kinjiro Posted May 21, 2004 Posted May 21, 2004 i met a girl *Stephanie* 5 months ago, i was dating one of her friends *val* at the time, we went to a club and she had gotten drunk and i caught her with another guy, anyway, i pretended like it didn't affect me, and just smiled and left em to it, my friends saw it all and laughed in my face... so i sat and watched the dancefloor... enter steph into my life... she asked me if i was ok, and she kissed me just out of the blue and said she really likes me, ok given the credit she was drunk also, but we arranged to meet the night after in the same club and for a while she seemed nevous about things and i put my arm around her and kissed her. she opened up after that and we arranged to get to know eachother, and exchanged phone numbers. we did lots of things together, holidays and we were happy, but recently she told me i had changed and that she wasn't happy about some things... we talked about it and she broke up with me, she told me she still loves me and wants me to stay in her life, now i love her with all my heart and i really want her back, i will do everything possible to make her feel the way i used to... she told me that she needs time to think about us and that for the moment she doesn't want me back, because she feels she'd only be doing that to make me feel better... but i think that, if she really loves me too wouldn't she be doing it for her too? when we first started dating we talked about our past and told everything... i haven't had a lot of luck with relationships, and i told her about my ex and that i would never take a ex back, but i really really want to have her back, she knows how i feel about this, what can i do? people tell you all the time, don't worry about it, plenty more fish in the sea etc... etc... but i just want the one i love, not to meet someone new as i will be hurt and ruin another relantionship if i got into one... i just really want to know if i have a chance...
G-Man Posted May 21, 2004 Posted May 21, 2004 I'll be honest with you dude. It sounds like what you guys had was a fling and not a real relationship. She was probably lonely/horny and saw you were vulnerable after watching your previous GF with another guy. Unfortunatley, it doesn't sound like she's interested in a serious relationship and there's not much you can do about that. Be grateful that she was around to take your mind off your ex-GF though. At least you didn't have to dump her and be alone. You both got something out of it.
hurtingandconfused Posted May 21, 2004 Posted May 21, 2004 people tell you all the time, don't worry about it, plenty more fish in the sea etc... etc... but i just want the one i love This is not true you want the one that you cannot have. You think you have her, but she jumps out of the boat. The "big one" that is really for you is out in the sea, you just have to search and search well. Forget her man, move on.
kinjiro Posted May 22, 2004 Posted May 22, 2004 believe me when i tell you we were really in love and not a fling, she told me today (Saturday) that she still loves me and is hurting and feels bad, she mailed me and told me that she just needs time to think about us... maybe there is hope, but i'm not gonna get my hopes up just in case she don't want me back... but i don't really want to play the field again as yet... she didn't play me when we first got together, she was legit and i totally felt good by her, we had a few arguments but what relationship doen't??? what i really feel is that she was afraid of commitment, cuz she aslo felt trapped but i let her do what she wanted, she went out with her friends, ok i admit i worried about her going to a club with her friends, after being a bouncer and a barman in a club i've seen what some girls in relationships do... i say some, because not all are like that, but i'm sure that you guys who really love you partner must have that slight feeling even though you trust her... she tells me that she needs time, so when she decides and gives her final answer i'll go from there and play the field and get wasted like i used to and party, but i'll aways have her in my mind... i don't know, i'll just leave her to think and let her make all the moves and i'll text her when she asks me to
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