would you consider dating someone outside of your racial or religious prefference?

[amyleefan1]

My mom's family is muslim but they all married christian except my mom and closest aunt in age. Before my youngest cousin was born I was the only kid being raised a muslim completely. My mom was never very religious. She'd be the kind when I was a toddler to where shorts not pray not drink or have sex out of marri&ge. But I learned what to believe and what was right and wrong. I am so grateful to be the one to have held on to the religion because it's the only one that makes sense to me. Well I had realizzed in my early teens I had been attracted to men of either african american descent or tamil indians mainly darker ones. I'm mauritian and trinidadian which is afro-indian and carribean indian. I have tamil indian ancestry in both sides. Thing is most Tamil indians aren't muslim and neither are black americans. And when some are they usually are more interested in girls within their culture. I'm not into foreign cultures. Reason why I at first dated guys that were african american. When I was 18 I married a guy who was catholic. He was of african and puerto rican descent. I soon realized we weren't compatible. We had the same culture but religious difference were too large. When I got pregnant I didn't want him to know so he wouldn't influence our child. We ended up divorcing and now I've been for 4 years totally single raising a child alone. I have dated but feel like with an african american guy they would end up like the last guy did. And I just don't last with guys who are foreign or of other races within my religious background. I feel like I'll never find a guy meant for me. What would you do if you were me?

[aj22one]

Well there's a lot of African American guys who are Muslim, especially in the U.S. (most Muslims in the U.S. are black actually). Why don't you just look for one of them? Enroll in university (like a class or two) and go to one of the MSA meetings. That's a great way to meet people.

 

For the record, I'm dating a Muslim woman myself (Pakistani-American) and I personally prefer Middle Eastern/Indian women, even though I'm white and Christian. You gotta do what you gotta do sometimes.

 

Good luck.

[amyleefan1]

actually 34% of all muslims are south asian. 26% are arab and 25% are black the rest is something else. But it always seems around here all are some sort of christian here. Idk why none of them are in my area at all it seems.