When he has no time to write, what should I be talking to him?

[Mimico]

Hi,

 

My boyfriend and I have been in long distance for a year. He is not a chatty person, but when it comes to trying to work this long distance relationship out, he seems to have been making his very best efforts. But, lately, his work situation has changed and he has gotten etremely busy. He still does writes to me and calls me whatever little time he has, when he knows he won't be able to make time to write to me, he gives me a short notice, such as "I might not be able to write to you tomorrow. Will talk to you as soon as I'm done with this project.". He knows this crazy busy period should end in a few more months.

Since I've been spoiled by his daily mail. I often feel helpless. I know this is the time I do the writing for both of us - even if it could be one-way at the moment, I often need to write to him without his response, but what should I be talking about except my daily routine? Is it OK if I keep talking about what I did each day? What topic should I talk to him so that he can get his mind off his work?

[moimeme]

Don't change what you write to him - just maybe don't ask him a pile of questions since he's busy and might end up feeling guilty about not answering. Maybe send him some jokes if he likes jokes to help lighten up his day.

[Mimico]

Thank you for good advice.

 

He doesn't seem to mind receiving my e-mails even though he doesn't have enough time to concentrate on them.

 

What makes me concerned is that he's started to say "he is sorry" in his short notes.

Starting with "I'm sorry I couldn't get back to you sooner", then finishing with "I'm sorry, but I have to get back to work"

Really, he doesn't have to feel sorry at all. I completely understand his situation and all I want him to know is that I am always there for him and this temporal busy schedule of his doesn't affect our relationship at all. However, when I hear he says "sorry", it makes me feel guilty too by knowing he feels guilty.

 

Anyway, as you kindly advised, I will try by starting to try not to write a lot, not to ask him many questions. Wish me luck. Thank you.

[dyermaker]

when I hear he says "sorry", it makes me feel guilty too by knowing he feels guilty

 

I know where you've been. Tell him to stop saying it.