eleanorhurting Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 I have been in NC (except for when I have bumped into him and i have tried to keep contact as limited as possible to the point of ignoring him) since October 7th (almost 1 month!). I have been working on myself, going to a t herapist who has helped me work on some serious baggage and issues I have from my past. But today and these past few days i have missed him. He texted me thursday to ask how i was and to tell me that he hopes im ok because he hasnt heard from me in a while. I didnt reply but i guess it stayed in the back of my mind. I thought i was stronger. I dont want to miss him I dont want to be sad. I feel like im struggling so hard with two things at the same time. First dealing with my issues from the past and my codependency and now trying to get over this guy.
ChelseaLS Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 There are going to be days like this for awhile still... I know it sucks. Try doing something that requires your full attention and that is enjoyable, that makes you feel good inside.
headsashed Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Im also having a bad day today,i feel like ive wasted 2 years of my life on this girl whom doesnt seem to give a damn about me. Ive been doing everything i can to move on and i am feeling a little better but i just cant seem to stop thinking about her today. Wish i wasnt,i wish i could just get over her and stop this hurt.
mike588 Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 I have been in NC (except for when I have bumped into him and i have tried to keep contact as limited as possible to the point of ignoring him) since October 7th (almost 1 month!). I have been working on myself, going to a t herapist who has helped me work on some serious baggage and issues I have from my past. But today and these past few days i have missed him. He texted me thursday to ask how i was and to tell me that he hopes im ok because he hasnt heard from me in a while. I didnt reply but i guess it stayed in the back of my mind. I thought i was stronger. I dont want to miss him I dont want to be sad. I feel like im struggling so hard with two things at the same time. First dealing with my issues from the past and my codependency and now trying to get over this guy. It's so hard to move on when your ex. contacts you. It keeps your mind fresh on the breakup. I still have some sad days but not as many and I think that being in N.C (nothing from her too) has helped,, 3 months now.
Author eleanorhurting Posted November 5, 2011 Author Posted November 5, 2011 And it is extremely hard when you see them all the time. I am a little worried because since we began NC the last time I have been home with my parents. I am a medical student and I am doing my 3rd year rotations in another city about 2 hours away from home most of the year except for october-november. I like the other city but I think being back at home with my friends and in the fast-paced environment of the big hospital and of being in the capital city has helped me. in december i will go back to where he is, to living by myself, to a much more relaxed slow paced beachy city life which could be good if it wasnt because i'll have way more time and space to be all by myself! Im scared i will regress
leoc1973 Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Elanor. from you picture you look very beautiful. Here is my question. My ex is also an extremely attractive girl. She was still very much in love with me when we broke up. It was more of a she didn't wanna do long distance and I didn't have the cash to make the long distance thing work. Other than that she absolutely adored me. Ok so I guess my question is I hear she is going out with all these rich good looking guys. Doesn't that make it easier when you have guys constantly asking you out? I guess I am just hoping that she didn't forget about me and she will kick herself one day and wanna make it work. What is it that really makes you miss him? How do I trigger it in her?
BLuvv Posted November 6, 2011 Posted November 6, 2011 Hey Eleanor, I am hoping things start looking up soon for you. I am just completely depressed now. I know how low it can feel. I think you have been doing really well especially considering how you are stuck seeing him. So give yourself credit for being strong enough to do that. I am sure you are stronger than you know. B
Author eleanorhurting Posted November 6, 2011 Author Posted November 6, 2011 Hi! I Know I am doing so much better and I am way stronger but I still have my moments. But you are right I have come a long way and I am sure you have too B! Just think about how he is no longer playing with your feelings all the time and how you are taking control of your life even if you are temporarily very sad. To Leo, you know what i really need to change my picture. It does not represent my current under-eyed circles being. Either way, sure, getting hit on is a temporary ego boost but that is all it is. It can be a curse because when you are stuck on someone and people hit on you for the wrong reasons you can get frustrated and miss what you had even more. Besides, I no longer even give the time of the day to anyone who tries to get close to me. Im too hurt and too scarred and i wont let anyone come near me. When you're heartborken, you're heartbroken. If you pretend you are not and hide in "attention" from other people you are going to end up in worse shape than you started. Trust me, I know.
ChelseaLS Posted November 6, 2011 Posted November 6, 2011 I get the whole it's hard to move on when you see them all the time. I see my ex just about everyday, 5 out of 7 days... Because we work at the same firm. I try to make the best of it showing him each of those 5 days that I am doing just fine. It's just one of those things... You can do it!
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