confused kitty Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Ok so my ex and I are going on our (second) first date tomorrow night - we both agreed we are taking things slowly and dateing again first before jumping back into a realtionship ( this is my idea, even though he was the dumper and now wants me back) i want to go slowly, build trust back up etc.. My question is, how long should I try hold out before sleeping with him?? The chemisty between us is amazing and I know as soon as he greets me Il be ready to pounce lol I love him and miss him terribly ( been a month since we seen eachother) but I dont want him to think hes forgiven that easily... How do I try to block out all the sparks and chemistry and stop myself from caveing.. especially since were going for drinks??? Really appriciate any advice on this one, Thanks in advance!
Author confused kitty Posted November 5, 2011 Author Posted November 5, 2011 Or do I just go with the flow and let it happen first time we meet up again ( tomorrow night)???
Bobby289 Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Make him wait! All this work just to go with the flow, no no no lol if he really wants YOU back then he will want more dates.
Author confused kitty Posted November 5, 2011 Author Posted November 5, 2011 Thanks BOBBY289 - Il be drinking WILPOWER on the rocks all night lol ( not my strong point I might add!!!)
Bobby289 Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Thanks BOBBY289 - Il be drinking WILPOWER on the rocks all night lol ( not my strong point I might add!!!) Willpower is a much better choice than Tequila in your situation for sure!
keepdancin Posted November 6, 2011 Posted November 6, 2011 Sleep with him when you are committed again. Until then, there are a lot of other things you can do to "have fun". Making out is awesome. Sex is also just different for women, very emotionally bonding and you don't want to go there until you know it's really worth it. It can also freak the dumper out. He dumped you because he was "confused" and this is dangerous because it can be an easy card to pull out and put away again. You gotta have some reward down the line when you guys really decide to give it another go. Grats on dating. Do take it slow.
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