thebig-guy Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Well its been over a month and a half since being dumped. and my ex finally cut all ties yesterday by blocking me on facebook. I noticed that she had done it this morning and was in shock so i rang her... Obviously the convo got nowhere but the more i give in to this dark desire to speak to her, the more i feel like im totally dissrespecting myself. Is anyone in the same position? I havent cried over her for about a week and suddenly after hearing her voice again i choked. I honestly feel like there isnt anyone else in the world i would rather spend my life with, even though i know shes not right for me Sorry for pouring my heart out but just getting it all off my chest before i face the public today x
mike588 Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Well its been over a month and a half since being dumped. and my ex finally cut all ties yesterday by blocking me on facebook. I noticed that she had done it this morning and was in shock so i rang her... Obviously the convo got nowhere but the more i give in to this dark desire to speak to her, the more i feel like im totally dissrespecting myself. Is anyone in the same position? I havent cried over her for about a week and suddenly after hearing her voice again i choked. I honestly feel like there isnt anyone else in the world i would rather spend my life with, even though i know shes not right for me Sorry for pouring my heart out but just getting it all off my chest before i face the public today x How long did you date? Why did she dump you?
Author thebig-guy Posted November 5, 2011 Author Posted November 5, 2011 one year, dumped me after working 8 months abroad. shes home now. dump was due to her finding someone else (i think). but she wont admit it.
mike588 Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 one year, dumped me after working 8 months abroad. shes home now. dump was due to her finding someone else (i think). but she wont admit it. That's gotta be tough being apart for 8 months. I personally don't call that much of a relationship,,dating one year then 8 months apart.sorry. Hopefully this wont be to hard on you because you have already been apart for so long,,I still know it's tough regardess. If she met someone else abroad I assume she's going back? if not how can she have a "real relationship" with this new guy?
Author thebig-guy Posted November 5, 2011 Author Posted November 5, 2011 nah wasnt much of a relationship. just made the times we were together more meaningful though. i dont know whether her little thing with this other guy will work but she is going to work there next year so we would have never had a future. Just cant explain how frustrated i am at keeping my dignity. i seem to throw it away every time i speak to her.
mike588 Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 nah wasnt much of a relationship. just made the times we were together more meaningful though. i dont know whether her little thing with this other guy will work but she is going to work there next year so we would have never had a future. Just cant explain how frustrated i am at keeping my dignity. i seem to throw it away every time i speak to her. Why don't you email her telling her how you feel,what you want/expect in the relationship (if you haven't already)and leave it at that. You will have "cleared the air" expressed your desires and now it's up to her, the balls in her corner now. Then go strict N.C. In the mean time try to move on with your life, leave her alone, don't bug her,, maybe she will come around later if that's what she wants.It's so hard to have a meaningful relationship if your other is going to be away for extended periods of time. If your so frustrated about not keeping your dignity then quit calling her, send her that last email I spoke of expressing what you want/feel. An email is /can be so emotionless,,, if you talk to her directly then all the emotions start flying and you could get all upset hearing her voice etc. Keep it short , to the point, don't beg or plead,,,, again, express your feelings and LEAVE IT AT THAT,,, DO NOT contact her again. There's nothing else more you can do. It's her choice now,,, Move on!!
Author thebig-guy Posted November 5, 2011 Author Posted November 5, 2011 thanks for that mate. i think i will leave it now though ive already sent one of those messages... about 3 times! what an idiot. ive realised calling her puts me back at square one, i was well onto getting over her before this morning!
betterdeal Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Best thing you can do is lose her number right now. And change yours. And get down the gym and work up a sweat. I like yoga, especially hot yoga for a good mind-rinsing. You're doing fine. If it wasn't for modern technology, you'd be doing better, so it's environmental not personal, this problem. Read the link in my signature for an idea of what I think losing contact is. Hang in there, bro.
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