as it is unclear if he was hinting at something or not. He did seem somewhat "reserved" at the bar, definitely not an outgoing type. Do you think he was just making small talk, or do you think he could have been hinting for me to suggest something on his day off? What should I do, if anything? I really did like him. It most likely means that he's hinting about a possibly considering getting together on an upcoming Thursday. It's similar to when a woman says: "Yah, I got nothing going on tonight..." which often translates to: "OMG, ASK ME TO DO SOMETHING IMMEDIATELY."
carhill Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Did the guy approach you at the bar? You said you 'met'. Here's a response to the 'schedule'.... 'Hey, what a coincidence; I'm free this Thursday' Listen. Even a total dolt, if he's interested, would jump on that. I've never personally experienced a woman being that 'obvious' in her hints.
Author Leegh Posted November 5, 2011 Author Posted November 5, 2011 Thanks - all of your replies were great. Do you think if he was NOT interested that he would have said in the email what his day off was? Carhill (from sunny CA), asked if he approached me; the answer is yes he did.
carhill Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 IMO, he's interested. You've received a number of options for facilitating that interest, short of overtly expressing your own. Up to you as to what you do with it. If you have not yet replied to his e-mail, do so and invite him to call you. Simply write 'My phone number is xxxx. Please call me' That's an open invitation. If he can't execute, erase him.
ShyFrigidSkeptic Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 IMO, he's interested. You've received a number of options for facilitating that interest, short of overtly expressing your own. Up to you as to what you do with it. If you have not yet replied to his e-mail, do so and invite him to call you. Simply write 'My phone number is xxxx. Please call me' That's an open invitation. If he can't execute, erase him. I completely agree with Carhill. It really is that clear. Good luck and keep us posted!
rhenziel Posted November 7, 2011 Posted November 7, 2011 I think the fact that he mentioned his schedule is a good sign that he is interested with you. Don't rush things up! Just chill there. If he really likes you he'll find a way to be with you.
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